I have no problem forgiving people. I can do it almost immediately with douchey exes and in more serious cases, people who have really done me harm.
I don't think forgiving someone means you aren't still hurt by an action, it just means you're no longer angry about a situation. How could you wait til you're not hurting anymore to forgive someone? It doesn't make sense to me. I need to forgive someone to start to heal, not heal to forgive.
I don't stay angry because there's just no point. Anger always does more harm to you than it does to someone else. You pick up a hot coal because you want to throw it at someone else and your hand is still the one that got burned.
for me hurt and anger go hand in hand though.
When you're not hurt, there is then room to realize why that person did what they did, then maybe you can open it up to forgive.
If you can release anger, you're truly lucky. Anger is poison.
for me hurt and anger go hand in hand though.
When you're not hurt, there is then room to realize why that person did what they did, then maybe you can open it up to forgive.
If you can release anger, you're truly lucky. Anger is poison.