Do you like kids

[jnevin]

the fact that you already recognize that the way you lived was not right, is about 90% of the battle imho. . .

Scares the hell out of me.

 

[digimon7068]

Scares the hell out of me.

that's 5 of the remaining 10%. . .that's the part that makes you work at it. . .fear of failure is healthy if it's managed properly and kept in perspective. . .

 

[blueta2]

ok, the yes side is winning. Come on kid haters, cast your vote to get us in the lead

 

[captainahole]

The main destruction of the marriage was the insecurity of my x wife who wouldn't get it through her thick skull when enough is enough.
Also not getting the fact I was to young and not ready for the commitment that would come with kids.
I was 19 for heaven sakes barely out of puberty and she wanted kids.

 

[captainahole]

Where are all the haters....lol This poll is falling to those who love kids.....JK Everybody has their own opinion THATS THE BEAUTY OF FREEDOM OF SPEECH.

can I vote more than once.lol

 

[jnevin]

ok, the yes side is winning. Come on kid haters, cast your vote to get us in the lead

I think maybe one day I'll be ready, but most peoples' kids drive me insane to the point of wishing I had a catapult to the Lord of the Flies island or some shit.

 

[captainahole]

I think maybe one day I'll be ready, but most peoples' kids drive me insane to the point of wishing I had a catapult to the Lord of the Flies island or some shit.

AMEN!!!

 

[stilleto]

He kind of did and my mom beat us almost every night until I was in 8th grade. You love your kids, and I think that's more amazing than anything in the world. From how I came up, not being a part of their lives is better than taking away from it in other ways. I almost feel more uncomfortable in really close family situations than I do in distant ones. Maybe that's why I go home to see family every 5 years, I don't know. It's probably why I stuck with a dog instead of kids too. Personally, I won't have them until I know I can be perfect. i won't do what my mom did.

i do love my kids, of course, but don't think i grew up with wally and june cleaver.
i was left alone overnight from the time i was 9.

i don't even really like other kids, as I said. I never have. having two kids was so hard for me- i rarely had anyone to talk to when i was growing up- then i suddenly had TWO kids who depended on me and wouldn't be quiet for days or hours or even minutes like i'd want. but, i loved them to death since the minute they were born and would walk to the ends of the earth for them. Just because I didn't have that growing up, doesn't mean i should treat my own kids the same way.
jnev, i understand not wanting kids, of course. but they are still humans and if you have them, especially two, with a wife (not a one night stand who lied about the pill or whatever), then you can hate being a father but love your kids.
not even loving them or wanting to know about them though? that's the ultimate in selfishness.

i'm not going to post on this thread anymore. I made my point and don't want to say what i'm thinking to oldandconfused.

 

[blueta2]

The main destruction of the marriage was the insecurity of my x wife who wouldn't get it through her thick skull when enough is enough.
Also not getting the fact I was to young and not ready for the commitment that would come with kids.
I was 19 for heaven sakes barely out of puberty and she wanted kids.

my best friend's b/f was like you. He was a kid and when he got this girl preggies. He did NOT want any kids but she did. So he said "fine, but I want nothing to do with it"
She moved in with HIS parents so he would see his daughter once every 4 months or so. She's 18 now and he's gald he's in her life. But had his ex not moved in with his parents, he also would have not had anything to do with the child.
His ex went on to have 4 other kids with 3 diff men. One was the 14 yr old babysitter. Some women need to be fixed!

 

[BOWTECH]

Like I said I do not have kids and have chosen never too have them. BUT IF YOU ARE MAN ENOUGH TO HAVE THEM...BE MAN ENOUGH TO BE A FATHER! It's sickening to see all those people who have children and neglect them. Step up to the plate people, you have made a decision now do what's best for the KIDS!