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I am hurt! I have been cheated on...
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Nobledude
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Guys, I gotta admit that I was an asshole when she was pregnant , I was telling her to go to her mom and such....when she did, I was in tears as I couldnt believe she did.
For the most of my life I was in control with women but now it seems that I found my match....
When I was in crutches for months due to ATR injury , she was the one who cared for me and for our baby.
Till last year she wanted another baby, I didnt...
She wanted to get married too..
Now after she had sex with her former lover who had not seen in more than 3 years...I am the one who doesnt want her to go...
If I were to say ...go to your mom...she would go.
She said that she doesnt know if she will be ever able to have feelings for me...
I want to wait a bit....
I made an appt. with a psychologist...I asked her to come with me...
Lastly, she is a hot woman and a great mom!
But I dont know if I will ever get over her adventure....
She told me that I will never be able to forget that!
Bros, I am really hurting and I could barely eat and sleep for the last 2 days.
For the most of my life I was in control with women but now it seems that I found my match....
When I was in crutches for months due to ATR injury , she was the one who cared for me and for our baby.
Till last year she wanted another baby, I didnt...
She wanted to get married too..
Now after she had sex with her former lover who had not seen in more than 3 years...I am the one who doesnt want her to go...
If I were to say ...go to your mom...she would go.
She said that she doesnt know if she will be ever able to have feelings for me...
I want to wait a bit....
I made an appt. with a psychologist...I asked her to come with me...
Lastly, she is a hot woman and a great mom!
But I dont know if I will ever get over her adventure....
She told me that I will never be able to forget that!
Bros, I am really hurting and I could barely eat and sleep for the last 2 days.
ND
honestly my friend you re in a position of penitance right now , characterized by atonement and reflection.
It is the transitional area between the transgressive states of being and the transpersonal.
Basiclaly right now you have a choice to make.
1. Go back down the scale by reasoning, justifying and overanalyzing things. This will bring you back down into egocentricitiy and will basically make the cycle repeat over and over till you learn your lessons from this experience.
2. Move into a state of humility and finally accountability. The crux of this is truthfullness and honorability.
you truly need to be honest about all aspects of U that are at the effect of this creation. Own them and handle them. make amends to your woman and forgive her for her transgressions(and forgive yourself for your own). You really have to be completely OK with the prospect of permananetly losing her in order to integrate this stuff.
Its a big lesson here bro. Dont blow it off or hide from it. Embrace it, learn from it, move through it and ascend above it
honestly my friend you re in a position of penitance right now , characterized by atonement and reflection.
It is the transitional area between the transgressive states of being and the transpersonal.
Basiclaly right now you have a choice to make.
1. Go back down the scale by reasoning, justifying and overanalyzing things. This will bring you back down into egocentricitiy and will basically make the cycle repeat over and over till you learn your lessons from this experience.
2. Move into a state of humility and finally accountability. The crux of this is truthfullness and honorability.
you truly need to be honest about all aspects of U that are at the effect of this creation. Own them and handle them. make amends to your woman and forgive her for her transgressions(and forgive yourself for your own). You really have to be completely OK with the prospect of permananetly losing her in order to integrate this stuff.
Its a big lesson here bro. Dont blow it off or hide from it. Embrace it, learn from it, move through it and ascend above it
GoldenDelicious
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in short (i didnt re the other replies)
the past is the past. you were a prick. nothing can change that. putting yourself through hell NOW is NOT going to make things better. its not going to prove how sorry you are. its not going to change her feelings. its not going to undo the sex she had with that guy. all its going to do is make you really unhappy. its going to fuck you emotionally. its going to make you even LESS attractive to her, because in the past, when you were being a prick, at least you were a prick worth respecting, and being attracted to.
you basically have 2 choices:
1) go through months or years of negative shit, lose your self respect, dignity, self esteem, confidence, compromise your emotional state while your relationship slowly disintigrates, finally accepting the fact and then maybe moving on
or
2) shrug your shoulders, acknowledge taht you were a bastard in the past, tell the mother of yoru child that you want to be involved in yoru babys life, but theres no undoing either the hurt youve put her through or the current situation, and then jsut go straight to finding a new partner and living your life in a state of happiness
either way its fucked, so you may as well choose the happy option
cheerios
the past is the past. you were a prick. nothing can change that. putting yourself through hell NOW is NOT going to make things better. its not going to prove how sorry you are. its not going to change her feelings. its not going to undo the sex she had with that guy. all its going to do is make you really unhappy. its going to fuck you emotionally. its going to make you even LESS attractive to her, because in the past, when you were being a prick, at least you were a prick worth respecting, and being attracted to.
you basically have 2 choices:
1) go through months or years of negative shit, lose your self respect, dignity, self esteem, confidence, compromise your emotional state while your relationship slowly disintigrates, finally accepting the fact and then maybe moving on
or
2) shrug your shoulders, acknowledge taht you were a bastard in the past, tell the mother of yoru child that you want to be involved in yoru babys life, but theres no undoing either the hurt youve put her through or the current situation, and then jsut go straight to finding a new partner and living your life in a state of happiness
either way its fucked, so you may as well choose the happy option
cheerios
bro you have 2 choices
1) go through months or years of negative shit, lose your self respect, dignity, self esteem, confidence, compromise your emotional state while your relationship slowly disintigrates, finally accepting the fact and then maybe moving on. Go back down the scale by reasoning, justifying and overanalyzing things. This will bring you back down into egocentricitiy and will basically make the cycle repeat over and over till you learn your lessons from this experience.
2. shrug your shoulders, acknowledge taht you were a bastard in the past, tell the mother of yoru child that you want to be involved in yoru babys life, but theres no undoing either the hurt youve put her through or the current situation, and then jsut go straight to finding a new partner and living your life in a state of happinessMove into a state of humility and finally accountability. The crux of this is truthfullness and honorability.
you truly need to be honest about all aspects of U that are at the effect of this creation. Own them and handle them. make amends to your woman and forgive her for her transgressions(and forgive yourself for your own). You really have to be completely OK with the prospect of permananetly losing her in order to integrate this stuff.
1) go through months or years of negative shit, lose your self respect, dignity, self esteem, confidence, compromise your emotional state while your relationship slowly disintigrates, finally accepting the fact and then maybe moving on. Go back down the scale by reasoning, justifying and overanalyzing things. This will bring you back down into egocentricitiy and will basically make the cycle repeat over and over till you learn your lessons from this experience.
2. shrug your shoulders, acknowledge taht you were a bastard in the past, tell the mother of yoru child that you want to be involved in yoru babys life, but theres no undoing either the hurt youve put her through or the current situation, and then jsut go straight to finding a new partner and living your life in a state of happinessMove into a state of humility and finally accountability. The crux of this is truthfullness and honorability.
you truly need to be honest about all aspects of U that are at the effect of this creation. Own them and handle them. make amends to your woman and forgive her for her transgressions(and forgive yourself for your own). You really have to be completely OK with the prospect of permananetly losing her in order to integrate this stuff.
T
the_clockwork
Guest
tough words: drop her... you are better than that. Whether you were mean or not you don't deserve the risk she was putting you in. in all reality if it happens once it will happen again.. learn from your mistake, find another gal, treat her right and move on with your life. it will be hard but you got to do it
Tweakle
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You're a cheating slut's wet dream, she doesnt even have to pull that 'YOU made me do it' shit on you because you're doing it to yourself.
No woman is worth losing your self respect over.
Send her ass back to Romania to slut it up with Igor and keep your kid, 5 years down the line you'll be glad you did.
No woman is worth losing your self respect over.
Send her ass back to Romania to slut it up with Igor and keep your kid, 5 years down the line you'll be glad you did.
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Wulfgar said:
^^^ What he said to the Nth degree.
We are human. We all make mistakes, but mistakes are our GREATEST TEACHERS.
Take the experience and grow from it.
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Tweakle said:
Xcuse me?
You think a child is a freaking puppy?
He done did lost his self-respect when he was treating this woman that he claims to have loved LIKE TOTAL FUCKING SHIT... and worse, she was pregnant with HIS BABY!!!
Dude, she cheated... it was wrong. But let's keep the negative vibes outta this. This ain't high school where some bitch was talkin smack about yer skillz in bed. We are talking about real people with real emotions and real lives. To interject negativity, I feel, is irresponsible and TOTALLY counterproductive.
Let me share this with you, it is something that helped me in my life's journey, words mean something.. we can't take them back..
There was a little boy with a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, to hammer a nail in the back fence.
The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Then it gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.
Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.
The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.
The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence.
You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out, it won't matter how many times you say "I'm sorry," the wound is still there. A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one.
"But nobody can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. 9 With it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men, who are made in the image of God. 10 Out of the same mouth comes forth blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so" . James 3:8-10
sorry you find yourself in this situation, I don't know if it can be fixed, she knows you and how you are and how you have been to her.. the old bf is an unknown, a hope for a better tomorrow.. that's your real enemy..
There was a little boy with a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, to hammer a nail in the back fence.
The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Then it gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.
Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.
The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.
The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence.
You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out, it won't matter how many times you say "I'm sorry," the wound is still there. A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one.
"But nobody can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. 9 With it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men, who are made in the image of God. 10 Out of the same mouth comes forth blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so" . James 3:8-10
sorry you find yourself in this situation, I don't know if it can be fixed, she knows you and how you are and how you have been to her.. the old bf is an unknown, a hope for a better tomorrow.. that's your real enemy..
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