got dumped..BUT I'M GONNA GET PUMPED, HUMPED, JUMPED AND BUMPED!

[Gambino]

Re: got dumped..

In a few months, when someone bumps this thread, you will be embarrassed...you will see how foolish and desperate you are acting...I know 'cause I am guilty of the same irrational activity. You got kicked in the nuts, it may take a minute to pick yourself back up, but give it a little time...before long, you'll rediscover the freedom that is bachlerhood, cherish this time, fore it is typically fleeting.
Nothing against your ex, but I think you can do a lot better, especially considering your location and income.

I hate to send a false hope, but this chick will be back. They always seem to come back... You shouldn't take her back, but I know you will...

 

[Lestat]

Re: got dumped..

In a few months, when someone bumps this thread, you will be embarrassed...you will see how foolish and desperate you are acting...I know 'cause I am guilty of the same irrational activity. You got kicked in the nuts, it may take a minute to pick yourself back up, but give it a little time...before long, you'll rediscover the freedom that is bachlerhood, cherish this time, fore it is typically fleeting.
Nothing against your ex, but I think you can do a lot better, especially considering your location and income.

I hate to send a false hope, but this chick will be back. They always seem to come back... You shouldn't take her back, but I know you will...

ha.. thanks man. posts like this make me feel great.

I am hoping I am embarrased as all shit in a few months.. a year.. whatever. And I am totally fine with that. I basically just poured my thoughts and emotions into this threda unchecked.. I didn't give a fuck what people thought, or how it could change my whole online image that people know and love so much (yeah right).. I just wanted some type of release.. outlet.. because it was killing me, all these feelings.

The hard stuff isn't done yet either.. but like I said I think now I have this feeling of hope.. i can feel that somewhere down the line.. one of these days.. I won't feel like I do now. I'll be able to eat a full bowl of cereal again... I'll be able to think rationally about my ex.

And I don't mind the false hope.. I'm moving on from that, I don't expect her back at this point at all and if she did.. I'd consider things as they stood at the time... I'd hopefully be thinking rationally and be able to make the decision that was best for myself.

personally though, if I had to bet one way or another, I'd best she's not back...

 

[jerseyart]

Re: got dumped..

Lestat,

If it helps you deal, screw what anyone else thinks. I don't think there a re more than a handful who begrudge you. Everyone here has been there,done that, and knows it sucks like hell to go through.

 

[Lestat]

Re: got dumped..

In a few months, when someone bumps this thread, you will be embarrassed...you will see how foolish and desperate you are acting...I know 'cause I am guilty of the same irrational activity. You got kicked in the nuts, it may take a minute to pick yourself back up, but give it a little time...before long, you'll rediscover the freedom that is bachlerhood, cherish this time, fore it is typically fleeting.
Nothing against your ex, but I think you can do a lot better, especially considering your location and income.

I hate to send a false hope, but this chick will be back. They always seem to come back... You shouldn't take her back, but I know you will...

one other thing though.. what exactly do you mean by location and income?

I'll tell you right now I make about 60K.. which for San Diego isn't that much, I can't afford a god damn house that's for sure.. I don't live large at all.. i stash a ton of money into investment and retirement accounts... I rent a nice place, own my car outright, and do spend some money on myself from time to time in the form of nice vacations... but I can't compete money wise with doctors, lawyers, etc... which at my age of 27 is really the competition I am looking at.. lots of professionals now coming out of school single and ready to start families and what not.

 

[bran987]

Re: got dumped..

I read that part about how you told her friend how terrible you were feeling and how you couldn't do anything and how miserable you are and how you'd never felt that bad.

dude, I did that once, told people how I felt who knew her. don't do it, people are cruel and will talk about you behind your back. even for no reason, and I don't know why but they will and they don't say nice things. talk about it with your friends but not people who know her.

I would write emails to her and tell her how miserable I was and she would just say oh you'll be fine and that she was so sorry.

I finally wrote and said ok, I'm moving on, I tried but now I don't want to speak anymore, it has to be this way and I am looking forward to meeting someone new.

she wrote back and I didn't respond.

then she wrote again and I didn't respond.

then she wrote a third time and I didn't respond.

That was when she wrote and said oh god brandon you know how to play me like a flute, am I that easy to get over? I thought you would take a little more time.. I still think about you and miss you too, I still see your things around my room bla bla blah..

it's human psychology, if I had kept up being aloof then I probably could've gotten her back, but I turned into a wimp again and said I was lying that I wasn't ready to get over her, at which point she became uninterested completely, again.

and it's not even that they want to play games it's just how our minds work.

it's hard, but don't let anybody else who knows her see how hurt and upset you are, just talk to us instead, or people who don't know her. I was a wreck and could barely eat for weeks, I dreamed about her for months, even into my next 2 relationships.

now I barely think about her. it's been 3 years.

 

[Gambino]

Re: got dumped..

one other thing though.. what exactly do you mean by location and income?

I'll tell you right now I make about 60K.. which for San Diego isn't that much, I can't afford a god damn house that's for sure.. I don't live large at all.. i stash a ton of money into investment and retirement accounts... I rent a nice place, own my car outright, and do spend some money on myself from time to time in the form of nice vacations... but I can't compete money wise with doctors, lawyers, etc... which at my age of 27 is really the competition I am looking at.. lots of professionals now coming out of school single and ready to start families and what not.

I thought you made more, I remember you saying you recieved a MBA...by locale I knew you lived in SD which has got to be crawling with ladies. Anyway, that salary and location work in your favor...I'm in rural michigan making about 20k less and I still do alright...

One thing this will do is make you a bit cyincal, a bit grizzled, and a lot less of a pansy...everyone needs to get fucked over from time to time...the winners bounce back stronger, the losers flounder in depression and regret.

No offense but fuck the Lakers...

 

[velvett]

Re: got dumped..

Break ups are much like hardcore dieting.

The first three days - you wonder if you're gonna die and if you don't you wish you would.

Days 3-5 - you start getting a little stronger and more confident

Days 8-10 - you're either euphoric or insane

After 21 days - you start to wonder why you thought it would be so hard in the first place.


Rule of thumb here too - ever notice how hard it is to strat eating clean cold turkey after you've gone back to "the cheat meal" - that just like having sex with the ex - you can never go back to the ex without having a small hill to overcome.

 

[velvett]

Re: got dumped..

I thought you made more, I remember you saying you recieved a MBA...by locale I knew you lived in SD which has got to be crawling with ladies. Anyway, that salary and location work in your favor...I'm in rural michigan making about 20k less and I still do alright...

One thing this will do is make you a bit cyincal, a bit grizzled, and a lot less of a pansy...everyone needs to get fucked over from time to time...the winners bounce back stronger, the losers flounder in depression and regret.

No offense but fuck the Lakers...

You're a scorpio aren't you?

 

[Lestat]

Re: got dumped..

I read that part about how you told her friend how terrible you were feeling and how you couldn't do anything and how miserable you are and how you'd never felt that bad.

dude, I did that once, told people how I felt who knew her. don't do it, people are cruel and will talk about you behind your back. even for no reason, and I don't know why but they will and they don't say nice things. talk about it with your friends but not people who know her.

I would write emails to her and tell her how miserable I was and she would just say oh you'll be fine and that she was so sorry.

I finally wrote and said ok, I'm moving on, I tried but now I don't want to speak anymore, it has to be this way and I am looking forward to meeting someone new.

she wrote back and I didn't respond.

then she wrote again and I didn't respond.

then she wrote a third time and I didn't respond.

That was when she wrote and said oh god brandon you know how to play me like a flute, am I that easy to get over? I thought you would take a little more time.. I still think about you and miss you too, I still see your things around my room bla bla blah..

it's human psychology, if I had kept up being aloof then I probably could've gotten her back, but I turned into a wimp again and said I was lying that I wasn't ready to get over her, at which point she became uninterested completely, again.

and it's not even that they want to play games it's just how our minds work.

it's hard, but don't let anybody else who knows her see how hurt and upset you are, just talk to us instead, or people who don't know her. I was a wreck and could barely eat for weeks, I dreamed about her for months, even into my next 2 relationships.

now I barely think about her. it's been 3 years.

Thanks man.

I don't think I've spoken to her friends at all about how much I miss her.... not recently at all. We have some mutual friends, but I know which ones are more mine then hers... and for the most part I'm not really talking to much in detail with the mutual ones... maybe just one co-worker who I was friends with long before she was. But I get your point and I will heed it.

 

[Gambino]

Re: got dumped..

You're a scorpio aren't you?

I think I am aquariris (sp)...b-day is feb.3rd...