I need some help bro's, my wife had cheated on me.

[Machiavellian Muscle]

It all goes down to trust. Do your due dilligence and come to a conclusion yes I can trust her or no I cannot. Stick to the decision or you will beat youself up for no reason. Remember from what info you have given you were not in the wrong.

The only thing that sucks that if in another 10 years you are kicking yourself in the ass for giving her another chance and potentially ruining some new experiences.

 

[Frackal]

6 months is a long fucking time

 

[JohnyJuice]

Another reason I am appearing soft up front is so I can queitly rearrange my assets and buisness out of harms way...

Absolutly. Get this done immediatly. Then when she tries to take it, it will be even harder. Especially due to the fac that the split was due to infedelity. That shit bangs you out in court. And i agree with what was said earlier. 6 months is bullshit. That is an affair, not momentary piss poor judgement. And so what her grandfather died? Since when does that mean "hey, i am upset, let me go fuck sme other dudes." So what happens when someone else dies??

 

[big_bad_buff]

turn it around and she would dump your ass so fast. devorce her and move on. you are not a man if you can't do this!

 

[Machiavellian Muscle]

Divorces are exspensive. But they are worth it!!!

 

[THeMaCHinE]

Visit the link in my signature and spend a lot of time there, there is also a great board over there for these types of things too, but read all of the info and the infidelity section.

After you are done spending time there, schedule yourself for the Marriage Builders weekend they host (which is followed by a 12-week course in which you two will complete assignments designed to repair your damaged relationship).

Get yourself into individual counseling; insurance will cover it. Encourage her to do the same. Once you have been in individual counseling for awhile, have your docter diagnose you with adjustment disorder so that you can qualify for couples counseling together on your insurance.

In addition to reading the MB site, pick up a couple books right now: Surviving an Affair, Dr. William F. Hartley; Relationship Rescue, Dr. Phil; Love Must be Tough, James Dobson.

Spend a lot of extra time with your kids and do not get into fights out of pain and the desire to inflict pain. Give without expecting back. If you want to keep it together, that is your choice, but it is very hard and you will both need to put in the work. Marriage Builders is fucking fantastic for this.

P.S. Do not feel odd about wanting to keep your relationship together. This happens most of the time in these situations. It is not unnatural.

 

[Austin316]

I could never forgive or forget, I would of probably knocked her ass out aftershe told me the story of her "mistake"

I do think it is a good idea if possible to make some of yor assets dissapear and what not, save ur ass don't let the whore take u to the cleaners financially as well as emotionally..I dunno dude I think once a cheater alwasy a cheater and if she cheats again u have no right to be all upset and beat up because well like said earlier

hurt me once shame on you, hurt me twice shame on me!

 

[ariolanine]

Another reason I am appearing soft up front is so I can queitly rearrange my assets and buisness out of harms way...

Why? Just tell her she can leave quietly and see the kids on the weekend or you will put her through a hellish divorce at the same time telling your kids, her family, her friends, her employer why you are getting divorced. That might get her attention.

 

[Spectre]

Visit the link in my signature and spend a lot of time there, there is also a great board over there for these types of things too, but read all of the info and the infidelity section.

After you are done spending time there, schedule yourself for the Marriage Builders weekend they host (which is followed by a 12-week course in which you two will complete assignments designed to repair your damaged relationship).

Get yourself into individual counseling; insurance will cover it. Encourage her to do the same. Once you have been in individual counseling for awhile, have your docter diagnose you with adjustment disorder so that you can qualify for couples counseling together on your insurance.

In addition to reading the MB site, pick up a couple books right now: Surviving an Affair, Dr. William F. Hartley; Relationship Rescue, Dr. Phil; Love Must be Tough, James Dobson.

Spend a lot of extra time with your kids and do not get into fights out of pain and the desire to inflict pain. Give without expecting back. If you want to keep it together, that is your choice, but it is very hard and you will both need to put in the work. Marriage Builders is fucking fantastic for this.

P.S. Do not feel odd about wanting to keep your relationship together. This happens most of the time in these situations. It is not unnatural.

I strongly desire to save my marriage, yet I don't want to hurt myself in the long run either. Thanks for the input., I will read it and so will she...

 

[Spectre]

turn it around and she would dump your ass so fast. devorce her and move on. you are not a man if you can't do this!

I honestly don't think she would, actually it's far easier to run than stay. But I'm picking up what your saying bro.