I'm pretty sure I know what advice I'm going to give, but would like to hear your take...

[Basikstylz]

Re: I'm pretty sure I know what advice I'm going to give, but would like to hear your

I thank you all for the advice, and took your words into consideration... I am not a relationship guru, or even novice, so I didn't know what to tell her, most of my relationships were pretty mild and my longest relationship was less than 2 years, and I'm 30 so, I am not an expert in telling people how to establish a long term one...
That said, I told her this morning while she was at work, and while I wasn't hehehe, that at 28, and she's looking for a stable dude, that ultimatum's... like Smurf said, are not the way to go... she a hawtie, and will have not have any problems, however, I told her if he is escaping 24 hours a day, then something is not right psychologically with him. Don't get me wrong I occasionally smoke out, not ashamed of that... I got my shit together, however, I refuse to smoke in the day, just feels wrong... but i do so to chill out and it is a form of escape or distraction... and its not vitamin c, it doesn't improve my shit or anything like that... this I know. Sometimes, it may add to my creativity, but not alway.

I told her, that she should listen to what her intuition tells her and not me or her friends... however, it sounds like she wants to establish something solid, and it also sounds like she really likes him other than pot smoking, so I told her, with the knowledge that she actually thinks I'm may have a tiny bit of knowledge, which I really don't in relationships, that it would be best to move on and find someone else because dude who smokes 24/7 appears to have the disposition to escape from his conscious... and if there is something eating at him all the time, this is a person who needs to work on that and really can't be responsible or even trusted to build a longterm commitment out of... I mean she knows this cognitively, no surprise, but it never surprises me that once our emotions are involved how we throw logic right out the window... I do this anyway. You guys gave great advice and I'm grateful for all of you taking the time to listen to me. Now its time to me to return to my schedule of reading, getting out of shape, taken the last 4 weeks off of working out, and a whole lot of Couch Love...

I don't know if I agree with everything you said. Just cuz he smokes 24/7 doesn't mean he has some disposition. Maybe he just likes being Fadded all day. How many people in here love to go to the gym everyday? How many people spend hrs at the gym everyday? He may just be partaking in something he loves or enjoys. You only think there’s an issue because its a drug. (I could get into a whole MJ debate with you but that’s not what this is about.)

Everyone has already said the Ultimatum is a bad idea. Which is correct. The real issue is if she can't deal with him smoking then she shouldn't be with him. If she doesn't mind it, but she just doesn't understand why he is always high then she should talk to him, and if she doesn't care that he is there is no issue.

But you really have no reasoning to say anything about him or his personal issues just because he smokes all the time. I have friends that are like that and are completely functional and some are the coolest/chillest (not surprising) guys I know.

 

[Smurfy]

Re: I'm pretty sure I know what advice I'm going to give, but would like to hear your

I don't know if I agree with everything you said. Just cuz he smokes 24/7 doesn't mean he has some disposition. Maybe he just likes being Fadded all day. How many people in here love to go to the gym everyday? How many people spend hrs at the gym everyday? He may just be partaking in something he loves or enjoys. You only think there’s an issue because its a drug. (I could get into a whole MJ debate with you but that’s not what this is about.)

Everyone has already said the Ultimatum is a bad idea. Which is correct. The real issue is if she can't deal with him smoking then she shouldn't be with him. If she doesn't mind it, but she just doesn't understand why he is always high then she should talk to him, and if she doesn't care that he is there is no issue.

But you really have no reasoning to say anything about him or his personal issues just because he smokes all the time. I have friends that are like that and are completely functional and some are the coolest/chillest (not surprising) guys I know.

hey guys
i think this basikstylz guy is high right now

 

[jnevin]

Re: I'm pretty sure I know what advice I'm going to give, but would like to hear your

hey guys
i think this basikstylz guy is high right now

Weed cures cancer, heart disease, gout, cholera, teh herp, and even death.

 

[walliwalibus]

helps with glocoma (sp?) too.......... also, hunger problems, and even opens the doors to a whole array of other drugs that we wouldn't have tried if we didn't smoke some good sheot man.

 

[Basikstylz]

Re: I'm pretty sure I know what advice I'm going to give, but would like to hear your

hey guys
i think this basikstylz guy is high right now

HAHA, not exactly. I do like to partake on occasion. But deff not at the moment.

 

[ricco561]

Re: I'm pretty sure I know what advice I'm going to give, but would like to hear your

Weed cures cancer, heart disease, gout, cholera, teh herp, and even death.

World peace......world poverty...............natural disasters...............

 

[jnevin]

Re: I'm pretty sure I know what advice I'm going to give, but would like to hear your

World peace......world poverty...............natural disasters...............

It basically makes the impossible possible. I swam up niagra falls last time I "took the pot".

 

[ricco561]

Re: I'm pretty sure I know what advice I'm going to give, but would like to hear your

It basically makes the impossible possible. I swam up niagra falls last time I "took the pot".

I f**ked all the hot chicks on EF, last time.

 

[jnevin]

Re: I'm pretty sure I know what advice I'm going to give, but would like to hear your

I f**ked all the hot chicks on EF, last time.

Seashell too?

<<jealous

 

[ricco561]

Re: I'm pretty sure I know what advice I'm going to give, but would like to hear your

Seashell too?

<<jealous

All dem.
and then again..............and again...............