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I want to fall in love..........sigh
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I've always become friends (3mo-1yr) with someone before I even started dating them. It helps to get to know them w/o any pressure of the whole "dating" thing and also lays down a very solid foundation for when you do take the next step. You're already friends so you know if you'd want to date this person or not. Its worked really well for me so far. Im on speaking terms with all of my ex's except for one and she's a druggie whore now so no loss there.
Another thing about being "in love" is that people confuse the hormonal rush you get when in a new relationship for "love". I frequently watch The Learning Channel (ya ya ya, flame me for being a dork) and they were talking about all the chemicals (dopamine, norepinepherine, seratonin, etc) that get released when in that new relationship and as soon as that wears off (up to 6mo or so) you somehow myseteriously fall out of "love". And on to the next and the cycle repeats.
To me, love is when you know in your heart you'd rather die than live the rest of your life without this person, when you're so angry at them you can only see red but still underneath that is love for them, love is caring for them more than yourself and wanting to make them happy because it makes you happy...I could keep going but I think you get my point. You'll know when you're in love and its genuine.
Another thing about being "in love" is that people confuse the hormonal rush you get when in a new relationship for "love". I frequently watch The Learning Channel (ya ya ya, flame me for being a dork) and they were talking about all the chemicals (dopamine, norepinepherine, seratonin, etc) that get released when in that new relationship and as soon as that wears off (up to 6mo or so) you somehow myseteriously fall out of "love". And on to the next and the cycle repeats.
To me, love is when you know in your heart you'd rather die than live the rest of your life without this person, when you're so angry at them you can only see red but still underneath that is love for them, love is caring for them more than yourself and wanting to make them happy because it makes you happy...I could keep going but I think you get my point. You'll know when you're in love and its genuine.
Raina said:
Agreed!!! The best is when you can feel blissful and understood just snuggled up next to someone-- or cracking up at the same time without a word being said because you just know what the other person is thinking. There's no better feeling-- but I think a lot of people get so caught up in worrying about not feeling like that, they miss out on special every day moments.
People spend so much time worryin about things that dont really mean anything in the long run. Gotta have ALOT of money. Gotta own a cool car...but you can only keep it a year or two so you always have the latest model. Gotta have the biggest HOUSE...but they forget that a HOME is much more important.
Hows that for a tangent....
When you snuggle up next to someone and they make just a subtle sound of contentment...and you know that they feel safe and loved in your arms. There are no words to express it. Even the word LOVE can seem small when compared to a moment like that...a moment of completeness.
Hannibal-- I know what you mean. Sometimes love doesn't seem like it explains the feelings well enough. I say things like "I love ice cream". I really shouldn't do that...kind of cheapens the word.
Some experiences transcend words completely-- but the memories pop into your head, your eyes soften, and you smile with contentment. No words needed.
Some experiences transcend words completely-- but the memories pop into your head, your eyes soften, and you smile with contentment. No words needed.
The people you love the most also have the power to hurt you the most..Being in love is prob the best feeling where getting your heart broken is the worst, the two seem to go hand in hand...I never ever wnat to go through heart break again so Im for sure not quick to wanna be in love again any time soon
Love is also indescribablye, alls I can say is it will change you and you'll do things and think thiongs you normally wouldn't
Love is also indescribablye, alls I can say is it will change you and you'll do things and think thiongs you normally wouldn't
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Frackal
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Heartbreak is some serious shit...could kill a person.
Frackal said:
Yea I wanted to die, I almost got close to alchohol poisoning, I did pass out, couldn't walk, threw up, extremely drunk trying to deal, then I found myself trying to steer into trees or walls, still hurts but better...getting shot sounds better to me then getting heartbroken
polarpixie
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Being in love is a smorgasboard of emotions...Every event, every emotion is intensified when you are in love...For me, it was like being high all the time, and living without it now is like going thru withdrawl every single day.
I would like to be in love again....if only I can find that perfect imperfect guy who can always wrangle a smile out of me, who likes to share his thoughts with me and wants to know what I think, who sings to me, who I find completely irresistible...who lives only in my thoughts. *sigh*
I would like to be in love again....if only I can find that perfect imperfect guy who can always wrangle a smile out of me, who likes to share his thoughts with me and wants to know what I think, who sings to me, who I find completely irresistible...who lives only in my thoughts. *sigh*
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