Fiancee expects me to pay for her gas. Yes/no?

[Bikini Mod]

Yep: even when she was working - she never really paid for anything when we went out or brought dinner over my house or offered to make me dinner/etc. Once she brought over ice cream and bananas and made banana splits. I was completely surprised she did that !!

Also: last week I gave her money to put in her tank. . . She went to atlantic city with her family 4th of july weekend and used half of it for a tip -- for the bathroom lady !!!!

What did you give her, two dollars? How much could she possibly have given the ladies room attendant for handing her a papertowel and maybe using the hairspray?

If this is an issue for you guys now - do NOT get married. It is clear that you guys are not on the same page and getting married won't *fix that*.

 

[velvett]

I'm all for his/hers/our money accounts.

Pool together for expenses and whatever each has left over is personal money to do whatever you wish. If you want a $10k jet ski or if she wants a $1200 pair of shoes no one can say boo over the expense.

This of course only works if both parties make money.

If there is a single bread winner expenses must be discussed and their must be trust among you so no one feels jilted.

 

[bodybyjake]

dood, time for YOU to grow a pair and stand up to this money grubbing biatch! she has no money for gas to go job hunting but runs off to atlantic city to gamble and lay lavish tips on the towel lady???

some fucked up priorities she has!

haha: I did once and she got really mad and thats when she said that i SHOULD be paying for it. I replied to her calmly by saying that it was stupid that we are fighting over gas...

 

[Basikstylz]

where do YOU live at? orlando, FL @ FANTASYLAND???? jeeeezzz....

No, I come from the land of relationships and communication. You know for those people who want their relationships to succeed.

I agree with most people here... In the end, yes you should, and will end up paying for her gas, however if she isn't working and she has no income, her spending habits still need to be adjusted. This is true if they are engaged or if they are married. I don't know how much money he makes, but unless he is doing extremely well and can afford to support them both, he doesn't need to be helping her "party with the girls" or "party in atlantic city" if she is jobless.

 

[bodybyjake]

What did you give her, two dollars? How much could she possibly have given the ladies room attendant for handing her a papertowel and maybe using the hairspray?

If this is an issue for you guys now - do NOT get married. It is clear that you guys are not on the same page and getting married won't *fix that*.

I gave her $20. yes-she gave the lady $10 tip... Said she felt bad for her.
- she does have a good heart..

 

[Raptorex]

I thought you should mention this too.

right on! lol...

oh Rnch : She's cheatin on ya

 

[jackangel]

is she fiscally irresponsible in general, then? is she unappreciative?

 

[big_bad_buff]

well my fiancee got laid off a little while ago and has been looking for another job. she's blown all her savings on bills/living expenses since losing it and thinks i should pay for her gas.. A few times I put in without her even asking so I guess she got used to taht and started expecting me to do it... I didnt one time and she got upset and said "you're my fiancee, you should be doing that"
???? is she wrong???
we dont live together yet either.

you shouldnt even be asking this question if you really loved her and were sure you wanted to marry her...might be harsh but true. but then what dialtone applies

True indeed, however "you're my fiancee, you should be doing that" implies she expects he'll be footing the bills whether she can afford her own or not. Her money will go to makeup, drinking with the girls, presents, etc. His money goes to the house.

but if that's the women your hooked up with why would you want to marry her anyways?

 

[canadianhitman]

True indeed, however "you're my fiancee, you should be doing that" implies she expects he'll be footing the bills whether she can afford her own or not. Her money will go to makeup, drinking with the girls, presents, etc. His money goes to the house.

Agreed...the phrasing should be a red flag for you. I'd get a better picture of what she thinks the financial arrangement will be after you get married. If it's looking bad, drop her like a hot potato.

 

[cindylou]

wow, fighting over 20 bucks.