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I know I see trailer parks and I think "trash".

my daughter has a friend who's parents keep a chicken in the house and the mom wears so much makeup that it's frightening. I can't help but think "pigs" when i see them.

I judge people by how they look, how they speak, and how they live. I am usually right, but not always and i shouldn't judge, i know.

how do i not?


btw, losers need not reply to this thread. thanks.
 
Spend time in another country (I don't mean Canada, or maybe I do? :worried: ). Immersing yourself in another mindset makes you re-evaluate so many of your snap judgements.

BTW, if I'm one of these loser's please delete my reply. Thx.
 
You seem like a compassionate person.

I have those same thoughts about people. I just try to "judge not" because I KNOW someone else is always judging me. No matter how awesome you are other people can always pick you apart and crusify you for no good reason.

All that being said, I judge and stereotype people too. I catch myself and try to correct it in my own brain before I put it out there though.

It's a toughie.
 
fortunatesun said:
Spend time in another country (I don't mean Canada, or maybe I do? :worried: ). Immersing yourself in another mindset makes you re-evaluate so many of your snap judgements.

BTW, if I'm one of these loser's please delete my reply. Thx.
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lol
you're not.

i have traveled a lot. the last time out of the country was 2 years ago though. going to europe next summer.. maybe that will help.


probably not, since i'm staying ini luxury hotels though.
 
curvymommy said:
Oh and for what it's worth...a chicken in the house? I'd be tripping out on that too! Yuck!
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yeah, it's flippin' gross.
they live in a house the size of a double wide and have to german shepards, a cat, a CHICKEN in the house, and a hamster or something.
 
Taking the high road and turning the other cheek... Jesus will be proud of me. Until I let him down again.
 
stilleto said:
I know I see trailer parks and I think "trash".

my daughter has a friend who's parents keep a chicken in the house and the mom wears so much makeup that it's frightening. I can't help but think "pigs" when i see them.

I judge people by how they look, how they speak, and how they live. I am usually right, but not always and i shouldn't judge, i know.

how do i not?


btw, losers need not reply to this thread. thanks.
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i know what you mean. i try to instead look at people for who they are rather than where they're from. i have come into contact with people from all walks of life and have found wonderful people come in all shapes sizes and classes.

i try to look past things like they live in a trailer park or they have a bad dye job or they have hickeys on their neck and they work at the convenience store. because afterall, people are people and at the most basic level, we are one in the same.
 
stilleto said:
yeah, it's flippin' gross.
they live in a house the size of a double wide and have to german shepards, a cat, a CHICKEN in the house, and a hamster or something.
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Yes, all that nastiness is just a syndrome of a really whacked out problem.








See? There I go judging. :xeye: Happens to the best of us.
 
being judgemental is human nature. . .the trick is not allowing those knee-jerk reactions to trick you into not giving everyone a fair chance. . .i'm pretty sure you probably do a good job with that already. . .
 
Smurfy said:
i know what you mean. i try to instead look at people for who they are rather than where they're from. i have come into contact with people from all walks of life and have found wonderful people come in all shapes sizes and classes.

i try to look past things like they live in a trailer park or they have a bad dye job or they have hickeys on their neck and they work at the convenience store. because afterall, people are people and at the most basic level, we are one in the same.
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i do know that, and try to remember it all the time.

Even though i'm an atheist, i really try to remember that "there before the grace of blah go I" thing, because if life had treated me differently, every one of the people I judge COULD have been me.

but I still judge. seeing people who are hacking up a lung and buying cigarettes, or women with gunts wearing tight pants and short tshirts, etc.

It's those people I judge mostly. not the convenience store worker- those people I admire just for working.
 
stilleto said:
i do know that, and try to remember it all the time.

Even though i'm an atheist, i really try to remember that "there before the grace of blah go I" thing, because if life had treated me differently, every one of the people I judge COULD have been me.

but I still judge. seeing people who are hacking up a lung and buying cigarettes, or women with gunts wearing tight pants and short tshirts, etc.

It's those people I judge mostly. not the convenience store worker- those people I admire just for working.
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i feel pity for the smokers mostly because I have been there and I feel sad that they have not had the courage or the will to quit that awful and most unhealthy habit.

the gunt lady I probably just say something to myself like "oh nice belly" or something and then move on.
 
Smurfy said:
i feel pity for the smokers mostly because I have been there and I feel sad that they have not had the courage or the will to quit that awful and most unhealthy habit.

the gunt lady I probably just say something to myself like "oh nice belly" or something and then move on.
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i never tried that approach. it's an interesting one.
 
needtogetaas said:
We are no longer together. So I could care less and you can have her.
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yeah, sure. by the time i get there, you'll be all "she's mine, stilleto. now back off!" just like the last time.
 
curvymommy said:
spoken like a true SouthernLord, lol.
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lololl I couldn't delete that fast enough. You guys are quick. Seriously though I would not let my kids be friends with someone who has chickens in their house. What a bunch of weirdos...
 
SouthernLord said:
lololl I couldn't delete that fast enough. You guys are quick. Seriously though I would not let my kids be friends with someone who has chickens in their house. What a bunch of weirdos...
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I unquoted you :)
 
My post was erased so here it is again...I love the cawk!!!!!
 
I have a low tolerance for peeps who smell like ass. I really do. Also for those who blow snot rockets in the steam room at the gym. I rat them out to management.


Gross. Gosh, I sound pretty judgemental about things that are nasty.
 
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stilleto said:
I know I see trailer parks and I think "trash".

my daughter has a friend who's parents keep a chicken in the house and the mom wears so much makeup that it's frightening. I can't help but think "pigs" when i see them.

I judge people by how they look, how they speak, and how they live. I am usually right, but not always and i shouldn't judge, i know.

how do i not?


btw, losers need not reply to this thread. thanks.
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as surely as you think they are trash and call somebody a loser. there are plenty of others thinking the same thing about you. 100 years or so from now, it will be like you never existed. some might say you are a nobody. so a nobody calling others trash or whatever is like a retarded person calling another person retarded.

napolean hill's number one rule, "DON'T CRITICIZE" It's sometimes better to look at the whole grand scheme of things.

you're right about biteme though, he is a loser. :lmao:
 
fistfullofsteel said:
as surely as you think they are trash and call somebody a loser. there are plenty of others thinking the same thing about you. 100 years or so from now, it will be like you never existed. some might say you are a nobody. so a nobody calling others trash or whatever is like a retarded person calling another person retarded.

napolean hill's number one rule, "DON'T CRITICIZE" It's sometimes better to look at the whole grand scheme of things.

you're right about biteme though, he is a loser. :lmao:
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well yeah, we all know that.

but your other point doesn't really make sense- i don't care what people think, or don't think of me in 100 years. That theory precludes that only the famous people's opinions count, except EVERYONE makes a difference in the world, they just aren't always known for it.

and also, i don't know who napolean hill is, which, according to you, means he's a nobody.

god you're retarded.
 
that chicken would be dinner after a few days....

Come to think of it, we have lobsters that crash over the rocks during high tide.
 
stilleto said:
well yeah, we all know that.

but your other point doesn't really make sense- i don't care what people think, or don't think of me in 100 years. That theory precludes that only the famous people's opinions count, except EVERYONE makes a difference in the world, they just aren't always known for it.

and also, i don't know who napolean hill is, which, according to you, means he's a nobody.

god you're retarded.
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the premise that you don't care what others think is entirely false. would you say the difference you made is as significant as the difference that jesus, moses, or edison, and such made? i know you said you don't care what others think of you, but the world doesn't revolve around you. if i find a cure for cancer, does that mean i made a more important contribution to society, therefore i will be remembered alot longer than you? or let's say i stopped a comet or asteroid from crashing into the earth and wiping out the human race. was my contribution to the world important? do you think people will remember me alot longer than you?
 
stilleto said:
yeah, it's flippin' gross.
they live in a house the size of a double wide and have to german shepards, a cat, a CHICKEN in the house, and a hamster or something.
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You're not being judgemental. I'd think the same thing. They are trailer trash. They might be nice people, but their way of life is disgusting.
 
1. you don't care what others think about you

2. but you do care about how you think of others

so if you walked up to somebody and said, "I really don't give a shit what you think about me, but I do think you are trash, because of how you look, how you speak, and how you live, but I'm trying not judgemental."
 
fistfullofsteel said:
the premise that you don't care what others think is entirely false. would you say the difference you made is as significant as the difference that jesus, moses, or edison, and such made? i know you said you don't care what others think of you, but the world doesn't revolve around you. if i find a cure for cancer, does that mean i made a more important contribution to society, therefore i will be remembered alot longer than you? or let's say i stopped a comet or asteroid from crashing into the earth and wiping out the human race. was my contribution to the world important? do you think people will remember me alot longer than you?
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if you stopped a comet from crashing into the earth?

hell yes people will remember you a lot longer than they remember me. and YES your contribution was more important... I don't plan on saving the world.

but thats a moot point. or at least, it's not one that pertains to my question. it's not that I don't care what people think of me either- or if they remember who i am in 100 years.

none of those answers would make me be more or less judgmental NOW.
 
this is a 100% fact:


people are mirrors.

when you see things in others that you dislike, it means that they

are providing a good reflection.

the outside world is merely a reflection of our inner self.
 
the_alcatraz said:
You're not being judgemental. I'd think the same thing. They are trailer trash. They might be nice people, but their way of life is disgusting.
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I just have to get this out, lol.

I haven't/don't live in a trailer but not all peeps who do are nasty.

On the message board I was formerly addicted to, we always made trailer trash jokes, ect. This went on for a couple years and it was a running joke there.

One day this huge ebay powerseller who specialized in $200 dresses for little girls, one of a kind boutique items, and other high end items posted a thread.
She lived in a trailer house on an acre of land which she had planned to build her dream house on some day. Things went south financially and with her marriage and she wasn't able to build her house and she'd been living in her trailer house for years while moderating the board.

Anyway, it would be like Stilleto coming out of the closet as a trailer house dweller. Well, after she confessed, many other board members said they lived in trailers too.

It was funny.
 
stilleto said:
I know I see trailer parks and I think "trash".

my daughter has a friend who's parents keep a chicken in the house and the mom wears so much makeup that it's frightening. I can't help but think "pigs" when i see them.

I judge people by how they look, how they speak, and how they live. I am usually right, but not always and i shouldn't judge, i know.

how do i not?


btw, losers need not reply to this thread. thanks.
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I simply say to myself "tomorrow i will be me, and they will still be themselves"

it's how i got over it, and you need to stop allowing others to have power in your mood, and how you feel.
 
Smurfy said:
stilleto, time to come clean & post pics of your mobile home
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:lmao:

It was a red letter day on that message board! So funny. She DID post up pics too and it had a really nice garden bath tub, lol!
 
fistfullofsteel said:
1. you don't care what others think about you

2. but you do care about how you think of others

so if you walked up to somebody and said, "I really don't give a shit what you think about me, but I do think you are trash, because of how you look, how you speak, and how you live, but I'm trying not judgemental."
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because that is an incomplete sentence, it's not really making a point.
so if i walked up and said that... then... what? ??

I'm trying to understand where you are going, but i'm not.
 
fistfullofsteel said:
as surely as you think they are trash and call somebody a loser. there are plenty of others thinking the same thing about you.
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Like hell.

Ain't nobody ever gots the darns idea that this hunk was trash.

No siree.
 
stilleto said:
because that is an incomplete sentence, it's not really making a point.
so if i walked up and said that... then... what? ??

I'm trying to understand where you are going, but i'm not.
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you decide then what.



picture yourself as the other person. that usually helps.
 
fistfullofsteel said:
you decide then what.



picture yourself as the other person. that usually helps.
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well, then nothing.
as I said, i'd usually be right.


you're really bad at making points. i like you anyway though.
 
layinback said:
this is a 100% fact:


people are mirrors.

when you see things in others that you dislike, it means that they

are providing a good reflection.

the outside world is merely a reflection of our inner self.
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If you write a book, I would buy it.
 
the thing about reflections of yourself is universal.

but also, a poor example... if you see laziness, ugliness, sloppiness, lack of taste or wealth or manners or cleanliness.. of COURSE you're going to hate that about yourself... it doesn't make it a reflection though. it just makes you human.

a person would have to be totally blind not to realize they have SOME of those qualities in themselves- everyone does. it doesn't mean you don't hate or judge them though.

example... I see a woman with a gunt. she's wearing stretch pants in light blue with a big stain on her ass and cellulite is in it's glory. She's wearing a sleeveless shirt with tweety bird on it and it's too short and tight.

my first thought is "oh, gross." plus, "dirty, stupid, slob" and then i wonder why they didn't look in the mirror before they left the house and what kind of person would let themselves go out like that.

am i really thinking poorly upon myself for the times I may have left the house looking crappy?

NO. i'm thinking "COVER YOUR FRIGGIN' GUNT, YOU PIG".

see?
 
stilleto said:
well, then nothing.
as I said, i'd usually be right.


you're really bad at making points. i like you anyway though.
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nobody likes it when somebody else looks at them in a negative manner, judgemental, critical and blah blah blah. so your best bet is to think about the positive things about that person. nobody is perfect and everybody has flaws. you don't know everything about that person. if you are judgemental of others, others might be more judgemental of you. what goes around, comes around type of deal. you don't have to associate yourself with people who don't have the same philosophy of life like you do, so this way you won't feel like you're being too judgemental.

concentrate on the positive, or just don't think about that person. the world is a more interesting place because we are all different.
 
fistfullofsteel said:
nobody likes it when somebody else looks at them in a negative manner, judgemental, critical and blah blah blah. so your best bet is to think about the positive things about that person. nobody is perfect and everybody has flaws. you don't know everything about that person. if you are judgemental of others, others might be more judgemental of you. what goes around, comes around type of deal. you don't have to associate yourself with people who don't have the same philosophy of life like you do, so this way you won't feel like you're being too judgemental.

concentrate on the positive, or just don't think about that person. the world is a more interesting place because we are all different.
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i do know all of that. I'm not ALWAYS judgemental- i have no doubt that there are people I would originally form one opinion about that are quite opposite of that. I run into that ALL the time and i LOVE being wrong about my initial judgement, if i've had one.

one of my good friends is brilliant and SUPER wealthy. She looks like a slob though.
 
stilleto said:
the thing about reflections of yourself is universal.

but also, a poor example... if you see laziness, ugliness, sloppiness, lack of taste or wealth or manners or cleanliness.. of COURSE you're going to hate that about yourself... it doesn't make it a reflection though. it just makes you human.

a person would have to be totally blind not to realize they have SOME of those qualities in themselves- everyone does. it doesn't mean you don't hate or judge them though.

example... I see a woman with a gunt. she's wearing stretch pants in light blue with a big stain on her ass and cellulite is in it's glory. She's wearing a sleeveless shirt with tweety bird on it and it's too short and tight.

my first thought is "oh, gross." plus, "dirty, stupid, slob" and then i wonder why they didn't look in the mirror before they left the house and what kind of person would let themselves go out like that.

am i really thinking poorly upon myself for the times I may have left the house looking crappy?

NO. i'm thinking "COVER YOUR FRIGGIN' GUNT, YOU PIG".

see?
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I do see, and I don't like seeing that too, but I will say bitches like that have balls and they have my admiration for that. So I start thinking about how she must have high self confidence, or at least I like to think she does.
 
fistfullofsteel said:
I do see, and I don't like seeing that too, but I will say bitches like that have balls and they have my admiration for that. So I start thinking about how she must have high self confidence, or at least I like to think she does.
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do you really?

i mean, i know we'd all like to THINK we think like that, but do you?

not that you shouldn't- i've seen women on the beach who were less than model thin and wearing a bikini. for a second I think, "damn woman, don't you see what you look like?" but then sometimes I change my mind and decide, "good for you!"

so in that example- i do re-train my thoughts like you said. but when the extreme happens (you ever go to a county fair? come to the one near me this summer... ), i just think "fat slob".

i'm not really just referring to fatness btw. I really try not to judge fatness, since i've been there.
 
stilleto said:
one of my good friends is brilliant and SUPER wealthy. She looks like a slob though.
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a good lesson is learned there. you can't always judge a person by their looks and or book by its cover. everybody is judgemental. if it is extreme then it probably become a problem.
 
fistfullofsteel said:
a good lesson is learned there. you can't always judge a person by their looks and or book by its cover. everybody is judgemental. if it is extreme then it probably become a problem.
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well, she's also clean and has a 3 karat diamond on her finger... people may look at her at first and think "trailer trash" and then take a closer look at her $1200 purse and rock on her hand and say "oh wait, nevermind".

I know what you're saying though- they've still judged her without really knowing.

there are some things that are just true though. you see a house with trash on the yard and plastic flamingos and you can try to justify it all you want- maybe they are really old, maybe they recently got sick, maybe they've fallen on super hard times.
but deep down, you know that the chances of those are slim- they are just slobs who don't give a shit what their neighbors have to look at.
 
stilleto said:
do you really?

i mean, i know we'd all like to THINK we think like that, but do you?

not that you shouldn't- i've seen women on the beach who were less than model thin and wearing a bikini. for a second I think, "damn woman, don't you see what you look like?" but then sometimes I change my mind and decide, "good for you!"

so in that example- i do re-train my thoughts like you said. but when the extreme happens (you ever go to a county fair? come to the one near me this summer... ), i just think "fat slob".

i'm not really just referring to fatness btw. I really try not to judge fatness, since i've been there.
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yes, i do. ever see somebody who can't dance for shit but they still get out on the dance floor and still dance. maybe they think they can or maybe they know they can't, but they still have balls and they're usually having alot more fun than 99% of the wallflowers. that counts for something in my book.

you can meet somebody with really bad teeth and think they are slobs. or maybe they were raised in a family where everybody has bad teeth and to them it is normal. or maybe they just don't have the money to get them fixed.
 
stilleto said:
well, she's also clean and has a 3 karat diamond on her finger... people may look at her at first and think "trailer trash" and then take a closer look at her $1200 purse and rock on her hand and say "oh wait, nevermind".
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Bitch probably won a law suit because she spilled hot coffee on her fat ass and there was no warning on the cup.

Also, she may have taken her first shower in weeks on that day.

Judge away.
 
jack sparrow said:
Bitch probably won a law suit because she spilled hot coffee on her fat ass and there was no warning on the cup.

Also, she may have taken her first shower in weeks on that day.

Judge away.
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alter!!!!!!
 
stilleto said:
I know I see trailer parks and I think "trash".

my daughter has a friend who's parents keep a chicken in the house and the mom wears so much makeup that it's frightening. I can't help but think "pigs" when i see them.

I judge people by how they look, how they speak, and how they live. I am usually right, but not always and i shouldn't judge, i know.

how do i not?


btw, losers need not reply to this thread. thanks.
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You're human...you can't help but evaluate and judge, you're also a wiminz which makes it even harder. God made you this way, embrace it. :)
 
Try this phrase the next time you see those people...

"I don't give a fig."

Or

"You people are dead to me."

I amazed how often I say that phrase through my day.
 
fistfullofsteel said:
yes, i do. ever see somebody who can't dance for shit but they still get out on the dance floor and still dance. maybe they think they can or maybe they know they can't, but they still have balls and they're usually having alot more fun than 99% of the wallflowers. that counts for something in my book.

you can meet somebody with really bad teeth and think they are slobs. or maybe they were raised in a family where everybody has bad teeth and to them it is normal. or maybe they just don't have the money to get them fixed.
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example #1- i think THOSE people are awesome. I love that. and even the teeth thing, I assume they CAN'T get them fixed, or they would- lack of money or fear of dentist, etc. I don't judge things that easily have an excuse for not being perfect. It's things that people could change and just don't that I judge.

There's a man i work with who is all scruffy. He's short and heavy, and wears baggy jeans and a big oversized shirt. his beared is all scraggly and his hair is too long. He's not young.
when i first saw him, i thought, "oooh, creepy."

now I know him, and he's a brilliant physicist. FOrmer hippy, who just doesn't care about his scraggly beard hair. he's AWESOME.
that's what made me think of this thread- because I originally thought of him as so gross and now I realize what a wonderful man he is (btw, he loves his wife to death and she's dying of colon cancer. it makes me so sad to think of him alone).
 
stilleto said:
example #1- i think THOSE people are awesome. I love that. and even the teeth thing, I assume they CAN'T get them fixed, or they would- lack of money or fear of dentist, etc. I don't judge things that easily have an excuse for not being perfect. It's things that people could change and just don't that I judge.
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if somebody has the means to get their teeth fixed and was thought to take care of their teeth but just neglected it then that is just foolishness. i've talked to dentists. they all said, you want to hold onto your own teeth as long as possible.
 
stilleto said:
the thing about reflections of yourself is universal.

but also, a poor example... if you see laziness, ugliness, sloppiness, lack of taste or wealth or manners or cleanliness.. of COURSE you're going to hate that about yourself... it doesn't make it a reflection though. it just makes you human.

a person would have to be totally blind not to realize they have SOME of those qualities in themselves- everyone does. it doesn't mean you don't hate or judge them though.

example... I see a woman with a gunt. she's wearing stretch pants in light blue with a big stain on her ass and cellulite is in it's glory. She's wearing a sleeveless shirt with tweety bird on it and it's too short and tight.

my first thought is "oh, gross." plus, "dirty, stupid, slob" and then i wonder why they didn't look in the mirror before they left the house and what kind of person would let themselves go out like that.

am i really thinking poorly upon myself for the times I may have left the house looking crappy?

NO. i'm thinking "COVER YOUR FRIGGIN' GUNT, YOU PIG".

see?
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What I've learned: calling other names like "pig" or thinking it about them says more about you than what you actually feel about the other person.
The heavy woman wearing stretch pants may be truly happy in her life and could care less what others think of her, therefore she has freedom.
You on the other hand need to judge her, therefore having no freedom.

Judging others fills a fragile ego. People who sit in judgment feel they are better than others. If you can think deeper than the ego, then judgment fades.

I too struggle with judging others, but less so the last few months of my life.
We're all just a bunch of suckers trying to live another day the best we know how
 
blueta2 said:
What I've learned: calling other names like "pig" or thinking it about them says more about you than what you actually feel about the other person.
The heavy woman wearing stretch pants may be truly happy in her life and could care less what others think of her, therefore she has freedom.
You on the other hand need to judge her, therefore having no freedom.

Judging others fills a fragile ego. People who sit in judgment feel they are better than others. If you can think deeper than the ego, then judgment fades.

I too struggle with judging others, but less so the last few months of my life.
We're all just a bunch of suckers trying to live another day the best we know how
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well i wouldn't really call a woman like that a pig to her face... but it was just an example.
Living around here (and maybe it would happen anywhere), i see a LOT of backwoods, country people. sometimes I see a family who are probably farmers and the wife is a big woman with 3 chins and it just makes me laugh at how different so many people are.

but

there's still LOTS of times I wonder wtf people are thinking.

I think i get caught up between waves of humility, where I don't judge anyone, and waves or haughtiness from the way I lived growing up.
 
I was in Wal mart the other day and there are a lot of welfare folks who are overweight, have no teeth and their carts filled with Pepsi and junk food that shop there.
I want to judge them because I think my ways are so much better than theirs. But then I remember, they are not what they eat or how they live, they are exactly like me, but just on a different path.
Being judgemental is not an easy habit to break, it's a sad habit actually. All is does is fill us with toxins and "cancers". Like smoking really ;-)
 
blueta2 said:
I was in Wal mart the other day and there are a lot of welfare folks who are overweight, have no teeth and their carts filled with Pepsi and junk food that shop there.
I want to judge them because I think my ways are so much better than theirs. But then I remember, they are not what they eat or how they live, they are exactly like me, but just on a different path.
Being judgement is not an easy habit to break, it's a sad habit actually. All is does is fill us with toxins and "cancers". Like smoking really ;-)
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only less smelly.



















:artist:
 
negative judgement of others generally stems from seeing in those people aspects of yourself you are in denial about and resist experiencing.
 
curvymommy said:
You seem like a compassionate person.

I have those same thoughts about people. I just try to "judge not" because I KNOW someone else is always judging me. No matter how awesome you are other people can always pick you apart and crusify you for no good reason.

All that being said, I judge and stereotype people too. I catch myself and try to correct it in my own brain before I put it out there though.

It's a toughie.
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stillet??
 
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also, hi :heart:
 
stilleto said:
I know I see trailer parks and I think "trash".

my daughter has a friend who's parents keep a chicken in the house and the mom wears so much makeup that it's frightening. I can't help but think "pigs" when i see them.

I judge people by how they look, how they speak, and how they live. I am usually right, but not always and i shouldn't judge, i know.

how do i not?


btw, losers need not reply to this thread. thanks.
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I believe generally we are trained to think this way. the news, movies we watch, tv shows like my name is earl. Things of that nature. Making an effort to change your thoughts or acknolwledge they aren't right, is a good start. Change your thoughts then you will change your actions. Well thats what the anger management counsler told me lol
 
stilleto said:
really? that's GREAT!! i'm proud of you.
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yep and thanks :-)
I had no choice. My health is not improving, so it was time.
Keeping my fingers crossed for continued success.
 
stilleto said:
the thing about reflections of yourself is universal.

but also, a poor example... if you see laziness, ugliness, sloppiness, lack of taste or wealth or manners or cleanliness.. of COURSE you're going to hate that about yourself... it doesn't make it a reflection though. it just makes you human.

a person would have to be totally blind not to realize they have SOME of those qualities in themselves- everyone does. it doesn't mean you don't hate or judge them though.

example... I see a woman with a gunt. she's wearing stretch pants in light blue with a big stain on her ass and cellulite is in it's glory. She's wearing a sleeveless shirt with tweety bird on it and it's too short and tight.

my first thought is "oh, gross." plus, "dirty, stupid, slob" and then i wonder why they didn't look in the mirror before they left the house and what kind of person would let themselves go out like that.

am i really thinking poorly upon myself for the times I may have left the house looking crappy?

NO. i'm thinking "COVER YOUR FRIGGIN' GUNT, YOU PIG".

see?
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of course i am giving you the readers digest version.

this is after all an internet forum.

the idea is this:

the deeper the chord something strikes,( not repulse, aggravate or

mildly annoy,) the closer to home it hits. this is when you need to

look at yourself and reserve judgement.

the majority of who we are and what drives us, rest just below the

conscious mind. the mates we choose, our ability to earn a living

and most importantly, our level of contentment and happiness

are set in a schematic before we turn 7 years old.

it can be reprogrammed.

i can relate to being overly judgmental. i found that it is just

a symptom of a larger disease.

i was a really fucked up person in my previous life.

now i am ok.
 
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