Do we really have to play games?

[Smurfy]

blame the women who wrote the book " the rules "
She is the one that told you , guys want to chase down women, hunt girls ,men want the girls who ignore them and " make him want the girl more if she does not show intrest in him" and if he does not play the game he is not good enough for you.As if a woman is some prize for surviving the mindfuck game
You know exactly the book , all girls wake on there 21st birthday awake and find a copy under their pillow and then she goes out in the world to mess with guys heads lead him on, ignore him ,give him mixed signals untill the dood breaks down crys and just flat out thinks the girl is a headcase and never calls back becuase he cant figure you out , then you wonder " geez what did i do wrong " I followed " the rules"
That shit was written years ago Things have changed you are not in the 50's stop that oldschool train of thought .I know you are doing it becuase you mentioned the " cant show to much intrest " b/s

You sound like a cool chick superqt from your post I have read , be upfront and honest with the guys dont play this " better not act to intrested shit " Forget the headgames be yourself and the right guy will come along and respect you for being real and upfront keep the guy wanting more , by making him want YOU more and more through your personality, your kindness and if you are truly a happy person and very joyfull he will always want to be around you becuase it will make him feel good being around a happy girl and you will win him over that way .

I didnt means to sound rude but the new dating scene is not " the cat mouse game " the new deal is is friends that enjoy each others so much they just dont want to be apart and things evolve on their own it just happens .

O to anwser your question why must we play mind games? You dont have to play them

no fuck no. Im not playing by anyone's rules or games. If Im interested, I have no problems letting you know it. I'm not gonna "wait three days" or some such shit. fuck that. let's be adults and communicate openly. but i dont chase anyone either. if there's no mutual attraction, then Im not interested.

 

[the_alcatraz]

Awww sweet but neither of you live in Toronto

I am being serious here. I dunno I have such a hard time meeting guys I actually have an interest in then once I do. It is like well you can't let him know you like him or he will lose interest. Only text him etc in reply to him blah blah blah. Honestly I am so sick of this crap I am 29 not 12. I just rather be honest and up front rather then all of this.

I find that seriously hard to believe

 

[the_alcatraz]

Thanks So here is the total skinny behind all this. I meet this guy last Tuesday we had a great first date. Good conversation a lot the same interest etc. plus a obvious attraction. So yeah he asks me out again for Thursday. I was like heck yeah. Again another great date just great conversation funny makes me laugh etc. Then a really great kiss at the end of the date like wow sparks I haven't felt in a long time. So he does shift work and has 7 days straight long shifts. He says it sucks bad timing as he would like to hang with me more. I am like no worries it is only 7 days. So yeah I am texting him and he is texting back but then I dunno just started feeling like I am text him more then he is me. Maybe I am just over thinking things. But yeah then my friends (girls and guys) are like you have to lay off texting him let him come to you play the game all this crap which is just not me.

you need to play hard to get a little. Guys like that. They like when they have to work to "get the girl"

That being said, he's an idiot if he doesn't text you back.

 

[EnderJE]

<shrug>

Maybe you're just getting old?



Move to Calgary. I'm thinking of leaving this place.

 

[the_alcatraz]

<shrug>

Maybe you're just getting old?



Move to Calgary. I'm thinking of leaving this place.

What the hell is in Alberta?

 

[Beachboy6294]

You need to move to New Orleans I need a roomate!!!

 

[Dial_tone]

I hate trying to have a conversation via texting. I start responding slower and slower just to slow her down. If I don't have time to call I damn sure don't have time to keep fucking with this tiny ass wanna be phone keyboard.

 

[EnderJE]

What the hell is in Alberta?

There's a job for me if I leave now. There might be a better paying job for the wife.

The competition is less then Toronto. The pay is higher. The winters are colder, but drier.

 

[EnderJE]

...and skanks.

 

[Beachboy6294]

I hate trying to have a conversation via texting. I start responding slower and slower just to slow her down. If I don't have time to call I damn sure don't have time to keep fucking with this tiny ass wanna be phone keyboard.

I like using texting when I'm trying to bullshit a chick because you have time to think and respond but that's the only time.