Is everything forgivable?

[wootoom]

You're dead to me

sorry bro, ill try!!!

 

[miplank]

I stay hurt for a while, angry not long at all and barely ever.

Nobody asked you.

 

[-SD-]

sorry bro, ill try!!!

make pics happen or get your ass to mars

 

[smurf2]

Fuck that. A little hatred and anger never hurt anyone. There's one person I probably won't ever fully forgive and I'm ok with that.

 

[cindylou]

I stay hurt for a while, angry not long at all and barely ever.

Yeah, I don't stay angry for long either. I can let hurt go pretty easily too, I think.

But that part of my personality has been targeted by sketchy types too, so I'm not sure that's a good thing anymore. Anger can be good. Hate can be good. It can protect you, but once it's done it's job protecting you it can turn around and destroy you if you don't find ways to let it go. I don't like to play around with apathy. That might work for some people but I don't want anything or anyone to change who I am and that is not apathetic.

You really do have to feel all the hurt before you truly forgive someone that's really seriously hurt you though. That is really the only way that it works. Most anger is just hurt. If you're still angry you're still hurting from something and if you think you can just forget about it and shove it away somewhere that crap will pop up somewhere else, imo.

I'm talking about serious stuff too, childhood physical and sexual abuse, physically and psychologically abusive relationships and co-workers, infidelity, etc.

 

[cindylou]

Blue, try praying to your higher power every day FOR this person to get better, or just for this person in general. I find it hard to believe that by doing that over time you won't forgive them. good luck

 

[javaguru]

Fuck that. A little hatred and anger never hurt anyone. There's one person I probably won't ever fully forgive and I'm ok with that.

I've never understood the hatred thing...I think the hatred card is used too casually; To me hatred means you would wish the person dead or kill them yourself if you could. The worst I feel is a little anger for how I was treated by the Army, not anything toward the Colonel that gave the scholarship to a Brigadiers son in the hope of getting out of TRADOC or the drill sergeants in BCT that indoctrinated us...or even the militarism I was raised with thanks to the "family tradition." In retrospect, I realize my father made a rebellious play by joining the navy instead of the Army like his brothers.

I can't say that I have ever felt hatred.

 

[Musclemama]

There are def things that are not forgivable .

 

[EnderJE]

Sure, but it depends on the person. Not everyone can forgive.

 

[juiceddreadlocks]

nope...

agreed.