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How Many of You Would Date a Person with a Kid?
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Your comments mean more to me than you will ever know.
Yes, sadly the battle has been raging since the beginning of the year (truthfully the marriage has been in trouble for about 3 years - SERIOUS trouble for the past two). The "trouble" exceeded serious and went to the point of no return somewhere between Christmas and Valentines - can't really pinpoint the exact time or event....only that is was a series of events each becoming more grave than the last and finally it became physical. The moment my head hit the ground ANY shred of affection/respect that I had had for my spouse left my mind, body, and soul FOREVER.
I have been giving little dribs and drabs here and there, some picked up on them others did not. To those who reached out to me - THANK YOU! Your help has made a world of difference for me. But I just haven't felt ready to disclose all of the info until recently...and even then, it was a total surprize to me.
For the longest time I felt a deep sense of shame about my situation - failed marriage and all.....I thought I would be letting the board members down somehow. But since my ex has pulled the stunts that he has....I feel no shame WHATSOEVER. Quite the contrary, the only shame I feel is that it took me THIS LONG TO WAKE THE FUCK UP!!!! My own girls' attitudes are like, "If you had called the police when daddy hit you then MAYBE this would be over by now?!"....from the mouths of babes - GOTTA LOVE 'EM.
AGENT SHAGWELL said:
Your comments mean more to me than you will ever know.
Yes, sadly the battle has been raging since the beginning of the year (truthfully the marriage has been in trouble for about 3 years - SERIOUS trouble for the past two). The "trouble" exceeded serious and went to the point of no return somewhere between Christmas and Valentines - can't really pinpoint the exact time or event....only that is was a series of events each becoming more grave than the last and finally it became physical. The moment my head hit the ground ANY shred of affection/respect that I had had for my spouse left my mind, body, and soul FOREVER.
I have been giving little dribs and drabs here and there, some picked up on them others did not. To those who reached out to me - THANK YOU! Your help has made a world of difference for me. But I just haven't felt ready to disclose all of the info until recently...and even then, it was a total surprize to me.
For the longest time I felt a deep sense of shame about my situation - failed marriage and all.....I thought I would be letting the board members down somehow. But since my ex has pulled the stunts that he has....I feel no shame WHATSOEVER. Quite the contrary, the only shame I feel is that it took me THIS LONG TO WAKE THE FUCK UP!!!! My own girls' attitudes are like, "If you had called the police when daddy hit you then MAYBE this would be over by now?!"....from the mouths of babes - GOTTA LOVE 'EM.
AGENT SHAGWELL
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BKMom....do whats best for you as a person. Best example you can give to your girls. And you being a happy person is the best parent you can be to your girls.
I hated my mom when my parents were together, she was a mean yelling lady that I did not know, nor want too. I was Daddy's girl cause he bought me what I wanted, and let me eat ice cream after every soccer game, and was my coach.
Total 360 after they divorced. I'm notw proudly a momma's girl...she's awesome....my dad sucks! (cheater)
I hated my mom when my parents were together, she was a mean yelling lady that I did not know, nor want too. I was Daddy's girl cause he bought me what I wanted, and let me eat ice cream after every soccer game, and was my coach.
Total 360 after they divorced. I'm notw proudly a momma's girl...she's awesome....my dad sucks! (cheater)
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AGENT SHAGWELL said:
umm... I think you mean 180...
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Hannibal said:Seriously man I agree..any fool with a dick can make a baby but it takes a real man to be a father and raise his child whether the parents are together or not
Agreed 100%.
Yes I would have no problem dating a women with a child . . . unless it was that same kid in the movie: "Problem Child."
thefacelessballer
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at my age... i dont think i would...
My fiance did. My son was 14 months old when I met her and she just went mad for him. They are closer emotionally than he is with his birth mother. What kind of woman would take on a 26 year old with a 7 year old son? Well she did. My son is the primary beneficiary of her estate. He gets 65% (50% in a trust), I only get 30%. My son is now a multi-millionaire many times over and doesn't even know it. Now, if I had a child that I had abandoned, or only saw once every two weeks or so, I am sure she would have thought twice about the whole relationship.
I did it. It was tough, but rewarding. There were some problems, but never due to the child. I loved the child, as I loved his Mom.
Stan O'Zolol
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I don't know...it would be kinda like throwing a hot dog down a hallway don't ya think?
I really wouldn't have a problem with it, but it would give me many more things to think about before I would enter into a relationship with that person..(i.e Will I be able to support the child(ren)?, Am I emotionally ready to be a parent?, Where is the ex and how involved are they? , etc.)
BIKINIMOM, I am really getting tired of you and your posts---because this is probably the 3rd time in recent memory I have had to reply to you that they are EXCELLENT and give you a *standing ovation*!!!!!
Keep it up!
BIKINIMOM, I am really getting tired of you and your posts---because this is probably the 3rd time in recent memory I have had to reply to you that they are EXCELLENT and give you a *standing ovation*!!!!!
Keep it up!
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