Fat Kids....

[musclemom]

is she pretty hott now?

Couldn't tell you from personal observation (my husband's family, so I got cut off from contact), but my son told me she looked nice, except for the backs of her arms. So she's go the skin thing going on.

 

[chazk]

True Story: My former sister in law was compulsive about her own weight (to the point that she had osteoporosis before age 45 from the constant dieting), and was very vigilant about her daughters weight and what she ate. In my opinion, she nagged the kid and turned food into an issue. Consequently, the kid went on her first diet around age 3. She wasn't fat, just carrying a little baby chub but you couldn't tell her mother that (she would have outgrown it). But her mother was there, always bitching at her about every bite, virtually, that went into her mouth. Consequently the kid started hiding food in her room so mom never saw her eating other than at the meal table. She couldn't wait to move out of the house, and then the weight piled on.

And she was ALWAYS a very athletic girl. She actually held a director position for the local YMCA shortly after graduating high school. It was just that her mother made her crazy about the food thing.

Anyway, when her grandfather passed away she came into a substantial inheritance. The first major purchase she made was gastric bypass, she was less than 24 years old and tipping the scales over 300 (she's a VERY tall young woman, over 6', and very strong and athletic, but was also carrying substantial extra weight because her mother turned food into an issue).

So you are suggesting the kids be as fat as mom, have a battered youth and then come to relize later they are fat beast then get gastric down the road?

 

[vixensghost]

I'll tell you what I do know; Children don't possess magical mind reading skills and DPS didn't call the child a beast to her face. It's clearly stated in black and white in her first post.

As a digression, I had many "negative thoughts" about newcomers to the gym I worked at whom I knew were wasting my time, though every client was always treated as an individual with a fresh slate and every positive effort provided to them despite knowing they'd quit in a week or two's time. It's called professionalism - just like DPS employs tact and keeping her bloody mouth shut (aka common sense not to get involved in a shitstorm) instead of running around calling kids beasts as you're suggesting.

Been in meetings..Could not respond.

I'd be the first one to offer help to ANYONE who showed some interest in healthy choices in regards to food. IF you can help one person out of 100- IT'S all good. That is called COMPASSION, Stobutterwhatever.

I know one thing, IF my niece were chubby, I'd never refer to her as a beast no matter the lingo. It's sad that the little girl has no one to guide her by the looks and sounds of it.

I'd get involved in a shit storm with my sister if my nieces had a unhealthy future..NO DOUBT.



MM-Horrible story. It's such a tricky balance with kids and food. My hubby works with a man whose daughter(age14) just came back from a rehab center in Minn. beacuse she was starving herself.

 

[chazk]

Been in meetings..Could not respond.

I'd be the first one to offer help to ANYONE who showed some interest in healthy choices in regards to food. IF you can help one person out of 100- IT'S all good. That is called COMPASSION, Stobutterwhatever.

I know one thing, IF my niece were chubby, I'd never refer to her as a beast no matter the lingo. It's sad that the little girl has no one to guide her by the looks and sounds of it.

I'd get involved in a shit storm with my sister if my nieces had a unhealthy future..NO DOUBT.



MM-Horrible story. It's such a tricky balance with kids and food. My hubby works with a man whose daughter(age14) just came back from a rehab center in Minn. beacuse she was starving herself.

I guess you did not look at the pics. The niece is far from chubby . She is on the verge of becomming ( already is )morbidly obese like her mother.

 

[musclemom]

So you are suggesting the kids be as fat as mom, have a battered youth and then come to relize later they are fat beast then get gastric down the road?

My gods did I tell that story THAT badly?

The mother was far from fat, she'd never been overweight a day in her life. She dieted when she didn't need to. She ended up with osteoporosis because she was constantly starving herself, in fact. She was obsessed with the numbers on the scale.

If she hadn't been virtually neurotic about her own weight I think the kid would have grown up with a normal relationship with food. As it was, her mother turned it into an "issue." The mother's obsession with AVOIDING food turned into the daughter's obsession with CONSUMING food.

My personal observation, when you have kids keep the junk (cookies, chips, sugary drinks, soda, cereals) out of the house, period. Have only fresh fruit, good yogurt, easy to nosh veggies, healthy cereals, peanut butter, whole grain breads and crackers, etc. Forces the kid to eat healthy when they get the munchies.

Childhood obesity is on the rise because kids don't get enough exercise but mainly they are malnourished on junk food and they get goofy blood sugar spikes and drops from HFCS and refined sugar. If you keep that shit out of the house, teach your kids healthy eating habits from the time they're little, you won't have fat kids (it's really simple, a little kid growing up eating fruits as snacks will eat the occasional piece of junk, but will PREFER the fruit, seriously, particularly if that's the way their parents eat). But the WORST thing you can do is make eating (or FOOD) an ISSUE!!!

From the time they're very little, children graze naturally. If you provide them with only healthy things to "graze on," they'll grow up with a healthy relationship with food and a normal body weight. Don't have g'damned soda and cookies and transfats around, and they'll never learn to like the stuff.

 

[Longhorn85]

Re: Fat Kids....UPDATED WITH PICS

I am like this close to telling my sister to have her kid drop some weight

Do you and your sister live in the same town? If not, invite your niece to come and live with you for a few weeks or maybe longer in the summer while your sis takes a vacation.

Keep her on a good diet with lots of exercise and when your sister picks her up she'll notice a difference and ask what happened.

 

[chazk]

My gods did I tell that story THAT badly?

The mother was far from fat, she'd never been overweight a day in her life. She dieted when she didn't need to. She ended up with osteoporosis because she was constantly starving herself, in fact. She was obsessed with the numbers on the scale.

If she hadn't been virtually neurotic about her own weight I think the kid would have grown up with a normal relationship with food. As it was, her mother turned it into an "issue." The mother's obsession with AVOIDING food turned into the daughter's obsession with CONSUMING food.

My personal observation, when you have kids keep the junk (cookies, chips, sugary drinks, soda, cereals) out of the house, period. Have only fresh fruit, good yogurt, easy to nosh veggies, healthy cereals, peanut butter, whole grain breads and crackers, etc. Forces the kid to eat healthy when they get the munchies.

Kids overeat because they don't get enough exercise but mainly they are malnourished on junk food and they get goofy blood sugar spikes and drops from HFCS and refined sugar. If you keep that shit out of the house, teach your kids healthy eating habits from the time they're little, you won't have fat kids (it's really simple, a little kid growing up eating fruits as snacks will eat the occasional piece of junk, but will PREFER the fruit, seriously, particularly if that's the way their parents eat). But the WORST thing you can do is make eating (or FOOD) an ISSUE!!!

From the time they're very little, children graze naturally. If you provide them with only healthy things to "graze on," they'll grow up with a healthy relationship with food and a normal body weight. Don't have g'damned soda and cookies and transfats around, and they'll never learn to like the stuff.

Well the food is a issue. just becuase the lady you speak of was crazy obsessed about her weight and the kid rebelled and gained weight later.
Don't worry that is not even the issue in the this case.This case the mother is a fat cow and her duaghter is already morbidley obese. dps is asking advice on if she should call the mom out on the carpet about it.she already knows the whole nutrition thing becuase her duaghter is in shape. She is asking how do I go about having my sister tell her kids and make her kids eat healthy when she herself is a beast

 

[musclemom]

So you are suggesting the kids be as fat as mom, have a battered youth and then come to relize later they are fat beast then get gastric down the road?

Okay, rereading this thread, I never saw the pics of the sis and kids. I'll bet dad is fat, too.

How is a child supposed to know how to eat and exercise if the parent, who is setting examples and providing the food, doesn't know what's right? If mom wanted to change her lifestyle, she's impact the entire household.

 

[chazk]

Okay, rereading this thread, I never saw the pics of the sis and kids. I'll bet dad is fat, too.

How is a child supposed to know how to eat and exercise if the parent, who is setting examples and providing the food, doesn't know what's right? If mom wanted to change her lifestyle, she's impact the entire household.

exactly

 

[vixensghost]

I guess you did not look at the pics. The niece is far from chubby . She is on the verge of becomming ( already is )morbidly obese like her mother.

I saw the child. It broke my heart too. She's a beautiful little girl with diease in her future unless she gets some help from someone NOW.

MM- I understood you. I agree 100% on the food choice in a home too.

Bri will select raw almonds ETC. over junk food ANY ole day of the week when given the choice.