Internet Romance

[Tatyana]

I have met someone, sort of by accident on line, through a BBing forum.

We have known each other for two years, bouncing comments off each other, we have had a shared blog on one site for eight months.

We have recently started to MSN and last night we spent five hours, FIVE HOURS on the phone (thank goodness I am not studying right now).

We really click, right now I am trying to view it as a friendship, but I think I am really falling for him.

We will meet in six months, he lives a LONG way away from me, and we have left it quite casual, as you don't really know if you will click in real life, although I do know that we will be friends, enjoy each other's company and have fun while I am visiting.

I think that meeting someone this way is great, as you do get to know them, their personality, everything about them, without the whole temptation of getting physical too soon.

Has anyone else had a similar experience?

Any words of wisdom?

 

[Thandie]

I have met someone, sort of by accident on line, through a BBing forum.

We have known each other for two years, bouncing comments off each other, we have had a shared blog on one site for eight months.

We have recently started to MSN and last night we spent five hours, FIVE HOURS on the phone (thank goodness I am not studying right now).

We really click, right now I am trying to view it as a friendship, but I think I am really falling for him.

We will meet in six months, he lives a LONG way away from me, and we have left it quite casual, as you don't really know if you will click in real life, although I do know that we will be friends, enjoy each other's company and have fun while I am visiting.

I think that meeting someone this way is great, as you do get to know them, their personality, everything about them, without the whole temptation of getting physical too soon.

Has anyone else had a similar experience?

Any words of wisdom?

First I want to start by saying that it's great you met someone whom you have a connection with. It really doesn't happen often; and spending 5 hours talking is just awesome. I remember doing that not so far long ago. However, I'm from NY and we're very careful and suspecious. My advise is to let him come to meet you in your enviroment, not YOU going some place far away without knowing if you two are going to click IN PERSON as you have on line, which is not the same.
You really don't know this person and for all intent and purposes he can be the best thing that walked to this earth, but better be safe then sorry. Please consider him coming to you and let a friend know where you're meeting and details about it.

I really, really, really hope is nothing, but I want you to be safe.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I met my Old Grump online. We got married on our third date - definitely NOT something that either one of us advise that you try at home. LOL We were both older, married, had kids, been through the divorce ringer/custody battles, etc, etc etc. But most importantly, we were VERY experienced internet daters.

Caution is the word of the day, especially since you've not had an internet relationship before. The fact that it has germinated over the course of such a good length of time is in your favor, most definitely. However, that doesn't mean that he is who he says he is, especially if he has a strong online persona on bbing forums.

I lived a REALLY REALLY BAD experience of exactly that nature. I fell in love with a man's online persona and talked myself into believing that the man I met IRL was who I fell in love with. NOT.

Ironically enough I'd only met and fallen in love with two Rangers. I married THE REAL MAN.

Goodness, I really do have to stop dragging my feet and get my online dating book out there already.

 

[Tatyana]

His online persona is not really representative of who he is, he is very funny and a bit outrageous on-line (public).

I saw through the persona ages ago and we started conversing like real people some time ago as well.

I will be cautious, but I have met quite a few people that I know from BBing forums IRL, not romantically though.


I don't know if we will be able to meet for another six months, I am looking into various possibilities to be able to go sooner, but I also have a trip to the States to see my parents in three months.

LOL, married on the third date. That is awesome.

One of us would have to immigrate if things worked out.

I have immigrated before, and as much as I love England, I would move.

I could also take a one year sabatical from my job, so I could go and see if I like living in this other country, test the waters so to speak.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

I have been there done that bottom line is most likely you will click in person. Then your left with the tortures of an LD not saying it can not work just odds are against it working IMO.

 

[the_alcatraz]

I met my wife online. We had a long distance relationship for a while and then we got together.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

I met my wife online. We had a long distance relationship for a while and then we got together.

This is girl talk my dear you have a penis just saying

 

[Bikini Mod]

I have been there done that bottom line is most likely you will click in person. Then your left with the tortures of an LD not saying it can not work just odds are against it working IMO.

But even when you click, is that real?

That is what I am trying to say. The first ranger I met with, yea we clicked, but bigtime. Too bad it took me close to two years to realize he was not who I had fallen in love with AT ALL, but only his online persona that he tried like a mofo to live up to in real time.

Me and my husband both, we were EXACTLY who we portrayed ourselves to be online. He was THE REAL MAN that I married... the REAL RANGER... not the online one. LOL

 

[Thandie]

But even when you click, is that real?

That is what I am trying to say. The first ranger I met with, yea we clicked, but bigtime. Too bad it took me close to two years to realize he was not who I had fallen in love with AT ALL, but only his online persona that he tried like a mofo to live up to in real time.

Me and my husband both, we were EXACTLY who we portrayed ourselves to be online. He was THE REAL MAN that I married... the REAL RANGER... not the online one. LOL

That is also what I was trying to say as well. What he says he is, most likely is not, BIG TIME!

 

[ironwings]

Just FYI... I have met many on line and have never had a bad experience - but I'm sure I am lucky. I met my bf online and the beauty of it is that we could be real with each other because we had no conception of ever being together - we were not on a dating site. It was great - I knew so much about him that I wouldn't have known if we were to have met conventionally.

Always be safe.