Do you like kids

[blueta2]

I think maybe one day I'll be ready, but most peoples' kids drive me insane to the point of wishing I had a catapult to the Lord of the Flies island or some shit.

I also have very little patients for kids. My neice and nephew I love like crazy but yeah, they still drive me mad at times.

 

[digimon7068]

I think maybe one day I'll be ready, but most peoples' kids drive me insane to the point of wishing I had a catapult to the Lord of the Flies island or some shit.

truth? i still feel that way about most other people's kids. . .muh-fuggers drive me ape-shit. . .especially if one of them starts abusing one of my kids. . .already had a few family/acquaintance disturbances over that shit. . .i have no tolerance for mother-fuckers fucking with my kids. . .i teach my kids to respect others and i teach them to stick up for themselves and i expect them to do so. . .but when shit happens right in front of me i go bug-fuck. . .i fully expect that before it's all said and done, i'll be in front of the magistrate answering for an ass-whupping that i gave to some fucking retard that didn't take the time to teach his kids not to fuck with smaller, weaker people. . .

 

[blueta2]

I must admit, I have very little tolerance for kids and yet my b/f has two. Our disagreements center a lot around the kids. They are being raised by other ppl and I have no say.
I chose never to have kids nor do I want them, but I met the most amazing person who has them, and I need to learn how to be tolerant.

 

[Smurfy]

So the result of a woman deciding the rest of a life for a person affects 2 others.
I don't carry any guilt about it. I laid my cards down and that's the way it is.

how does your wife decide the rest of your life for you?

 

[musclemom]

If you're going to just roll the clock back and stick me with the same partner, uh, no, no kids for me at all, thanks. One of the greatest obstacles (for lack of a better word) to raising my son was my truly fucked up relationship (remember, hindsight is 20/20), in particular, being partnered with guy who was a LOT like oldandconfused with one MAJOR difference, this fucker was anti-abortion (which he never told me when we were dating) and said he wanted the baby (the pregnancy was an accident and I was totally neutral about it, please don't bust my ass, I'm a pagan, we believe in reincarnation, you can't kill souls), however, when the kid was born my husband was essentially uninvolved, PLUS he amused himself by pulling mind games on his own son. Additionally, my son was one of those boys who REALLY wants to be doing "guy" things with dad from the time he was really little, y'know, throwing the ball around, shit like that, and dad was always, too tired, too busy, not interested. Just fucked the poor kid up.

Now could I roll the clock back and have a different partner who actually WANTS to have children and wants to be a contributing partner, then yes, I would have children, and actually would have enjoyed having more than one.

For me one of the keys to having children is having a supportive partner to share parenting with.

 

[heavy_duty]

I was very selfish till my first was born when I was 38.
If I had known kids were this much fun I would have had them a long time ago.
Wish I was rich so I could have 2 or 3 more.
I always said "no kids" for me, then when my first was born I realized how most of the shit single people do is VERY unimportant!

When she was born, I cut the cord and put the first diaper on. From that day forward she was daddy's girl and it was on 100%

 

[biteme]

I'm not sure. The first 5 years were stressful but something I wouldn't trade for anything. After that, it pretty much sucks. The teenage years are hell.

 

[heavy_duty]

I'm not sure. The first 5 years were stressful but something I wouldn't trade for anything. After that, it pretty much sucks. The teenage years are hell.

Shit my oldest is 5 1/2

 

[avidinternet]

Old and Confused...I do not have kids and never wanted any so I understand your premise...HOWEVER...If you actually have 2 of them, and they are brought into this world by no choice of their own, you have to be a pretty fucked up, selfish so and so to never see them or communicate with them.

Seriously...you need more help than words can communicate. What you are doing to those poor children of yours by dismissing them from your life is an unspeakable cruelty...and the worst part about all of this is that you could change their life and yours completely and you won't.

What a sad, sad thing...

 

[biteme]

i do love my kids, of course, but don't think i grew up with wally and june cleaver.
i was left alone overnight from the time i was 9.

i don't even really like other kids, as I said. I never have. having two kids was so hard for me- i rarely had anyone to talk to when i was growing up- then i suddenly had TWO kids who depended on me and wouldn't be quiet for days or hours or even minutes like i'd want. but, i loved them to death since the minute they were born and would walk to the ends of the earth for them. Just because I didn't have that growing up, doesn't mean i should treat my own kids the same way.
jnev, i understand not wanting kids, of course. but they are still humans and if you have them, especially two, with a wife (not a one night stand who lied about the pill or whatever), then you can hate being a father but love your kids.
not even loving them or wanting to know about them though? that's the ultimate in selfishness.

i'm not going to post on this thread anymore. I made my point and don't want to say what i'm thinking to oldandconfused.

Sucks to know that they're gonna get old and get cancer or some other dreaded disease and there's nothing you can do to stop it.. Then since there's no life after death, they just suffer and die and it's all over... Life is good for a short while if you're lucky, then it turns to shit and there's nothing you can do.. I guess I just don't understand why athiests have children.