Do we really have to play games?

[BNG]

Thanks So here is the total skinny behind all this. I meet this guy last Tuesday we had a great first date. Good conversation a lot the same interest etc. plus a obvious attraction. So yeah he asks me out again for Thursday. I was like heck yeah. Again another great date just great conversation funny makes me laugh etc. Then a really great kiss at the end of the date like wow sparks I haven't felt in a long time. So he does shift work and has 7 days straight long shifts. He says it sucks bad timing as he would like to hang with me more. I am like no worries it is only 7 days. So yeah I am texting him and he is texting back but then I dunno just started feeling like I am text him more then he is me. Maybe I am just over thinking things. But yeah then my friends (girls and guys) are like you have to lay off texting him let him come to you play the game all this crap which is just not me.

So who said you're playing games?
I worked shift work for quite a while. It does suck but you may be over reacting. The thing though is if you seem like you are suddenly possessive he may want to push back a bit.
I am direct by nature and don't like the game thing either. If he's into you just chill, make plans to get together after ths shift. He gets a long change right? So there's a few days in a row he can make plans with.

Your hot & know what you want. Where's the problem? Just chill and let him know you're looking forward to getting together. Let him man up. If he doesn't he may not be as interested as you.

 

[miplank]

Thanks So here is the total skinny behind all this. I meet this guy last Tuesday we had a great first date. Good conversation a lot the same interest etc. plus a obvious attraction. So yeah he asks me out again for Thursday. I was like heck yeah. Again another great date just great conversation funny makes me laugh etc. Then a really great kiss at the end of the date like wow sparks I haven't felt in a long time. So he does shift work and has 7 days straight long shifts. He says it sucks bad timing as he would like to hang with me more. I am like no worries it is only 7 days. So yeah I am texting him and he is texting back but then I dunno just started feeling like I am text him more then he is me. Maybe I am just over thinking things. But yeah then my friends (girls and guys) are like you have to lay off texting him let him come to you play the game all this crap which is just not me.

If he's a "real man" he won't mind you texting him all the time. Hell, before my wife and I got married and were just dating she texted me all the time, and I loved it! I worked crazy crazy hours to, and it was nice to get a lil message from her.

 

[Beachboy6294]

Thats cool!

Thanks to you and all the others that said nice things about my daughter!!!

 

[superqt4u2nv]

So who said you're playing games?
I worked shift work for quite a while. It does suck but you may be over reacting. The thing though is if you seem like you are suddenly possessive he may want to push back a bit.
I am direct by nature and don't like the game thing either. If he's into you just chill, make plans to get together after ths shift. He gets a long change right? So there's a few days in a row he can make plans with.

Your hot & know what you want. Where's the problem? Just chill and let him know you're looking forward to getting together. Let him man up. If he doesn't he may not be as interested as you.

Yes he is off for 17 days after. I am going to try to just chill. I dunno it is like friends are asking for status reports and am like well he is working there is nothing really to tell maybe that is stressing me out more then anything.

 

[-Ariel-]

Yes he is off for 17 days after. I am going to try to just chill. I dunno it is like friends are asking for status reports and am like well he is working there is nothing really to tell maybe that is stressing me out more then anything.

How old is he, just curious... and what are his best qualities that you -consciously- are attracted too?

 

[txbondsman]

date older men...

 

[superqt4u2nv]

How old is he, just curious... and what are his best qualities that you -consciously- are attracted too?

He is 33 funny, smart, sweet, easy going, down to earth, athletic, very attractive also into bodybuilding.

 

[miplank]

He is 33 funny, smart, sweet, easy going, down to earth, athletic, very attractive also into bodybuilding.

hmmm...have you gave it up yet? maybe that's what he's holding out for...


Just throwin' that out there

 

[-Ariel-]

He is 33 funny, smart, sweet, easy going, down to earth, athletic, very attractive also into bodybuilding.

Pics? j/k
My next question is when you first met, did you feel an instant attraction?
Second question is how do you feel when U are around him...
What is his body language like when he is around you?
How open is he about talking about himself?
My main thing is when we are attracted to people usually, there is this eager feeling in wanting to talk more about anything... and convo, unless hampered by nervous tension, will or should flow naturally..
However it doesn't seem like this dude should be shy or inhibited so he should be comfortable in opening up to a certain degree...
He knows the balance of being eager yet not to eager...
Just reviewing the above questions may help you unlock a better view of how much he digs on you...
I'm sure he digs on you, but the question is how much, and is he willing to take it to the next level... I think this is what You want to clarify...
Also in past relationships that didn't work out, or U felt were a waste of time, are there indications or feelings like u might be attracted to the same type of person... I mean habitually we all are attracted to familiarity subconsciously... we give reasons, but they are usually not the primary causal ones...
It sounds like you got a good bro... and I only hope it works out for the best, but in order to protect yourself, trust your inner gut of what is actually happening, not what u wanna happen, but what is actually occurring...
Hard to do, but I think its a good way to protect yourself from being hurt.
You are a catch... attractive, funny, open minded, genuine, and ambitious... the thing about relationships or the initial thing, u kinda get a great opportunity to know more about yourself if you are willing to look.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

hmmm...have you gave it up yet? maybe that's what he's holding out for...


Just throwin' that out there

Nope just kissed not even 2nd base.

Pics? j/k
My next question is when you first met, did you feel an instant attraction?
Second question is how do you feel when U are around him...
What is his body language like when he is around you?
How open is he about talking about himself?
My main thing is when we are attracted to people usually, there is this eager feeling in wanting to talk more about anything... and convo, unless hampered by nervous tension, will or should flow naturally..
However it doesn't seem like this dude should be shy or inhibited so he should be comfortable in opening up to a certain degree...
He knows the balance of being eager yet not to eager...
Just reviewing the above questions may help you unlock a better view of how much he digs on you...
I'm sure he digs on you, but the question is how much, and is he willing to take it to the next level... I think this is what You want to clarify...
Also in past relationships that didn't work out, or U felt were a waste of time, are there indications or feelings like u might be attracted to the same type of person... I mean habitually we all are attracted to familiarity subconsciously... we give reasons, but they are usually not the primary causal ones...
It sounds like you got a good bro... and I only hope it works out for the best, but in order to protect yourself, trust your inner gut of what is actually happening, not what u wanna happen, but what is actually occurring...
Hard to do, but I think its a good way to protect yourself from being hurt.
You are a catch... attractive, funny, open minded, genuine, and ambitious... the thing about relationships or the initial thing, u kinda get a great opportunity to know more about yourself if you are willing to look.

Yes I was attracted right away and it grew as we started to talk. The more I talk to him the more I like him very similar values and mind set. This sounds so gay but I actually get butterflies to see him. His body language is very open and he has no problem opening up talking about himself. I asked some difficult questions and he was pretty candid with me.
I don't think he is like a lot of the guys I have dated in the past. Most guys are pretty aggressive with my physically he was not at all just a kissing. Which makes me like him more as I can tell that is not all he is out for.