Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below So recently, my ex broke it up with me aftr 2 and a half years, yes im still young but this happend 3 weeks ago yesterday, yet she's already sleeping at another guy's house, and it's quite obvouis what she is doing, how can the girl's human brain work like this? 2 week's before the break up we was on about moving out and such...
How do girls brain's work?
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calveless wonder
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Ever heard the term "having your ducks in a row?". Well picture the ducks being blind, with no sense of direction and crashing into each other.
calveless wonder
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I'm sure she was talking to this dude way before you broke up. She broke up when she knew she had something else
SPEKTOR-AAA
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Its called she found a dood with more to offer. Not saying its true but in her eyes apparently so. Shes gone, move on to another gurl orb.
You have to stay on top of it bro, girls dont just get complacent/unhappy. If your not giving them what they need emotionally/physically they will find it somewhere. You got burned bro.
calveless wonder
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What are you, like 18 or 19? Relationships mean shit at your age. You don't want to be in one. Just date a bunch of broads. Girls that age have no fuckin clue what they want or who rhey are (I doubt you do either). Get your nut now so eventually much later in life when you meet a girl that's not a complete cunt, you don't screw it up by cheating
^ Probably true.
But that's not a girls thing. Guys do that too. When someone in a relationship doesn't love you but is insecure, they'll stay with you til they find someone else so they don't have to be alone.
Sorry bud.
Be happy about it though that you're no loner wasting time on her. My biggest pet peeve is wasting my time on someone. I'm out the exact second I realize a guy and I are going nowhere.
calveless wonder
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Both sexs do it, but women do it way more frequently because they're more scared to be alone.
Biggest joke I've ever heard. You just think that because you haven't dated men.
LOL so yo think there must be something wrong/different in her brain just because she dumped you and moved on quickly?
I wouldn't be so sure.
It's not fear, not most of the time, really. In truth, women often stay with the guy who "isn't it" for similar reasons that a guy would stay with a chick in the same situation, i.e., to guarantee regular (safe) sex or just to have someone to go out to the movies or dinner with occasionally.
Being with someone you aren't in love with and see no future with, but whom you don't necessarily dislike, is still better than being alone
Agreed, but I'm talking "generalities" which can be dangerous
I'm sure most people can think of someone whose stayed in a nowhere relationship until a better fit came along and then found themselves in the position where they needed to break up with the "nice" person all the while saying: "They're nice, just not THE ONE."Hello,
No basically all lovy dovey a few days before, we own a dog toghther ( lol mine now)
Just was in a rage mood still after working out so had to vent some more off
calveless wonder
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yeah, that's completely normal behavior.
kinda like being married and talking about wanting to fuck the maintanence man in your building
canadianhitman
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Don't act like you wouldn't have jumped on an 'upgrade' of a woman the very next day after the breakup if the opportunity presented itself. The easy answer is: she was ready to bail awhile ago, and had been setting it up for weeks if not months. You just didn't see it. A very smart older friend of mine once told me "Women are like monkeys; they won't leave the tree they are in until they have a good hold on a branch from the next tree".
canadianhitman
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P.S. Stop moping, get out there, and make it your life's mission to fuck a woman hotter than your EX as soon as possible. Take your sappy emotions and flush them down the toilet with your next shit, because trust me when I tell you that if you have a set of balls and are a normal man, you are going to have a hell of a lot more fun in the coming months being single...IF you don't allow yourself to ruin it with SWV bullshit.
I mean, obviously insecurities exist on both ends of the spectrum but way more frequently in womenz.
*ebony*
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Do you really think insecurities occur way more frequently in women or do you think it's just that men and women are just insecure about different things so it's not as obvious? Not arguing, honestly asking.
I.e. My most recent ex was always always worried about providing for me and the dog at the time even though I was making plenty enough to support myself and pull my own weight. But I just never worried about providing and he always did even though he did more than enough.
*ebony*
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I disagree, nor do i necessarily believe its the other way around. I only know how its like being a woman and can only imagine what men go through.
women want confident, "secure" men.
men usually want women, so of course we get what we want.
now imagine being secure about never being insecure, always competent and able.
fuk that. talk about pressures form society imposed upon women and causing insecurity, men gotta deal with those societal stigmas as well as ones imposed upon them by women. the avg woman just doesn't have to deal will the same level of pressure.
of course there's other types of situations and it would take a while to disscuss them all, but in the end wouldn't add up to women being more insecure, it just aint all the bad being a girl, then again i've never been a man....
Thinking about it, as was reading a few msn convo's from a while back, funny thing is, 27th of march (few days we broke up)
She was on about been scared of losing me, because she thought i would cheat on her,
I think it's these part's that have made me *confused* sort of speak.
She was on about been scared of losing me, because she thought i would cheat on her,
I think it's these part's that have made me *confused* sort of speak.
*ebony*
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maybe she suspected you suspected something and by dressing her fear of losing you, she's also reaffirming her 'love' for you. That way she makes sure you still stay on the hook.
sorry it sounds harsh, but pple are selfish and this happens in all type of relationships business, romantic, friendships. just weed these pple out, you don't need her in ur life.
sorry it sounds harsh, but pple are selfish and this happens in all type of relationships business, romantic, friendships. just weed these pple out, you don't need her in ur life.
crew9
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There are obviously a lot of insecure people of both genders. Personally I think a big reason why women are more insecure than men is biological. Fluctuating hormones leads to a more emotional, less confident person. Look at what happens around "that time of the month", pregnancy, menopause, and with guys who have low testosterone.
I think another reason women seem more insecure in relationships is because of how each sex selects their partners. Females inherently look for someone who is strong, confident, able to provide and emotionally/physically nuturing. If for some reason they feel one of those is lacking they start to question whether or not the guy really likes them.
Gotta agree ... although I think for a lot of us that changes once we get into our 30s. Christ, I looked my best in my 20s and I had like zero self confidence (toxic thinking that was reinforced by my then husband).
I'd love to have the mind I have now in my body from 25 years ago. Shit, I'd rule the world!
chris302001
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titties titties titties!
chris302001
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Dont get anyone pregnant!!!!!!!!!!
Lol, i won't don't worry xD
She was on injection
Beside's i think i cannot have kid's, when was younger 2years + younger i accidently yes.....
No kid that i know of today xD
chris302001
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Way to jinx yourself Einstein.
PICK3
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Famous last words kiddo.
Don't believe you can't produce children until someone with a microscope officially declares you're shooting blanks. Dodging a bullet on the few occasions nobody was protected isn't a sign of infertility, it just means you were lucky.
redshirt27se
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man up bro. being single is better than being tethered to some girls hip like you were.
talking no doing.... just because I'm married doesnt mean i cant have fantasies.... jeez....
both sexes sound so reasonable and rational in their assessments of the other's capricious and illogical behavior. Then we get together and both sexes start behaving irrationally again. Strong emotions always cloud reason. Strong emotions disrupt objectivity.
We all act crazy and can't see our own crazy behavior.
We all act crazy and can't see our own crazy behavior.
jackangel
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Gotta agree ... although I think for a lot of us that changes once we get into our 30s. Christ, I looked my best in my 20s and I had like zero self confidence (toxic thinking that was reinforced by my then husband).
I'd love to have the mind I have now in my body from 25 years ago. Shit, I'd rule the world!
pics of your 20-something self, thanks.
uamaverick
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Sorry to hear you got fucked over, but you're gonna like being single better. I haven't been in a "relationship" for almost three years now. I can firmly say I've lived the least drama filled life of all of my friends and I've been less angry/frustrated than them. They used to always say I envy you.
I don't even know what the point of getting involved with anybody is. I'm 25, and I'm just now starting to feel like I can talk to women that have a slight resemblance of being normal. Any girls 24 and younger are fucking retarded. Unless you meet a girl that just melts your face immediately, don't bother trying to have a relationship.
Also, relationships are much like jobs. You always keep looking for better jobs, even when you're employed. You always keep an eye out for a better opportunity. Well, just look at this as an avenue to have a better opportunity, whether that comes in the form of singlehood or running into that one girl who truly is different from all the rest.
I don't even know what the point of getting involved with anybody is. I'm 25, and I'm just now starting to feel like I can talk to women that have a slight resemblance of being normal. Any girls 24 and younger are fucking retarded. Unless you meet a girl that just melts your face immediately, don't bother trying to have a relationship.
Also, relationships are much like jobs. You always keep looking for better jobs, even when you're employed. You always keep an eye out for a better opportunity. Well, just look at this as an avenue to have a better opportunity, whether that comes in the form of singlehood or running into that one girl who truly is different from all the rest.
captainahole
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When on person be it female or male is not emotionally into the relationship it is really quite easy to move onto another.
especially in long time relationships I can personally vouch for that.
so to coin a phrase
she's just not that into you.
especially in long time relationships I can personally vouch for that.
so to coin a phrase
she's just not that into you.
GrumpyOldMan
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Trouble in paradise?
chris302001
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You moved to Canada?
GrumpyOldMan
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LOL, psychic? Rhetorical BTW.
GrumpyOldMan
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silly - she was fucking the guy before she broke up with you, but its been 3 weeks, so she stopped trying to hide it
LOL nan is such a slut and lies about it on EF and then tells her husband she doesnt do that shit even though its forever burned into the internwebs
Must be another grumpy old man, there's lots of us.
Let's just say that if you have been the other grumpy old man, participation in this thread would have been beyond hilarious.
Oh, I am so glad I'm not the only one being weirded out
chris302001
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big let down
definitely
Fuck you, you dont fucking know me, just cuz I like cawk doesnt mean I'd cheat on him, I never have, and I joke here a lot but a lot of bros have offered nudes and I have declined, I dont need to troll for cock... that's what porn is for....LOL nan is such a slut and lies about it on EF and then tells her husband she doesnt do that shit even though its forever burned into the internwebs
calveless wonder
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You accepted cock pics from strongbow. You said it in a thread
So yes, you are a liar. I think someone even said you had your facebook profile changed to single for awhile
I'm guessing after your husband caught on you changed it back
So yes, you are a liar. I think someone even said you had your facebook profile changed to single for awhile
I'm guessing after your husband caught on you changed it back
silly - she was fucking the guy before she broke up with you, but its been 3 weeks, so she stopped trying to hide it
This is what I was gonna say. Most likely scenario, almost 100%. At the very least she was emotionally cheating, but most likely there was more than that going on.
I've been in relationships that I emotionally detached from before the breakup and I moved on fairly quickly afterwards....but not that quick, and not to the point of having sleepovers, except in ONE instance where I was being pretty sketchy. I realize it goes against the flow for girls here to admit we are not perfect exceptions to every rule haha, but I was a stupid kid and this is one of my least proud moments, but it's definitely something I learned from.
I didn't physically cheat, but I had basically fallen in love with someone else, and he found out about it before I had a chance to break it off. Actually, that's horseshit...the order should have been, end things, meet someone else, fall in love. I make ZERO excuses for the way that went down, and whatever reasons I had for falling out of love with him at the time, he deserved better. Guy has every reason to hate my guts but for some reason (he insisted we try to resume a friendship that I still feel unworthy of) we're friendly and still occasionally "argue" sports via facebook lol. It's one of the reasons I am so vehement about how easy it is to avoid emotional cheating...I can look back and point to a million things I did to find myself in that situation that could have easily been avoided. No escuses for me, no excuses for anyone else.
Bottom line, don't stress it. My ex was better off without me when i was at that level of emotional immaturity (I was 19), and you're better off without her.
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LOL clearly you dont know WTF u are talking about, SB has been the only person Ive seen nudes of, i once said pics or stfu and he sent pics... my husband even knows about that pic, again you running ur fucking mouth me going to single was something my husband did too at the same time, we were playing a prank on some friends so stfu and crawl back under ur rock, i have no secrets with my husband
its funny that nef str8 up admits that she is indeed human and thus being human, is not perfect and has made some mistakes, but nan, is flawless and never makes mistakes or lies, or strays.
its those perfect ones who have never faltered that ya gotta be careful around!!
its those perfect ones who have never faltered that ya gotta be careful around!!
why you guys trouncing nan 
and why is she taking the bait x 2
and why is she taking the bait x 2why you guys trouncing nan
just giving her some tough rough love
its not cheating cuz im single
Not commenting on the nan bit, but yeah....I'm definitely human and I own all of my mistakes. How can you grow otherwise? No one I've dated would say bad things about me, but a couple certainly have the right to and it almost shames me that they still hold me in fairly high regard. I didn't go on a single date till I was 18 and I definitely had some growing pains and hurt some people I never really meant to. I still make mistakes but I do my damndest just to not make the same ones.
i totally feel ya, but iv never made any mistakes tho
So what you're saying is, I should watch out for you, right?
^^^ titcr
lol by no means am i perfect, im a lazy slob with tons of faults, but cheating is a serious matter and Ive always done my best to be loyal and correct, i may be accused of many things but not cheating, thats why it struck a nerve.... now wtf was this thread about
the mistakes i make, fuck me over, not other people
for example i gave up easy poon (like a faggot) with a girl semi recently, because i knew i didnt want to end up with her.
its hard to explain, im damn near perfect
lol
I'm not much of a heartbreaker either...I did/and do my best to make it as easy on him as possible. There is never an easy way to reject someone and rejection hurts..there is not much you can to do make it easier on the other person. I move on pretty quickly, but that is what I do when I know for sure a relationship is over. I'm sometimes shocked at how quickly I can move on. IDK if it has antyhing to do with being male or female, or more to do with personality. That might confuse a man who does not move on easily...wondering how I could move on so easily when I seemed so devoted to the relationship.
the one who ends it, always moves on quickest just because theyv wanted to end it for at least long enough to be sorta relieved when they finally do. if you still want to be with someone then u dont break up witht hem obvi...so you kinda already start the process before the break up.
unless its soome weird circumstance like having to move suddenly, a death, personal issues, cheating, etc
unless its soome weird circumstance like having to move suddenly, a death, personal issues, cheating, etc
lol I wonder what is best? A quick sudden breakup with angst and drama or slowly pulling away over time where it just kinda fades off and both parties are just like...meh
lol
Quick is better....the fade out is a waste of both parties time.
Ive never done the "date anyone to make the last dude jealous" thing, not intentionally
that might be projecting a bit
that might be projecting a bit
Have you done that/had that done before? I have not. I can tell when someone is doing that and usually put an end it pretty quickly..but then I still feel hurt and rejected...even though I ended it.
It's like that old wives tale that pulling off a bandage quickly causes the least amount of pain. People theorized that a quick tug at a bandage is preferable to slowly pulling it off. People assume that a short spike in pain is better than extended pain in smaller amounts. IDK if that's true. Ask a burn victim who has to have bandages removed painfully from large amounts of their bodies daily which one they prefer.
So...I'm not sold on what is the best way to hurt someone. lol!
idk...when my ex husband and I split up cutting off contact almost totally for a little while was the best way to deal with it
and I'm not going to lie...I felt pretty smug when I realized I had the upper hand by not initiating contact at all and keeping all contact initiated by him extremely brief
and really really smug in one scenario where he called me to a job site he was on..but when I showed up he was "busy" so I gave him 10 minutes of waiting then got in my car and left without saying a word
he was stunned when he realized I took off without saying anything and called me to ask me if I had left..I said yes, call when you have more time..bye.and hung up
he admitted later (cpl yrs) it really took away his feeling of control of the situation
and I'm not going to lie...I felt pretty smug when I realized I had the upper hand by not initiating contact at all and keeping all contact initiated by him extremely brief
and really really smug in one scenario where he called me to a job site he was on..but when I showed up he was "busy" so I gave him 10 minutes of waiting then got in my car and left without saying a word
he was stunned when he realized I took off without saying anything and called me to ask me if I had left..I said yes, call when you have more time..bye.and hung up
he admitted later (cpl yrs) it really took away his feeling of control of the situation
I'm assuming that you had to cut off contact becauase you HAD to becuase he was probably treating you like shit. I think no contact is a good rule in those situations. I have to admit though...being on the receiving end of no contact is fuggin brutal.
I'm sure it isn't true for every relationship break-up but the whole 'I've got someone new now' stopgap thing by latching onto the nearest guy is a common response amongst younger females. The most obvious example I can think of is when my m8 told this girl he was seeing he was no longer interested when in his car outside a club after she phoned him to lift her. She got out and kissed the next guy she saw on the sidewalk in front of him just to get back at him.
lol it's annoying how everything turns into a competition after a break-up too. I agree with the people who say no contact is the way forward, otherwise it just gets messier and messier.
uamaverick
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This is a gay faggot ass thread.
BTW, I've always broke up with the girl. Sometimes I'll get the feeling that she's about to break up with me, and I'm like fuck that shit nagro and I pull the trigger before she knows WTF is up and I destroy her world and then she gains 200 lbs and has 2 kids with some ugly piece of shit within a year.
(That last part is actually true)
BTW, I've always broke up with the girl. Sometimes I'll get the feeling that she's about to break up with me, and I'm like fuck that shit nagro and I pull the trigger before she knows WTF is up and I destroy her world and then she gains 200 lbs and has 2 kids with some ugly piece of shit within a year.
(That last part is actually true)
well this is just it..it had turned into a competition..over a child and about 600k in assets
it started with being locked out of a home I bought and paid more than 30% in cash for
and then having the cops called on me for breaking and entering when I broke in to my own fuggin house.
and the game playing just escalated from there
I walked (not on the child) ..I wasnt dealing with it anymore
I think both men and women jump onto dating/relationship so soon to "prove" to themselves they did right and that they are over the person and can just move on, also that "they still got it"
When I broke up with my ex in college I quickly started seeing someone else (like 3 weeks after the break up)but several factors took place, A. I had been wanting to break up with him for a loooong time and he'd always avoid it by crying, fake passing out, threatening to kill himself, etc B. it was a pretty self esteem destroying relationship for me so I wanted to just be liked by someone, anyone...
So pretty much what I'm saying is there are many reasons why someone may jump on to dating/relationship quickly, it's not just cheating or being a whore...
swordsedge
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Thats how aids came into being I guess! Forgot about her, that girl is not worth ur risk especially if u r from Africa
I've watched that vid quite a few times, it's very interesting but at the same time I couldn't disagree more. I've had a couple experiences that were more than that, where I didn't choose it, it chose me. Sometimes I went with it, sometimes I pushed it away. Writing off love as nothing more than how she describes it regulates our basic humanity into the scrap heap of materialism.
PICK3
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I've watched that vid quite a few times, it's very interesting but at the same time I couldn't disagree more. I've had a couple experiences that were more than that, where I didn't choose it, it chose me. Sometimes I went with it, sometimes I pushed it away. Writing off love as nothing more than how she describes it regulates our basic humanity into the scrap heap of materialism.
u got a good movie recommendation for me?
u got a good movie recommendation for me?
hmmm no, not tonight. A book recommendation if you have not read it yet...
Amazon.com: People of the Lie: The Hope for Healing Human Evil (9780684848594): M. Scott Peck: Books
Follow it up with "The Road Less Traveled" if you're a lover of the light.
PICK3
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PICK3
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oh my, did you watch that vid before you posted it?
honestly?
knot in its entirety
I'm familiar with Pinker and his views on human violence though
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