I want to fall in love..........sigh

[casavant]

I think one of the reasons that I'm not terribly motivated to date or take initiative in asking women out is that even though I would like the companionship and intimacy, and possibly even love, that may come from a resulting relationship, it seems almost inevitable that things will go sour or become incredibly stressful at some point (especially at my age of 22). I'm not sure if the cost/benefit ratio weighs out in my favor right now. I think someone said that it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all, and maybe that's true, but for now I'll let sleeping dogs lie. What will be, will be, but for the time being I would like to keep my distance from situations that have such potential to devastate.

 

[biteme]

It's weird how shit works out. I was in love with a chick, we dated 2+ yrs... I gave her the boot, I was the asshole... She found someone some time later and i still havent.. This is like 3 years later and NOW I AM miserable about it all the time, because I feel like I miss that and will never be able to find what we had ever again.. It's a damn shitty feeling. But ya know, eventaully everything will fall into place....

And no, I don't believe in fate. Niehter do I believe we have total control over our destiny, who we fall in love with.... So there inlies the problem, I can't even control my own shit!! Fuck, porn time!

A/C

You deserve your misery for giving her the boot. She invested 2 and half years with you and you threw it all away. Of course, given a little more time she may have done it to you.

 

[marky]

No. At the time you gave her the boot you knew there was enough wrong that it couldnt be a permanent thing. Ive been there. The after feelings are just the void left. Its not your ex, just a space youve created that now needs to be filled. But not by your ex, by someone who'll be right for you. I was 7 years and
did the boot, actually I walked away because she was paralyzed when it came to acting or making a decision. So I was gone.

 

[Alex Cross]

You deserve your misery for giving her the boot. She invested 2 and half years with you and you threw it all away. Of course, given a little more time she may have done it to you.

No your wrong.. You see, I was just the one who was able to step up and say- It's time..... You see, the relationship had been headed for the crapper for almost a year. But when you are with someone this long, you get used to being with then. No matter what happens, the are always there for you. Always there, no matter what... And even though you may not be able to stand that person, they fill the space that you so desperatly need... However, it got so out of hand.. her and her bitching, me and my "being an asshole." that i had to say, "hey, this is out of hand- ENOUGH IS ENOUGH." we moved on, and out 'quality of life' is much better now. i might miss her, yeah......but all in hindsight my friend.... i say- hey i miss her i shouldnt have done it...but truth be told, if we were still together one of us would probly be dead!!!!!

A/C

 

[PlateheadJim]

Ohhhhhhhhh

shit... forgot what I was going to say... I think my clomid is taking it's toll.