Fiancee expects me to pay for her gas. Yes/no?

[SpyWizard]

well my fiancee got laid off a little while ago and has been looking for another job. she's blown all her savings on bills/living expenses since losing it and thinks i should pay for her gas.. A few times I put in without her even asking so I guess she got used to taht and started expecting me to do it... I didnt one time and she got upset and said "you're my fiancee, you should be doing that"
???? is she wrong???
we dont live together yet either.

well, if she expects it, then what else is her expectations centered around?? what other standards do the 2 of you disagree with??

does she do all of your laundry??? and cook?? and do the grocery shopping?? all the dishes and clean your place??

tell her to call her dad and ask for money if she is still needy and not able to take care of her self..

 

[gonelifting]

Send her to my house, I'll fill up her tank. Ha jk

I gotta agree with everyone here. You guys need to have a sit down. Talk it out and see what your expectations are. I hate to spout off numbers, but 60% of divorces are half caused by one of the people abusing three quarters of the joint money. You should consider yourself lucky to know this may be an issue for you guys ahead of time.

Half of divorces are mostly due to money problems caused by one or more people in the relationship.

40% of americans feel that money is an issue with regards to their marriage problems. Half of them are mostly right.

More men get married than women.

Most women on EF are men.

 

[digimon7068]

well my fiancee got laid off a little while ago and has been looking for another job. she's blown all her savings on bills/living expenses since losing it and thinks i should pay for her gas.. A few times I put in without her even asking so I guess she got used to taht and started expecting me to do it... I didnt one time and she got upset and said "you're my fiancee, you should be doing that"
???? is she wrong???
we dont live together yet either.

spit or swallow??

 

[bigmann245]

are you SURE you want to marry this gal?

thats what i was going to say.....

wait till you actually do live together. will it be after your married or before? because ill bet she has a completely different outlook on how things will be when you do finally live together. my wife and i lived together for 2 years before we got married. im glad i did because i knew exactly how she was before it was too late.

 

[Bikini Mod]

What is that George Michael song?

"And now you tell me that you're having my baby. I'll tell you that I'm happy if you want me to, but one step further and my back will break. If my best isn't good enough then how can it be good enough for two?"

^^ Broly will be singing this song in a couple of years, sadly.

With all due respect you guys seem to be having too many issues for people that are about to get married. If you aren't able to see eye to eye on something THIS SIMPLE then how will you be able to see eye to eye when shit REALLY gets thick... like when the baby won't stop screaming, you haven't had any ass in MONTHS, your boss is a total douche and your wife (who is now far *less cute* than she was the day you married her) keeps bitching at you that you don't have the balls to stand up to your boss to ask him for a raise? But she was *really sweet* before you married her, eh? .... How many men can picture this in their mind? Can you think of anything MORE emasculating because I can't think of many...

I am a grown woman. I am telling the shit that MOST OTHER women would NEVER tell you.

Look I am not dissing your lady at all. If you were my man I would expect you to pay for everything regardless of my financial situation but let me tell you, you would KNOW THAT UPFRONT. I am way too old for this *expecting stuff then getting pissed off when you couldn't read my mind* bullshit. On the other hand I thank my husband to this day every single time he opens my door or performs the smallest gesture of kindess for me. He knows what is on my mind 24/7. I don't leave him guessing about anything! .... matter of fact I am so *in his face honest* about stuff that he is still adjusting to it. Yes, gentlemen there are women out there who are like this. LOL

 

[drsketch]

you dont live together? since you dont I would tell her to get a day labor job.

 

[heatherrae]

It sounds like you have bigger problems than gas money if you aren't even married yet and are having issues about money.

I would rethink marrying someone who is habitually out of work, if that is what she is like.

 

[Dial_tone]

What is that George Michael song?

"And now you tell me that you're having my baby. I'll tell you that I'm happy if you want me to, but one step further and my back will break. If my best isn't good enough then how can it be good enough for two?"

^^ Broly will be singing this song in a couple of years, sadly.

and BM takes one to deep right field...back back back...to the warning track and it's gone.

 

[Bikini Mod]

and BM takes one to deep right field...back back back...to the warning track and it's gone.

I seriously heard that song playing in my head as the thread continued.

I feel bad for this guy because he seems like a nice, decent guy.

*sigh*

He'll figure it out, I'm sure.

 

[EarthRider]

depends on whether or not she cannot pay for her own gas anymore, or just doesn't want to. If it's a hardship for her, then she shouldn't even have to ask you. You should be volunteering.

+1

If you really love the girl and want to marry her, then take care of her bro. If you don't care about her, make her fend for her-self. But that is in the sense that she is just not being lazy.