Check this out

[chesty]

couldn't tell you on either count

 

[Delinquent]

planning to get married beore living together plus only talking via IM?? Recipe for a disaster already. People amaze me that they think they know someone just by talking IM, sharing some nights together, and never actually living together.

 

[chesty]

I never believed in living together anyway, so if it was me that wouldn't be how I would base my decision to marry. I lived with someone once and it failed, I didn't live with them and it failed, dated them both long term and they both failed.

I think in todays society there is much more to consider

 

[chesty]

Okay, here is something else he just sent me. There are so many red flags it isn't even funny.

She asked him if he expected her to contribute to the household support and then informed him that he should know her alimony will end once they get married! How the fuck can you get alimony if you are already married? Unless she is referring to her current soon to be ex and the money he might be sending her already. In that case sh isn't lying just not telling the truth about which ex it is coming from.

This shit gets better and better. I am going to write a book on this when it is all over!

 

[heatherrae]

She sounds like a real winner!

 

[Lestat]

why are they having serious talks about their future over instant messenger?

 

[milo hobgoblin]

why are they having serious talks about their future over instant messenger?

LOL if that were true I think it would pretty much sum up their relationship.

 

[Dial_tone]

She asked him if he expected her to contribute to the household support and then informed him that he should know her alimony will end once they get married! How the fuck can you get alimony if you are already married?

I think that was to cover her tracks since you/he only know about the first husband as of now (so she thinks). I started reading your post giving her the benny of the doubt but i'm liking this less and less. On the off chance that you are wrong, come at her like "I'm just looking out for my friend" and "I just don't trust you women".
Really bad sign to be keeping something this big from him this late in the game.

 

[chesty]

got me, but he gotta she better shit or get off the pot for his sake. I would say if she isn't moving up to be with him in the next couple of weeks he should rethink the whole thing.

 

[heatherrae]

No, you are hoping for the wrong outcome. Hopefully, she will show her true colors and won't move up there and marry him or she will ruin his life. Getting married won't change her or the situation, except for making it harder for him to extricate himself from the whole mess.