I need some help bro's, my wife had cheated on me.

[JohnyJuice]

agreed, Don't think this shits your fault either.

Agreed. I dont care what Bikini up there says, you are not to blame. If you treated her like garbage or something, could understand her wanting a divorce. but this wasnt the case. She met some dude she wanted to fuck, did it for a long time, and bullshitted you about it. And she blames it on her grand dad dying. Fuck that. And by the way, fuck all that "think of the kids" shit. She didnt care about anyone but herself when she was getting boned. She put her getting a nut off above you and her children. So dont stay together. You are never going to be happy. She is going to do it again. your kids are going to grow up in a messed up house hold. Get divorced, keep the kids out of it. Getting divorced doesnt neccesarily mean fucking the kids up. One of the parents usually does that to win them over, its not the divorce itself.

 

[dballer]

I am telling you.... treat her to a round of buckshot!!! or do what my friend Eugene did to his slutbag wife.. and kill this scumbag fucker with her watching.

 

[big_bad_buff]

6 months she lied to you!! 6 months she was sleeping with another man. 6 months of betrayal, 6 months of not giving a shit if she gave you some disease, SIX MONTHS!!!!!!!!! that is half a year of sleeping with another man. think about it!!

 

[Bikini Mod]

You guys are fucking funny. Here this guy comes with a real problem that involves HIS ENTIRE FAMILY and the best 99% of you could come up with is "FUCK THAT WHORE!"?!

Are you people retarded? While she may have cheated and most likely totally destroyed their marriage and I am not in any way, shape or form condoning what she did, the simple fact remains that IT TAKES TWO! I highly doubt that Spectre is TOTALLY SHOCKED that this happened... IT TAKES TWO. I don't think that her grandfather dying had JACK SHIT to do with why she cheated (again - please don't say that I am condoning what she did - BECAUSE I AM NOT!). I think it (and I could be wrong) had more to do with him emotionally abandoning her long before she ever THOUGHT TO CHEAT, coupled with the fact that SHE IS A GOOD MOTHER - Spectre is TRYING TO BE A MAN AND DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR HIS FAMILY - and not just satisfy some animal instinct to physically (or otherwise torture) someone who has DEVASTATED HIM EMOTIONALLY NO DOUBT!

Cheating is the worst thing someone could do to a spouse?

Guess what? I DON'T AGREE.

How about being accused of cheating to the extent that you have a hidden camera put on you all the while your spouse "acting" like everything is ok? Then getting beaten by said spouse after you tell him that you have had enough of his SICKNESS?!?! So now YOU are the one left the next morning having to explain to your children where the bruises and scratches on you came from and why daddy doesn't live with us anymore.

Yea, that was REAL EASY... but that was over 2 years ago and my girls and I will have a wonderful life.. BECAUSE I AM MAKING IT SO.

To this day I am fucked up in the head because I can't believe that I DIDN'T KNOW that my husband had a camera on me in our own home! I found it accidentally one day when it had been up for nearly a week (or so he said).

Cheating sucks ass, no doubt. My husband could have had an entire family on the other side of town and I never would have known it because he brought ALL the money into the house and controlled it accordingly. I had any number of children with me at any given time. AND I NEVER EVER ONCE WENT THROUGH HIS WALLET OR THE BOOKS TO SEE IF THE CASH THAT HE COLLECTED WAS WHAT WAS DEPOSITED IN OUR ACCOUNT. Why? Because if I was to become THAT distrustful of my significant other THEN I WOULD JUST FLAT OUT LEAVE. I could never EVER live with such uneasiness and mistrust.

Was he ever unfaithful to me? I don't think so, but I'll never know and honestly I do not give a fahootie.

Was I ever unfaithful to him? I have been legally separated for over 2 years now and I have had been intimate with other men, so by legal definition - YES. BUT, the night after he beat me up when he came to get the rest of his things in the AM, I told him, "The line forms to the right and YOU AIN'T IN IT." I told him that though I had no interest in divorcing him (I was afraid and didn't have any money for a lawyer because he controlled ALL of it. I later found out that he had already been to see TWO!) WE WERE DONE, that the marriage was strictly a piece of paper and I would never keep him from the children. I stood by my word. I never led him to believe that we would EVER reconcile and I never have and never will keep him from our girls. He is a loving father. The only problem is that HE HATES ME MORE than he loves our girls. Maybe someday this will change, but for now, that is still how it stands.

A breach of trust is a breach of trust no matter HOW it comes.

Gentlemen please pull your test-swollen heads out of your assholes and stop encouraging someone to FUCK WITH HIS KIDS BECAUSE HIS WIFE WAS TOO SELFISH TO PUT HER CHILDREN BEFORE HER OWN HURT.

THERE ARE INNOCENT CHILDREN HERE, YOU APES! JUST BECAUSE SHE WAS A FUCKING BRAINDEAD SELFISH IMBECILE DOESN'T MEAN THAT THIS MAN'S CHILDREN WILL SUFFER ANY LESS IF HE BEHAVES THE SAME IN KIND!

Spectre - I know how badly you hurt. But please, try and think about how your treatment of your wife (REGARDLESS OF WHAT SHE DESERVES) will affect the way that your children will view YOU.

 

[fl8meplz]

Heya Spectre, I am real sorry to hear about that. I have been there and it's gonna be tough for a little while, but remember the hurt is all in your mind. It generally takes no more than six months for you to be at peace with what has happened. I think you are on track to handling it just right. Just be nice, treat her nice and it will work out. Let things go back to normal. Sounds like she still loves you, so again, i wouldn't worry about it. Bikini's right - Infidelity is NOT a reason to end a marriage.

It helps it you start to see some humor in it all. It did for me. For instance, Look on the bright side - she was only fucking the one guy for six months, could have been lot's of different guys for six months. Put yourself in her shoes - what if she was gone 5 days a week for six months and one of your hottie neighbors asked if she could blow you in her spare time? I don't know about you but i couldn't (and usually don't) pass that shit up.

Okay, hope the humor helped. Good luck working through it.

 

[TC2]

but how do you really feel??

 

[manny78]

I am telling you.... treat her to a round of buckshot!!! or do what my friend Eugene did to his slutbag wife.. and kill this scumbag fucker with her watching.

nahhh a big slug so it can go through her skull.....

 

[TC2]

Bikinimom, you're a typical female. Seriously, If she felt emotionally abandoned, then WHY THE FUCK DIDN'T SHE SAY SOMETHING OR FUCKIN LEAVE HIM???

 

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[Bikini Mod]

Bikinimom, you're a typical female. Seriously, If she felt emotionally abandoned, then WHY THE FUCK DIDN'T SHE SAY SOMETHING OR FUCKIN LEAVE HIM???

Darlin' - did you read the part where I said over AND OVER AGAIN THAT SHE FUCKED UP?! and that I DID NOT CONDONE HER BEHAVIOR IN ANY WAY, SHAPE OR FORM?!

This is all about what is best for the children involved.

I clearly stated that just because SHE fucked up, it won't help the children ANY MORE if he acts the same in kind.

This point of view makes me a "typical female" because?

(If the answer is because my head isn't up my ass then I will have to disagree. The "typical female" has her head so far up her ass she probably hasn't seen the light of day since pre-menstruation.)

Mr pharm amp - perhaps someday I can be as eloquent as you.