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Flirting or Cheating?

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Where do you draw the line in what is harmless flirting and what is cheating. Or is any flirting while in a relationship okay with you?

How about:

1. Emailing an ex?

2. Getting drunk and having a kiss?

3. Random flirting on public part of the internet without any follow up private convos or the like?

4. Getting lap dances at a strip club?

5. Having phone sex or IM sex?

6. Hanging out with an attractive coworker?

Also, once a cheater always a cheater? Or, do you believe a tiger can changer his/her stripes?
 
My general rule, if you wouldn't do it in front of your SO then you probably shouldn't be doing it.


That being said, if you are going to flirt, don't do it in front of me. I had an ex who was over the top when it came to flirting with other men after a few drinks when we went out.
 
alien amp pharm said:
Which ones did Jackshitt do?
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None, he is a gentleman to me and I am a lady to him. Thank goodness. I don't need anyone who is troublesome right now. He is just the opposite -- always a help.
 
javaguru said:
My general rule, if you wouldn't do it in front of your SO then you probably shouldn't be doing it.


That being said, if you are going to flirt, don't do it in front of me. I had an ex who was over the top when it came to flirting with other men after a few drinks when we went out.
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I would agree, but what would you do if you were with someone who thought that EVERYTHING was cheating to the point that you were afraid to look up at a waiter/waitress for fear of what your SO would say?
 
do you have yahoo as your homepage too?
 
heatherrae said:
I would agree, but what would you do if you were with someone who thought that EVERYTHING was cheating to the point that you were afraid to look up at a waiter/waitress for fear of what your SO would say?
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Everybody looks.....looking and staring are two different things. Nothing wrong with looking.
 
javaguru said:
Everybody looks.....looking and staring are two different things. Nothing wrong with looking.
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your saying that cuz lestats looking at your butt right now

i agree, i had a thread once on looking and googling
if he casually looks, thats ok
but when he gets a fuggin crick in his neck from turning his head so fast, theres a problem
 
SoKlueles said:
do you have yahoo as your homepage too?
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No, but I saw them, thus the thread idea was born. ;-)

Now answer the damn question already.
 
heatherrae said:
Where do you draw the line in what is harmless flirting and what is cheating. Or is any flirting while in a relationship okay with you?

How about:

1. Emailing an ex? not either, but totally disrespectful on so many levels

2. Getting drunk and having a kiss? Cheating, any physical contact is not necessary

3. Random flirting on public part of the internet without any follow up private convos or the like? Obviously flirting

4. Getting lap dances at a strip club? cheating..If it were a random girl in the middle of a park it would be cheating, therefor just being it is at a public bar does not mean that it is not...

5. Having phone sex or IM sex? Cheating

6. Hanging out with an attractive coworker? not needed..

Also, once a cheater always a cheater? Or, do you believe a tiger can changer his/her stripes?
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All depends on the situation at hand. A mess up is a mess up..But once made a habit then obviously it is not a mistake
 
heatherrae said:
No, but I saw them, thus the thread idea was born. ;-)

Now answer the damn question already.
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haaaaaaaa
i did i did
at least part of it
If your doing something that you wouldnt do in front of your SO, then its cheating, because you, in your deepest of hearts, know its wrong
 
SoKlueles said:
your saying that cuz lestats looking at your butt right now

i agree, i had a thread once on looking and googling
if he casually looks, thats ok
but when he gets a fuggin crick in his neck from turning his head so fast, theres a problem
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I think as far as looking goes, I really don't mind so long as it isn't disrespectful to me. I will point out pretty girls when I see them. My ex hubbie used to love that...lol. Ithink when it would bother me is when a guy ignores me and is looking all over the place or making it obvious to other people. Then, it is rude and pigheaded.
 
SoKlueles said:
your saying that cuz lestats looking at your butt right now

i agree, i had a thread once on looking and googling
if he casually looks, thats ok
but when he gets a fuggin crick in his neck from turning his head so fast, theres a problem
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I made the mistake of doing a double take in front of my ex-wife, she was my girlfriend at the time. I learned my lesson right quick... :evil:
 
SoKlueles said:
haaaaaaaa
i did i did
at least part of it
If your doing something that you wouldnt do in front of your SO, then its cheating, because you, in your deepest of hearts, know its wrong
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agreed.

;-)
 
javaguru said:
My general rule, if you wouldn't do it in front of your SO then you probably shouldn't be doing it.


That being said, if you are going to flirt, don't do it in front of me. I had an ex who was over the top when it came to flirting with other men after a few drinks when we went out.
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Couldn't agree more. My variation was, If you don't want them to find out about it, you shouldn't do it.
 
javaguru said:
I made the mistake of doing a double take in front of my ex-wife, she was my girlfriend at the time. I learned my lesson right quick... :evil:
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yeah hammy gets punched in the kidneys
 
nefertiti said:
Couldn't agree more. My variation was, If you don't want them to find out about it, you shouldn't do it.
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do you ever think though that you could be worried about them finding out just because they are nuts?

Here is an example, say I worked in an office and the partner asked me to lunch. THis is EXTREMELY common for law firms. Now say I had a nutty bf who thought this was a BIG deal. I may be afraid he would find out, but I still don't think it is cheating.
 
heatherrae said:
do you ever think though that you could be worried about them finding out just because they are nuts?

Here is an example, say I worked in an office and the partner asked me to lunch. THis is EXTREMELY common for law firms. Now say I had a nutty bf who thought this was a BIG deal. I may be afraid he would find out, but I still don't think it is cheating.
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If you love him, then you wouldnt do it just out of respect for the psycho
 
heatherrae said:
I would agree, but what would you do if you were with someone who thought that EVERYTHING was cheating to the point that you were afraid to look up at a waiter/waitress for fear of what your SO would say?
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whew...

lol

been there done that!... well... not me but my so at the time. I'm really far from a jealous person, of course we all have that moment eh? But for the most part jealousy isn't and never has been an issue for me. I however also have always been a free butterfly... I don't like being tied down, don't like the 'where are you when will you be back who are you with... blah blah shit."

My first marriage was ok in the beginning, i was single no kids and really stuck in my ways. A very independant loner, I did my own thing when i wanted and no one would stop me. At first it was great, living apart... did my thing, he did his.. perfect!

Then things got serious... later moved in together... Still little miss frisky was the same person and didn't really give a hell what he thought that he didn't like it. I didn't cheat, but still wasn't the kind to 'check in' :rolleyes:

Well along came my first pride and joy... So there is where I bowed down and decided that I wanted a family... and actually thought i could be that person. Big mistake on my part. I became someone I didn't even like or reconize. I began to hate myself and feel like i stapped down.

Believe me, I bucked him over and over... on ocassion my bubbly personality came out and I would be friendly to what seemed to be the wrong person at the wrong time and then... whoop... what a fuss.

:rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

fastforward...... 11 years into that relationship i realized that I wasn't happy, it was a constant stuggle to be whom he wanted me to be and all the while I neglected my inner self. I love to be out there, talking and making friends. I have no motive... never did.. its just me.

Well divorce ended up being the next step... then a few years of tourment from him... and really felt that i would actually never find someone to accept me, my kids, my past... but I did.
 
nefertiti said:
Couldn't agree more. My variation was, If you don't want them to find out about it, you shouldn't do it.
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Agreed.

If you don't want them to find out, then you should be extra careful so they never find out.

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SoKlueles said:
If you love him, then you wouldnt do it just out of respect for the psycho
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not going to lunch with a managing partner when they ask you to is like career suicide.
 
How about:

1. Emailing an ex? Depends on the reason

2. Getting drunk and having a kiss? Cheating

3. Random flirting on public part of the internet without any follow up private convos or the like? Flirting

4. Getting lap dances at a strip club? Neither flirting or cheating, just having fun

5.Having phone sex or IM sex? Cheating

6. Hanging out with an attractive coworker? having fun

Also, once a cheater always a cheater? Or, do you believe a tiger can changer his/her stripes?[/QUOTE] I was a cheater once and am disgusted at my behavior (was a long time ago) and willl NEVER do it again. I've grown up!
 
javaguru said:
My general rule, if you wouldn't do it in front of your SO then you probably shouldn't be doing it.
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agreed. I say don't do it if you wouldn't want me doing it. I have a 'friend' (not technically a gf) who was bad about that. She would sleep in the same bed as guy friends (and literally just sleep) but she would have an absolute cow if I even went to a movie with a female friend.



1. Emailing an ex? - about what?

2. Getting drunk and having a kiss? - definitely cheating

3. Random flirting on public part of the internet without any follow up private convos or the like? - no

4. Getting lap dances at a strip club? - should be ok'ed in advance

5. Having phone sex or IM sex? - definitely cheating

6. Hanging out with an attractive coworker? - no, unless you've slept with said coworker before.

Also, once a cheater always a cheater? Or, do you believe a tiger can changer his/her stripes? - like a bad tattoo, the stripes can be removed but evidence of them never goes away entirely.
 
heatherrae said:
not going to lunch with a managing partner when they ask you to is like career suicide.
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That's very insecure of the guy, doesn't sound like it would be a very good relationship.
 
I used to think all of that stuff was cheating ; but after being married for a while I realize that every relationship is different ; and we all need and want different things. what might be acceptable in one relationship may not be in another.

If you put your partner's feelings before your own ; you should always be fine.

Thats why I think flirting is ok most of the time. I hate those people who judge! Really piss me off!!
 
Cheating
1-no
2-yes
3-no
4-no
5-yes
6-no
no a cheater will often stop cheating once he is cheated on.
(often stop but NOT always stop)


heatherrae said:
Where do you draw the line in what is harmless flirting and what is cheating. Or is any flirting while in a relationship okay with you?

How about:

1. Emailing an ex?

2. Getting drunk and having a kiss?

3. Random flirting on public part of the internet without any follow up private convos or the like?

4. Getting lap dances at a strip club?

5. Having phone sex or IM sex?

6. Hanging out with an attractive coworker?

Also, once a cheater always a cheater? Or, do you believe a tiger can changer his/her stripes?
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Frisky said:
whew...

lol

been there done that!... well... not me but my so at the time. I'm really far from a jealous person, of course we all have that moment eh? But for the most part jealousy isn't and never has been an issue for me. I however also have always been a free butterfly... I don't like being tied down, don't like the 'where are you when will you be back who are you with... blah blah shit."

My first marriage was ok in the beginning, i was single no kids and really stuck in my ways. A very independant loner, I did my own thing when i wanted and no one would stop me. At first it was great, living apart... did my thing, he did his.. perfect!

Then things got serious... later moved in together... Still little miss frisky was the same person and didn't really give a hell what he thought that he didn't like it. I didn't cheat, but still wasn't the kind to 'check in' :rolleyes:

Well along came my first pride and joy... So there is where I bowed down and decided that I wanted a family... and actually thought i could be that person. Big mistake on my part. I became someone I didn't even like or reconize. I began to hate myself and feel like i stapped down.

Believe me, I bucked him over and over... on ocassion my bubbly personality came out and I would be friendly to what seemed to be the wrong person at the wrong time and then... whoop... what a fuss.

:rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

fastforward...... 11 years into that relationship i realized that I wasn't happy, it was a constant stuggle to be whom he wanted me to be and all the while I neglected my inner self. I love to be out there, talking and making friends. I have no motive... never did.. its just me.

Well divorce ended up being the next step... then a few years of tourment from him... and really felt that i would actually never find someone to accept me, my kids, my past... but I did.
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I can relate to that sort of thing. I tend to be bubbly and like to make friends. I have always had a problem with dating men who don't like it.
 
heatherrae said:
Where do you draw the line in what is harmless flirting and what is cheating. Or is any flirting while in a relationship okay with you?

How about:

1. Emailing an ex? Yes

2. Getting drunk and having a kiss? yes

3. Random flirting on public part of the internet without any follow up private convos or the like? Yes

4. Getting lap dances at a strip club? no

5. Having phone sex or IM sex? yes

6. Hanging out with an attractive coworker? why are you doing it

Also, once a cheater always a cheater? Or, do you believe a tiger can changer his/her stripes?
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all depends on the motivation.. if it's physical that's obvious, but an emotional indiscretion can be more damaging to a relationship..
 
For me, I think like this:

Where do you draw the line in what is harmless flirting and what is cheating. Or is any flirting while in a relationship okay with you?

How about:

1. Emailing an ex? No, but i would be concerned why they were still hung up on an ex.

2. Getting drunk and having a kiss? Yes.

3. Random flirting on public part of the internet without any follow up private convos or the like? No.

4. Getting lap dances at a strip club? No.

5. Having phone sex or IM sex? Yes.

6. Hanging out with an attractive coworker? No, but it may lead to cheating...lol.

Also, once a cheater always a cheater? Or, do you believe a tiger can changer his/her stripes? I guess I think some people can change and many never will change.
 
bw1 said:
I never do anything wrong.......ever....
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I didn't know you were a female.
 
heatherrae said:
Where do you draw the line in what is harmless flirting and what is cheating. Or is any flirting while in a relationship okay with you?

How about:

1. Emailing an ex?

2. Getting drunk and having a kiss?

3. Random flirting on public part of the internet without any follow up private convos or the like?

4. Getting lap dances at a strip club?

5. Having phone sex or IM sex?

6. Hanging out with an attractive coworker?

Also, once a cheater always a cheater? Or, do you believe a tiger can changer his/her stripes?
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Phonesex/cybersex is out. Other than that I don't really have a problem with that stuff.

Flirting is flirting. It's joking around, it's being coy. What it isn't though is cheating. Cheating would be taking the "jokes and flirtations" to another level.

AT least, that's how I see it.
 
sardonicone said:
Phonesex/cybersex is out. Other than that I don't really have a problem with that stuff.

Flirting is flirting. It's joking around, it's being coy. What it isn't though is cheating. Cheating would be taking the "jokes and flirtations" to another level.

AT least, that's how I see it.
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I walked in once on a bf jerking off talking to someone on IM. First, I was REALLY MAD. THen, I laughed my ass off. It was so PATHETIC...lol.
 
1. Emailing an ex? unless they have property youre trying to get back or they are the real parent of a sonn to be step kid

2. Getting drunk and having a kiss? no, no, no thats bad bad

3. Random flirting on public part of the internet without any follow up private convos or the like? its ok to an extent

4. Getting lap dances at a strip club? I don't care but my s/o does

5. Having phone sex or IM sex? not good at all

6. Hanging out with an attractive coworker? for what reasons? Unless its a group going out for a minute after work

Also, once a cheater always a cheater? Or, do you believe a tiger can changer his/her stripes? Some can some cannot. If they really cared and realized what a big mistake it was and wanted to change they could.
 
dannomight said:
1. Emailing an ex? unless they have property youre trying to get back or they are the real parent of a sonn to be step kid

2. Getting drunk and having a kiss? no, no, no thats bad bad

3. Random flirting on public part of the internet without any follow up private convos or the like? its ok to an extent

4. Getting lap dances at a strip club? I don't care but my s/o does

5. Having phone sex or IM sex? not good at all

6. Hanging out with an attractive coworker? for what reasons? Unless its a group going out for a minute after work

Also, once a cheater always a cheater? Or, do you believe a tiger can changer his/her stripes? Some can some cannot. If they really cared and realized what a big mistake it was and wanted to change they could.
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You feel like cheating with a prego chick with mood swings? I have ice cream, the premium stuff.
 
heatherrae said:
Where do you draw the line in what is harmless flirting and what is cheating. Or is any flirting while in a relationship okay with you?

How about:

1. Emailing an ex? not cheating but not someone id want to be with, definately attnetion whore desperate loser whore

2. Getting drunk and having a kiss? uhh??? whore

3. Random flirting on public part of the internet without any follow up private convos or the like? depending on how legit of a person she is or her personality it depends, but naw not cheating, but id still be insecure and wanna beat down

4. Getting lap dances at a strip club? not cheating, but i personally wouldnt do it. give a lapdance, that definately is whoreish fuck, id kill someone

5. Having phone sex or IM sex? hell fucking yes, whores

6. Hanging out with an attractive coworker? naw, but id still have to break his jaw

Also, once a cheater always a cheater? Or, do you believe a tiger can changer his/her stripes? i believe people can change, but i also think that eventually they will fall back into their old ways once they get bored with you
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my answers are in the red
 
heatherrae said:
I would agree, but what would you do if you were with someone who thought that EVERYTHING was cheating to the point that you were afraid to look up at a waiter/waitress for fear of what your SO would say?
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i would tell them i loved them and to deal with it and not worry

then if they kept doing it id masturbate to porn
 
blueta2 said:
How about:

1. Emailing an ex? Depends on the reason

2. Getting drunk and having a kiss? Cheating

3. Random flirting on public part of the internet without any follow up private convos or the like? Flirting

4. Getting lap dances at a strip club? Neither flirting or cheating, just having fun

5.Having phone sex or IM sex? Cheating

6. Hanging out with an attractive coworker? having fun

Also, once a cheater always a cheater? Or, do you believe a tiger can changer his/her stripes?
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I was a cheater once and am disgusted at my behavior (was a long time ago) and willl NEVER do it again. I've grown up! [/QUOTE]
IMO you stopped because you realized you couldnt get away with it anymore.

once a cheater, always want to be a cheater unless you realize you cant get away with it anymore because of looks, age, etc
 
heatherrae said:
Where do you draw the line in what is harmless flirting and what is cheating. Or is any flirting while in a relationship okay with you?

How about:

heatherrae said:
1. Emailing an ex?
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She's gone. Whats the point in being in a relationship with someone if she doesn't have the intelligence to realize this is wrong?

heatherrae said:
2. Getting drunk and having a kiss?
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She's gone. Whats the point in being in a relationship with someone if she doesn't have the intelligence to realize this is wrong?

heatherrae said:
3. Random flirting on public part of the internet without any follow up private convos or the like?
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She's gone. Whats the point in being in a relationship with someone if she doesn't have the intelligence to realize this is wrong?

heatherrae said:
4. Getting lap dances at a strip club?
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Its cool if its before wedding night. Any other time = she's gone.

heatherrae said:
5. Having phone sex or IM sex??
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She's gone. lol, wtf?

heatherrae said:
6. Hanging out with an attractive coworker?
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Cool if its a woman. Not happening if its a dude outside of work.


If shes doing these things then I'm gonna be doing these things so what kind of relationship is left?

You have to be realistic about these things. Who wants failed marriages etc. You gotta choose carefully and not be reluctant to walk away if things aren't lookin good.
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heatherrae said:
I walked in once on a bf jerking off talking to someone on IM. First, I was REALLY MAD. THen, I laughed my ass off. It was so PATHETIC...lol.
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LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

What sorta people u be hangin with? :) :) :rainbow:
 
As a general rule, I don't maintain any contact with ex's I had "serious feelings for." I never thought it was fair for the woman I start dating.
 
1. Emailing an ex?
Not cheating, but I might be a little bothered by it.

2. Getting drunk and having a kiss?
Cheating

3. Random flirting on public part of the internet without any follow up private convos or the like?
Not Cheating

4. Getting lap dances at a strip club?
Not Cheating

5. Having phone sex or IM sex?
Cheating

6. Hanging out with an attractive coworker?
Not cheating, but I might get a little jealous.

Also, once a cheater always a cheater? Or, do you believe a tiger can changer his/her stripes?
I think once a cheater always a cheater. But I also think that everyone cheats.
 
Oceano said:
LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

What sorta people u be hangin with? :) :) :rainbow:
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Evidently ones who like to flog the dolphin with other girls on the internet...lol
 
Stefka said:
1. Emailing an ex?
Not cheating, but I might be a little bothered by it.

2. Getting drunk and having a kiss?
Cheating

3. Random flirting on public part of the internet without any follow up private convos or the like?
Not Cheating

4. Getting lap dances at a strip club?
Not Cheating

5. Having phone sex or IM sex?
Cheating

6. Hanging out with an attractive coworker?
Not cheating, but I might get a little jealous.

Also, once a cheater always a cheater? Or, do you believe a tiger can changer his/her stripes?
I think once a cheater always a cheater. But I also think that everyone cheats.
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Never cheated, not once...I have too much pride, which is another problem. :)
 
Oceano said:
What do you say to someone in that position? that is, wtf did u say?
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Well, I walked in and he tried to cover his lap. He was completely naked and I was home early from law school classes. He then was trying to play it off like nothing was happening, but the girl kept typing and the IM's kept popping up all over the screen...lol
"mmmmmmmmm...yeah daddy, tell me how you like my _____."

etc etc.

I said, "you are so busted. Why the hell are you doing that when you have a horndog at home?" First I was pissed! Then, I started bustin his balls about it really badly because it was just so damned ridiculous that I didn't have any respect for him anymore.

I broke up with him about a week later.
 
heatherrae said:
Well, I walked in and he tried to cover his lap. He was completely naked and I was home early from law school classes. He then was trying to play it off like nothing was happening, but the girl kept typing and the IM's kept popping up all over the screen...lol
"mmmmmmmmm...yeah daddy, tell me how you like my _____."

etc etc.

I said, "you are so busted. Why the hell are you doing that when you have a horndog at home?" First I was pissed! Then, I started bustin his balls about it really badly because it was just so damned ridiculous that I didn't have any respect for him anymore.

I broke up with him about a week later.
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Low self-esteem.
 
heatherrae said:
Well, I walked in and he tried to cover his lap. He was completely naked and I was home early from law school classes. He then was trying to play it off like nothing was happening, but the girl kept typing and the IM's kept popping up all over the screen...lol
"mmmmmmmmm...yeah daddy, tell me how you like my _____.".
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lmfao, brilliant

heatherrae said:
I said, "you are so busted. Why the hell are you doing that when you have a horndog at home?" First I was pissed! Then, I started bustin his balls about it really badly because it was just so damned ridiculous that I didn't have any respect for him anymore.

I broke up with him about a week later.
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lolololol, thats brilliant.
 
javaguru said:
Him, needing validation outside the relationship.
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Oh, perhaps. In law school I was tiny and dressed really nicely, etc. I was 107lbs. He was 7' and 330 lbs but didn't look really in shape. He always acted like he thought I was out of his league.
 
Since HR brought up law school. Javaguru was a total manwhore as an undergrad at Ohio State. I met these two girls one night and they were both interested in Javaguru, no accounting for taste.Anyway, tiny blond tells me I can go home with her but nothing will happen or I can take tall brunette home and be guaranteed a hit. Being a 21 year old I chose the lock and we went back to tiny blond's apartment and did the nasty. Anyway, my first law school party a tall brunette walks up to me and says,"Don't you remember me." Javaguru pwned.
 
javaguru said:
Since HR brought up law school. Javaguru was a total manwhore as an undergrad at Ohio State. I met these two girls one night and they were both interested in Javaguru, no accounting for taste.Anyway, tiny blond tells me I can go home with her but nothing will happen or I can take tall brunette home and be guaranteed a hit. Being a 21 year old I chose the lock and we went back to tiny blond's apartment and did the nasty. Anyway, my first law school party a tall brunette walks up to me and says,"Don't you remember me." Javaguru pwned.
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lol, ya, you do what you do, an deal with it sober. :worried:
 
javaguru said:
Since HR brought up law school. Javaguru was a total manwhore as an undergrad at Ohio State. I met these two girls one night and they were both interested in Javaguru, no accounting for taste.Anyway, tiny blond tells me I can go home with her but nothing will happen or I can take tall brunette home and be guaranteed a hit. Being a 21 year old I chose the lock and we went back to tiny blond's apartment and did the nasty. Anyway, my first law school party a tall brunette walks up to me and says,"Don't you remember me." Javaguru pwned.
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So, did you hit it again for old times sake? lol.
 
javaguru said:
Since HR brought up law school. Javaguru was a total manwhore as an undergrad at Ohio State. I met these two girls one night and they were both interested in Javaguru, no accounting for taste.Anyway, tiny blond tells me I can go home with her but nothing will happen or I can take tall brunette home and be guaranteed a hit. Being a 21 year old I chose the lock and we went back to tiny blond's apartment and did the nasty. Anyway, my first law school party a tall brunette walks up to me and says,"Don't you remember me." Javaguru pwned.
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wait, blond said no play but you took the brunette to the blonds place to hit it; then saw the brunette later? english, mutha fucka.....do you type it? I am lost. :)
 
heatherrae said:
I would agree, but what would you do if you were with someone who thought that EVERYTHING was cheating to the point that you were afraid to look up at a waiter/waitress for fear of what your SO would say?
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thats how my x husband is. he sucked the life outta me.
 
Dial_tone said:
wait, blond said no play but you took the brunette to the blonds place to hit it; then saw the brunette later? english, mutha fucka.....do you type it? I am lost. :)
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They were friends, brunette lived off campus and was spending the night with blondy. We did it on the couch and blondy left her room to take a piss and caught us in 69. :) Two years later brunette came up to me in law school.
 
caligirl said:
thats how my x husband is. he sucked the life outta me.
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IMO, trust is everything. I give a "basic trust" to everyone I date and they "earn" real trust over time via their actions. Insecure is one of the biggest turnoffs to me. Btw, nice ass....waiting for the new pic. :)
 
javaguru said:
They were friends, brunette lived off campus and was spending the night with blondy. We did it on the couch and blondy left her room to take a piss and caught us in 69. :) Two years later brunette came up to me in law school.
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I dunno about you but the last thing I want is to see them kinda jump-offs again.
 
javaguru said:
They were friends, brunette lived off campus and was spending the night with blondy. We did it on the couch and blondy left her room to take a piss and caught us in 69. :) Two years later brunette came up to me in law school.
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Moral of the story, go with blondy.
 
depends on your relationship, and your/your partners sensibilities

ive been in relationships (of sorts) with bi girls and not kissing their girlfriend is very rude

if your partner is a reasonable, balanced, secure person, then generally if you wouldnt do it in front of them, its very close to, or is, cheating. ie you can use their feelings as a barometer of how ok it is

if your partner is insecure/mental, normal behaviour freaks them out and so then obviously you cant use their responses as a guide.

my latest girlfriend freaks out when i talk about and call my other girlfriends. like, wtf, get over it
 
You've never had a girlfriend you liar :)


GoldenDelicious said:
depends on your relationship, and your/your partners sensibilities

ive been in relationships (of sorts) with bi girls and not kissing their girlfriend is very rude

if your partner is a reasonable, balanced, secure person, then generally if you wouldnt do it in front of them, its very close to, or is, cheating. ie you can use their feelings as a barometer of how ok it is

if your partner is insecure/mental, normal behaviour freaks them out and so then obviously you cant use their responses as a guide.

my latest girlfriend freaks out when i talk about and call my other girlfriends. like, wtf, get over it
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heatherrae said:
DANG!



Always a bridesmaid and never a bride. :bawling:



I used to be a blondy:
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Quit it HR, you definitely wouldn't have wanted me at that age. My ex-wife taught me a lot about relationships, enough that she was pissed other women would benefit from her effort. :)
 
javaguru said:
Quit it HR, you definitely wouldn't have wanted me at that age. My ex-wife taught me a lot about relationships, enough that she was pissed other women would benefit from her effort. :)
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:lmao:

Honey, ALL men have to be trained at that age...lol.
 
Oceano said:
You're an interesting looking blond
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thanks. that is a TERRIBLE photo of me. My firm pulled me out of the office after being in court all day and said, we need you to take a photo. I have really white teeth. I'm not sure why they look so yucky in that photo. Anyway, i had been running around since that morning and was tired and haggard by then.
 
bw1 said:
You've never had a girlfriend you liar :)
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i did once, when i was young and stoopid ;)

also, these days, saying "girlfriend" is easier than the 100 shades of grey that go from aquaintance to makeout buddy to wednesday night booty call to regular harem slave lol
 
heatherrae said:
thanks. that is a TERRIBLE photo of me. My firm pulled me out of the office after being in court all day and said, we need you to take a photo. I have really white teeth. I'm not sure why they look so yucky in that photo. Anyway, i had been running around since that morning and was tired and haggard by then.
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you look really good in that pic, more natural with less makeup.. you look very pretty. :)
 
caligirl said:
you look really good in that pic, more natural with less makeup.. you look very pretty. :)
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Thanks...that is kind. I never liked that pic. I really didn't have a stitch of makeup except I got to retouch my lipstick. It had pretty much all worn off that day. They used it to put on the firm newsletter when I wrote an article on deeds in lieu of foreclosure.
 
heatherrae said:
Where do you draw the line in what is harmless flirting and what is cheating. Or is any flirting while in a relationship okay with you?

How about:

1. Emailing an ex? what's the content and reason for the email?

2. Getting drunk and having a kiss? shows lack of respect imo. grounds for termination. and for all the schmo doods who wanna bitch on this....PUH-LEZ. if it were your girl...you'd be beech slappin' tha ho.

3. Random flirting on public part of the internet without any follow up private convos or the like? are both peeps on the same site or was it something that was "stumbled upon"?

4. Getting lap dances at a strip club? from tha ho's, naw.

5. Having phone sex or IM sex? um, what's wrong in the bedroom for this to be happenin'?

6. Hanging out with an attractive coworker? depends on what "hanging out with" means. does it piss off the other person? (if so, they prob have jealousy and insecurity issues)

Also, once a cheater always a cheater? Or, do you believe a tiger can changer his/her stripes?
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i'm pretty sure a tiger's stripes aren't going anywhere. but can a person change? only if they've hit rock bottom or had a serious humbling experience. otherwise, i would expect they would do it again.
 
heatherrae said:
I would agree, but what would you do if you were with someone who thought that EVERYTHING was cheating to the point that you were afraid to look up at a waiter/waitress for fear of what your SO would say?
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y in the hell would ANYONE stay in a relationship like that?


retarded question.








but you're prego so ima let it slide.
 
heatherrae said:
I would agree, but what would you do if you were with someone who thought that EVERYTHING was cheating to the point that you were afraid to look up at a waiter/waitress for fear of what your SO would say?
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WTF? No way in hell would I deal with that...
 
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