i feel for you
my father was a real big asshole at one time too. a raging agressive self centered spoiled prick. throught the week we would see him for a half hour at his lunch and often he was just screaming at my sister to eat, almost causing her to choke several times. then one day at 9 i grabbed a butterknife out of a WW2 mess kit my grandfather had given me and went after him with it. evidently he didnt get the point till we all said well leave him and never come back. went and got some prozac get a little better but had a penchant for telling me whenever i wanted to we could go outside and fight. by age 12 i was half nuts angry and didnt give a fuck so i called him out several times. now it wasnt fun. he said that he would never hurt me ect but i wanted to hurt him, bad. the thing i think he relized is that if we had went outside once, he wouldnt have hurt me, but i wouldve killed him in a second.
later he got on some shit and got nasty again, screaming and yelling at us so i shoved him across the room and was preparing to stomp his face into a greasy spot when he pulled a knife on me and held it to the femoral artery in my leg. i told him to do it, cause i wouldnt bleed out quick enough to stop me from stomping his throat. he didnt move but i kept daring him. i wouldve loved to do it. cause even if we both wouldve died my mom and sis would be away from him. so things kooled down noticabley from then on. we get along now, but i dont have any tolerance for his shit.
i have no doubt that you cant get out of your house on your own. this is literally no job in town besides teaching that pays double digitd per hour. even if you get low income houseing you wont be able to survive. try to get some stable friends. i wouldnt suggest going to the army ect for obviious reasons.
as a last ditch, try to patch things up and make him understand your not gay. however, if he turns it physical i say you beat him till you get sick of it. pick things up, ram his head into shit, whatever it takes. dont stop beating till you lose that angry feeling, then roll his bloody broken body over and dry hump him and tell him his ass belongs to you. then call an ambulance.
fuck it, if he wants to burn the bridge with his kid over him likeing boys, i say blow the fucker up. with him on it.