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got dumped..BUT I'M GONNA GET PUMPED, HUMPED, JUMPED AND BUMPED!
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gotmilk
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Re: got dumped..
I was told that once. Ten years later I bumped into the ex and I felt the same pain over again.
Run Brian.....RUN!
Take your 12 foot dick and ram someone's cervix into her throat repeatedly until the pain wears off.
And keep looking for someone else at the same time
velvett said:
I was told that once. Ten years later I bumped into the ex and I felt the same pain over again.
Run Brian.....RUN!
Take your 12 foot dick and ram someone's cervix into her throat repeatedly until the pain wears off.
And keep looking for someone else at the same time
string_bean00
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Re: got dumped..
I went through all this with the first girl I really cared about. The advice about cutting off contact and such is unbelievably good, believe it or not. You'll get over her so much more quickly. By hanging around, talking to her, etc, you just make it easier for her to get over you.
Cut off all contact and she will miss you and want your ass back. Not saying you should go back, but be a man about it. I know, easier said than done.
I went through all this with the first girl I really cared about. The advice about cutting off contact and such is unbelievably good, believe it or not. You'll get over her so much more quickly. By hanging around, talking to her, etc, you just make it easier for her to get over you.
Cut off all contact and she will miss you and want your ass back. Not saying you should go back, but be a man about it. I know, easier said than done.
Re: got dumped..
Ok.
Not to beat a dead horse, but I didn't want to start a new thread on this.
So I went to Vegas last nigth for a bachelor party. It was with some of my closest friends.
The problem here was that my last vegas trip was just a month ago for my ex girlfriend's birthday. It was a very fun trip that I remember fondly. We both enjoy gambling and it was something we did together fairly regularly (we don't gamble much but when we did it was always both of us and a lot of fun).
So the group goes to the club Rain. Now this sucks because last month THAT is where I went with my girlfriend. It is such a different experience going there with your woman and then going there single. I had a terrible time. You feel like you need to go up to chicks, ask them to dance.. make small talk... but honestly I wouldn't date 99% of the chicks in the club. I'm not SUPER picky, but I am particular.. I look for some very specific qualities in women I date. Now of course I'm not looking to date someone right away, and certainly have no expectations of meeting someone in Vegas to date.. it just feels so contrived and empty... that is the main word I can use to describe my state recently.. empty.
now as the night went on things got scary.. I was getting more and more depressed and down.. the alcohol did NOT help at all. I didn't call her, but I did the next worse thing.. I sent her a text message... well it started as one but ended up being multiple.... I couldn't even tell my friend what they said I was so embarrased.. but I will type them here:
#1 "I didn't wanna do this but this is the hardest thing i've dealt with i n my life. i love you so much and I wish I could stop and make this end. I am so sorry. Yes I am weak.
#2 please call me
#3 I should never have drank, I am so sorry. my lack of self control is embarassing. I feel pathetic. Completely void of anything but pain.
#4 I wish we were working out today and then going to breakfast. I feel like I am dying. all I can think is why me? how did this happen? what do I need to do?
#5 I fel like if I had another chance, if I could show you how much love I had to give, it would all be different. you know me like no one else does. have i let you down?
#6 I'll do amnything to be on the ame page again. we have always been so good at talking about things as rational people. im at such a loss.
These were all sent between 4am and 6am this morning. I was lying in the hotel room literally completely despondant... all of my thoughts were consumed with her.. I keep replaying all these great experiences over in my head.. all the i love yous.. all the special moments.. I'm trying to think of things that were not good.. imperfections.. that type of thing.. but they seem so insigificant compared to the love we shared.
This is REALLY demoralizing me... depressing me.. ruining my self esteem... self confidence.. and makes me really feel like nothing is life is right for me now... like I need to move away.. do something drastic. And even scarier I was near suicidal last night... it hurt so bad I figured one way to really end this pain would just be to end it all.
I'm not thinking like that now.. and I rarely get suicidal.. so no need to freak out or call 911 for me... but I can't tell my friends these feelings.. my friends see me as someone who is strong.. doesn't let much bother him... emotionally.. a rock. I'm low drama and easy going. I told most of my close friends this weekend that I was REALLY down.. really bummed.. that I couldn't stop thinking about her and our last trip there to vegas.. most of them just give me a pat on the back and tell me to cheer up. It doesn't do much.
I know this will pass, it just seems like my head is fucked.. I can't stop dwelling on this.
She called me at like 8 in the morning.. I missed the call but she left a message saying she was sorry I had a rough night.. that she got all my messages but she was sleeping.. to call her if I needed to talk... I called at like 9:30 when I woke up.. didn't say too much, just told her that this was so fucking hard and I couldn't get my head straight.. couldn't stop thinking about all the fun times we had together.
So yesterday and most of today were SO tough for me... still hard to eat... my stomach is in knots.. she consumes all my thoughts. I've never had a breakup affect me like this before... its literally the worst emotional pain I've ever felt and I feel like I'm not equipped to handle this.. I don't know if I should seek a professional.. of if this is just too soon (its been one week today since she dumped me).
Here is one thing that made me feel better for about an hour.
On the plane right back from Vegas.. its fast... I was just gonna try to sleep.. however I was on the aisle and my buddy had the window.. this chick asks if she can sit in the middle.. I say sure.. she is gorgeous.. I had noticed her right away and was hoping she would sit there.
I start talking to her before we take off.. she lives in San Diego.. she was just on a layover in Vegas coming back from Seattle.. she is 27 (same age as me!) she works in marketing for a technical company in San Diego.. a branch at least. Semantic.. they make anti virus software and waht not.. system security shit. She asked me a lot of questions about myself and I asked many of her. We talked non stop the entire time.. spent a lot of time looking at each other while we were chatting. She went to Cornell, was very bright... we talked about reading mostly.. she was reading a book I loved.. Fast Food Nation.. we talked about other books and reccomended a few for each other... as we were getting ready to land I ask her.. "Can I get your number before we land?" She said sure and starts looking for something to write with... I was fucking excited.. this girl was physically good looking, and mentally pretty much what I wanted.. ivy league college grad.. recently moved to San Diego... it was sweeet. She couldn't find a pen, so I said I'd just put her number in my phone when we landed...
That's when she dropped the fucking bomb... "i've just gotta tell you, I have a boyfriend and normally wouldn't do this but we're both new to the area and could use some new friends..." SHIT... i was just thinking about how exciting it was to have met her and how for that hour my mind was FREE.. I wasn't thinking of my ex anymore... I knew that the odds of this new girl and I ever really becoming anything was slim.. that I'm not emotionally ready for anything now.. but it was exciting and therapeutic none the less. We still exchanged numbers.. and I saw her and her boyfriend together going to their car when we landed... she waved at me... unfortuantely the guy looks like a good guy.. definitely works out... not unattractive... AND they moved out here together from New York.. so I'm assuming its pretty damn serious.
Oh well.. it was again bitter sweet.. cool to have met her and been able to talk it up like that.. but sucks because she is taken and women like that I find are FAR and FEW BETWEEN... plenty of fucking air headed hos that work as waitresses and shit... nothing against waitresses.. but as I've mentioned many times I really need intellectual stimulation... I've had the hot ass blond trophy chick that didn't go to school and really didn't care about anything more then her makeup and clothes... that is unsatisfying in worst way.
Anyway.. that is my update.. right now I'm still feeling pretty good. Even though this chick was taken I kinda saw through the clouds for a moment and realized there was hope. But I'm afraid that soon my thoughts will again focus back on my ex and I'll be in that shitty place again... it usually happens as I am trying to go to bed
Ok.
Not to beat a dead horse, but I didn't want to start a new thread on this.
So I went to Vegas last nigth for a bachelor party. It was with some of my closest friends.
The problem here was that my last vegas trip was just a month ago for my ex girlfriend's birthday. It was a very fun trip that I remember fondly. We both enjoy gambling and it was something we did together fairly regularly (we don't gamble much but when we did it was always both of us and a lot of fun).
So the group goes to the club Rain. Now this sucks because last month THAT is where I went with my girlfriend. It is such a different experience going there with your woman and then going there single. I had a terrible time. You feel like you need to go up to chicks, ask them to dance.. make small talk... but honestly I wouldn't date 99% of the chicks in the club. I'm not SUPER picky, but I am particular.. I look for some very specific qualities in women I date. Now of course I'm not looking to date someone right away, and certainly have no expectations of meeting someone in Vegas to date.. it just feels so contrived and empty... that is the main word I can use to describe my state recently.. empty.
now as the night went on things got scary.. I was getting more and more depressed and down.. the alcohol did NOT help at all. I didn't call her, but I did the next worse thing.. I sent her a text message... well it started as one but ended up being multiple.... I couldn't even tell my friend what they said I was so embarrased.. but I will type them here:
#1 "I didn't wanna do this but this is the hardest thing i've dealt with i n my life. i love you so much and I wish I could stop and make this end. I am so sorry. Yes I am weak.
#2 please call me
#3 I should never have drank, I am so sorry. my lack of self control is embarassing. I feel pathetic. Completely void of anything but pain.
#4 I wish we were working out today and then going to breakfast. I feel like I am dying. all I can think is why me? how did this happen? what do I need to do?
#5 I fel like if I had another chance, if I could show you how much love I had to give, it would all be different. you know me like no one else does. have i let you down?
#6 I'll do amnything to be on the ame page again. we have always been so good at talking about things as rational people. im at such a loss.
These were all sent between 4am and 6am this morning. I was lying in the hotel room literally completely despondant... all of my thoughts were consumed with her.. I keep replaying all these great experiences over in my head.. all the i love yous.. all the special moments.. I'm trying to think of things that were not good.. imperfections.. that type of thing.. but they seem so insigificant compared to the love we shared.
This is REALLY demoralizing me... depressing me.. ruining my self esteem... self confidence.. and makes me really feel like nothing is life is right for me now... like I need to move away.. do something drastic. And even scarier I was near suicidal last night... it hurt so bad I figured one way to really end this pain would just be to end it all.
I'm not thinking like that now.. and I rarely get suicidal.. so no need to freak out or call 911 for me... but I can't tell my friends these feelings.. my friends see me as someone who is strong.. doesn't let much bother him... emotionally.. a rock. I'm low drama and easy going. I told most of my close friends this weekend that I was REALLY down.. really bummed.. that I couldn't stop thinking about her and our last trip there to vegas.. most of them just give me a pat on the back and tell me to cheer up. It doesn't do much.
I know this will pass, it just seems like my head is fucked.. I can't stop dwelling on this.
She called me at like 8 in the morning.. I missed the call but she left a message saying she was sorry I had a rough night.. that she got all my messages but she was sleeping.. to call her if I needed to talk... I called at like 9:30 when I woke up.. didn't say too much, just told her that this was so fucking hard and I couldn't get my head straight.. couldn't stop thinking about all the fun times we had together.
So yesterday and most of today were SO tough for me... still hard to eat... my stomach is in knots.. she consumes all my thoughts. I've never had a breakup affect me like this before... its literally the worst emotional pain I've ever felt and I feel like I'm not equipped to handle this.. I don't know if I should seek a professional.. of if this is just too soon (its been one week today since she dumped me).
Here is one thing that made me feel better for about an hour.
On the plane right back from Vegas.. its fast... I was just gonna try to sleep.. however I was on the aisle and my buddy had the window.. this chick asks if she can sit in the middle.. I say sure.. she is gorgeous.. I had noticed her right away and was hoping she would sit there.
I start talking to her before we take off.. she lives in San Diego.. she was just on a layover in Vegas coming back from Seattle.. she is 27 (same age as me!) she works in marketing for a technical company in San Diego.. a branch at least. Semantic.. they make anti virus software and waht not.. system security shit. She asked me a lot of questions about myself and I asked many of her. We talked non stop the entire time.. spent a lot of time looking at each other while we were chatting. She went to Cornell, was very bright... we talked about reading mostly.. she was reading a book I loved.. Fast Food Nation.. we talked about other books and reccomended a few for each other... as we were getting ready to land I ask her.. "Can I get your number before we land?" She said sure and starts looking for something to write with... I was fucking excited.. this girl was physically good looking, and mentally pretty much what I wanted.. ivy league college grad.. recently moved to San Diego... it was sweeet. She couldn't find a pen, so I said I'd just put her number in my phone when we landed...
That's when she dropped the fucking bomb... "i've just gotta tell you, I have a boyfriend and normally wouldn't do this but we're both new to the area and could use some new friends..." SHIT... i was just thinking about how exciting it was to have met her and how for that hour my mind was FREE.. I wasn't thinking of my ex anymore... I knew that the odds of this new girl and I ever really becoming anything was slim.. that I'm not emotionally ready for anything now.. but it was exciting and therapeutic none the less. We still exchanged numbers.. and I saw her and her boyfriend together going to their car when we landed... she waved at me... unfortuantely the guy looks like a good guy.. definitely works out... not unattractive... AND they moved out here together from New York.. so I'm assuming its pretty damn serious.
Oh well.. it was again bitter sweet.. cool to have met her and been able to talk it up like that.. but sucks because she is taken and women like that I find are FAR and FEW BETWEEN... plenty of fucking air headed hos that work as waitresses and shit... nothing against waitresses.. but as I've mentioned many times I really need intellectual stimulation... I've had the hot ass blond trophy chick that didn't go to school and really didn't care about anything more then her makeup and clothes... that is unsatisfying in worst way.
Anyway.. that is my update.. right now I'm still feeling pretty good. Even though this chick was taken I kinda saw through the clouds for a moment and realized there was hope. But I'm afraid that soon my thoughts will again focus back on my ex and I'll be in that shitty place again... it usually happens as I am trying to go to bed
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Ulcasterdropout
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Re: got dumped..
I've got no advice, but I hope you soon forget this girl and renew the happiness in your life.
I've got no advice, but I hope you soon forget this girl and renew the happiness in your life.
Re: got dumped..
I keep trying to compare this to other hard times I've had emotionally and NOTHING compares.
I lost my grandmother last year. We were close, I loved her. When I went to the visitation and saw all the pictures of her in her youth.. then when she was married.. then later in life... I broke down crying.. I couldn't control it... I was overcome by sadness... it passed though within an hour... I was still sad, but I got the worst of it out.
I started crying again a little later in the day when I thought about it again.
And I cried once more at the funeral when I saw the casket being lowered.
If I think of it now, its sad, but it doesn't negatively affect my life.. i've gone through the grieving and its over... and it was over fairly quickly.. I was still able to enjoy the rest of my life even during the funeral.. seeing family make me happy.. I felt like I had a LOT going for me.
I know I have a lot going for me now, but I can't seem to convince my brain of that.. this grief is like I have said all consuming.
I think part of it is because when my grandma died.. I knew it was coming, she had been really sick for a long while... also, my grandma loved me until the day she had died... i take comfort in that.
With my ex girlfriend.. its like she loved me.. but now she doesn't... but she's still there, just not quite the same person to me.. its so hard for me to accept this fact and is what I believe is causing me so much grief.
Me too man.. me too. I've never been in a spot like this.Ulcasterdropout said:
I keep trying to compare this to other hard times I've had emotionally and NOTHING compares.
I lost my grandmother last year. We were close, I loved her. When I went to the visitation and saw all the pictures of her in her youth.. then when she was married.. then later in life... I broke down crying.. I couldn't control it... I was overcome by sadness... it passed though within an hour... I was still sad, but I got the worst of it out.
I started crying again a little later in the day when I thought about it again.
And I cried once more at the funeral when I saw the casket being lowered.
If I think of it now, its sad, but it doesn't negatively affect my life.. i've gone through the grieving and its over... and it was over fairly quickly.. I was still able to enjoy the rest of my life even during the funeral.. seeing family make me happy.. I felt like I had a LOT going for me.
I know I have a lot going for me now, but I can't seem to convince my brain of that.. this grief is like I have said all consuming.
I think part of it is because when my grandma died.. I knew it was coming, she had been really sick for a long while... also, my grandma loved me until the day she had died... i take comfort in that.
With my ex girlfriend.. its like she loved me.. but now she doesn't... but she's still there, just not quite the same person to me.. its so hard for me to accept this fact and is what I believe is causing me so much grief.
MaGilicuti
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Re: got dumped..
guys that are single want a girl
guys that are in a relationship wanna be single
just enjoy your freedom for now. you'll be saving some dough as well. something better will come along. that's all there is to it.
guys that are single want a girl
guys that are in a relationship wanna be single
just enjoy your freedom for now. you'll be saving some dough as well. something better will come along. that's all there is to it.
Puddles
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Re: got dumped..
It really sucks to have your heart broken. Sorry you're going through this. In time it will get easier but there will always be some pain when you think of her. Best thing you can do now is create some new memories for yourself...focus in the gym, etc. and have a goal to reach.
Even though the airplane chick is taken, maybe she'll know of a single friend that you might like. Fate is weird like that, maybe that's why you two were brought together.
Wishing you the best.
It really sucks to have your heart broken. Sorry you're going through this. In time it will get easier but there will always be some pain when you think of her. Best thing you can do now is create some new memories for yourself...focus in the gym, etc. and have a goal to reach.
Even though the airplane chick is taken, maybe she'll know of a single friend that you might like. Fate is weird like that, maybe that's why you two were brought together.
Wishing you the best.
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