Fiancee expects me to pay for her gas. Yes/no?

[needtogetarmy]

well my fiancee got laid off a little while ago and has been looking for another job. she's blown all her savings on bills/living expenses since losing it and thinks i should pay for her gas.. A few times I put in without her even asking so I guess she got used to taht and started expecting me to do it... I didnt one time and she got upset and said "you're my fiancee, you should be doing that"
???? is she wrong???
we dont live together yet either.

If I were her I would expect you to do it for me without having to ask.

On the same side of the coin, she shouldn't be telling you to do it, especially in the manner she did.

 

[Basikstylz]

yep: just like a few of you made mention of -- this is basically what it is - its like i am unappreciated. but maybe i expect too much when i think maybe she could go to my house during the day and clean a little bit to show her appreciation?

Does she say thank you? I really doubt that shes gonna come clean your place to show her apperciation. And I almost feel its silly that you expect that....

She should be greatfull that you help her, and you should feel good that you can help your fiance out. But as long as she says thank you and is sincere that should be all you need.

Now if you want her to do things for you because you want her to make you feel special that is a different situation all together.

If you want her to clean or cook cuz you gave her money you are no longer doing her a favor, you are now paying her for a service.

You should give her the gas money and be happy your a good fiance. Then you need to talk to her about the things you would like her to do for you to keep you happy and feeling apperciated in your relationship. This should have nothing to do with the gas money you gave her.

 

[calveless wonder]

it's gas. you're not buying her a new porsche

she could articulate her point a little better but yes if you're going to marry the girl you could help her out in a pinch

 

[jackangel]

we've been together for 2yrs it should be understood i appreciate the things you do (thats what she said to me yesterday).

this is some grade-A bullshit. appreciation shouldn't be merely implicit or "understood." it should be shown.

 

[the_alcatraz]

I pay for my wife's gas. I don't see what's wrong with that.

 

[Dial_tone]

and things like we've been together for 2yrs it should be understood i appreciate the things you do (thats what she said to me yesterday).

Stop saying "I love you and see how long that belief lasts".

 

[redguru]

If you are worried about paying for her gas when she is in a crisis, your impending marriage has bigger problems.

 

[Raptorex]

Wait till she gets your PIN #, your in for some fun brosky!

 

[Dial_tone]

by the way, if I were down on my luck, my b/f would not even think twice about filling up my tank.

I think you're more pertubed b/c she expects it and you feel unappreciated.
Talk to her

We should just start calling him Wally, short for wallet.

 

[bodybyjake]

Wait till she gets your PIN #, your in for some fun brosky!

haha: you'll love this then - i gave her an amex to use in emergencies..