Glad is officially the father

[Roxy722]

^^ this...my husband got nailed with presumption of paternity, a cpl yrs back child support for a kid hes never met (about 20k) and all medical bills for the kid upto and including the kids birth

because she said so and he was deployed in a no contact zone...was never even served but because he didn't answer the summons (couldnt, wasnt served) he's the daddy..best part is the support order didnt catch up with him until the kid was 4 or 5 and because the kid is over 2..by the states laws...my husband is stuck paying support until the kid is 18 even if a dna test showed he isnt the father. The baby mama has 4 kids with 4 named fathers...we pay just shy of 12k a year ..I can only imagine what she collects in support total for her kids.

we JUST finished paying the arrearage and getting current with the support beginning of last year

not sayin this is your sitch, but the moral of the story is...protect yourself...the courts aren't even remotely logical with this shit

This just seems absolutely insane to me! I feel for you guys. Absolutely nothing you can do except pay right? I knew systems were flawed but your experiences are crazy! Unreal!!

 

[Roxy722]

Im def going thru the court. I told her about it and she got mad at first and i said i could give a fuck if she was mad because she is the one who caused it, told her to stfu and drive lol, jk

like i said i will go through the court next week and set it up. Ill pay the diff in cash or I might just help buy clothes/food/diapers

Glad..congrats on the baby! I think you're wise to protect yourself and set things up formally. Good luck!

 

[the.gladiator1987]

she's gonna be real pissed when she gets her first check and the court takes their fees out of it. my lil bro's first check to his baby momma was for $13. she WTF'd him till she actually looked at the check and seen they too close to $50 for court costs and admin fees.

Just tell her to STFU and take her anger out upon your wiener.

lolol well she cant complain, she gets unemployment, food stamps, and WIC, and now CS. holy fuck!

I still dont get why I have to pay CS if I am living with her. Will they maybe make it a lower amount since I am living with her?

Or would it be that if we were married and I lived with her, then I wouldnt have to pay any, but since I am not married to her I have to pay

 

[dutchman063]

You really should consult an attorney ASAP to find out what the laws are in your state regarding child support before you do anything.

 

[DannoMight]

I think you have to be married. But if you work for tips you only have to claim 8% of your sales. Plus they can only take so much. Also don't sign anything saying you will provide insurance if the kid has medicaid. You will be stuck paying regardless of your job status or wages. And your support payments won't go down either.

 

[the.gladiator1987]

I think you have to be married. But if you work for tips you only have to claim 8% of your sales. Plus they can only take so much. Also don't sign anything saying you will provide insurance if the kid has medicaid. You will be stuck paying regardless of your job status or wages. And your support payments won't go down either.

Yea I think if ur married and live with the kid then you wouldnt pay CS. And Chili's is gay, they automatically report your CC tips. So sometimes if you make all CC tips and no cash tips, you will end up claiming 15% which is gay

And at my other job they already have my wages garnished for a ticket I got a couple years ago..

I will not provide insurance, I think he has it covered through her

 

[DannoMight]

Like others have said talk to an attorney or go the prosecutor for the family court and talk to them about your options. See what the laws are and where you stand and go.from there.

 

[the.gladiator1987]

Like others have said talk to an attorney or go the prosecutor for the family court and talk to them about your options. See what the laws are and where you stand and go.from there.

Ill pay you 10 paypal dollars to do it for me

 

[PICK3]

Glad ... save me 22 pages of reading and give me an update bro

what's the deal now?

You're getting back with the baby's mommy and are considering marrying her?

 

[the.gladiator1987]

lol im not gonna marry her bro

Im giving our family a chance. I would regret it if I didnt at least try to make us 3 work. It is different now that the baby is here and I know he is mine. We are closer and she is nicer and motherly. It is really almost a 180. But I have my guard up and I am not taking things fast like last time. I kinda live with her but not really, only because I love seeing my baby all the time. So it is easier to sleep there and hang out there. I might move in soon and be a father 24/7. I cant imagine not being with my son at this point.