Came clean with w/wife about AAS

[the-short-one]

you made a big mistake bro, she can ruin you...im not kidding

he's been with her for 15 years. I think he knows better than you do that he can trust her.

A girlfriend is a different story. If he'd been dating her for 2 months or something, then no - he shouldn't tell her.

 

[georgie24]

it doesnt matter!

she can always hang that shit over his head as leverage if shit goes sour in the relationship.

there are great women out there im sure...... he maybe needs her emotional support hence his reflief when he spilled his guts....

 

[mr.nitro]

I have been with my wife almost 15 year and used anabolics on and off for the last 5, In the last year and a half I have really stepped up my training as well as my AAS use. She knew I did some orals some years back but thats all I ever told her.

Well I just did not want to hide anything from her anymore or try to explain why I was recieving goods from research companies, hiding pins, night sweats, medical waste etc. It's actually pretty amazing she never caught me.

So last night over dinner I told her what I was doing and gave her all the details, to my surprise she took it very well, and she appreciated me being up front with her.

No more sneaking around hiding gear or wondering if she'll walk in while I'm pinning myself.
I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders.

peace!

I think you did the right thing bro. honesty with your wife is very important. if it was a girlfriend I may have had a different oppinion, but you got be be honest with your wife. mine knows and im glad she does, I hated sneaking around.

 

[sofakingdel]

good for you and your relationship bro, but i wouldnt have done it. my wife has been close to finding out for a while now, but I won't give it up willingly. I don't want to give her any ammo or leverage for anything. But then it also depends on how educated she is about AAS, you guys might be in an argument and she might bust out and call you a junky or something, or she might use it to justify something that she is doing. Well i don't know your wife but I do mine, so again good on you bro and GOOD LUCK

 

[bivk]

Never come clean.. you never know how the relationship will go considering 51% of marriages do end in divorce. I keep secrets from my family and friends because I know certain information will only be damaging towards me.

 

[blut wump]

My wife accused me of using gear long before I ever did use so we had the discussion while I could emphatically deny it. She made it quite clear that she didn't believe me, though, so I didn't see any point in telling her when I did start.

She 'knew' about it long before I did.

 

[52_21_30]

Wow you guys must be dating some real retarded headcases. I can understand if he or she is a fine piece of ass and you're single, then sure keep them in the dark. Hell, they'll proably believe you if you tell them the sky isn't really blue. But if it's your WIFE, having secrets from each other is the beginning of the end. Might as well send her packing now, cus god only knows what she's keeping from you.

 

[Ulter]

I agree with 52. If you have relationship with your wife that you need to hide your AS use then either you can't explain it well or you need a new wife. I think most men that don't tell their wives would be surprised, like flyingfox, to find the wife doesn't care. I am not ashamed of what I do. As far as, "she's got something on you" goes, so what? She might tell people you use AS? Who are these women that are so out to get you? It's too bad when you can't have a totally open and honest relationship out of fear.

 

[iHulk]

I agree with 52. If you have relationship with your wife that you need to hide your AS use then either you can't explain it well or you need a new wife. I think most men that don't tell their wives would be surprised, like flyingfox, to find the wife doesn't care. I am not ashamed of what I do. As far as, "she's got something on you" goes, so what? She might tell people you use AS? Who are these women that are so out to get you? It's too bad when you can't have a totally open and honest relationship out of fear.

AMEN brotha!

 

[blut wump]

There's a difference between a secret and something that's not discussed. I don't chat with her much at all about my lifting and she just accepts that she gets a decent, balanced meal cooked in the evening. Aside from that, she knows I lift weights and can open tight jars. If she were to search my study, she'd very quickly find orals, vials, amps etc. even powders. Accordingly, I assume that she did at some stage and never felt the need to discuss it. I have nothing to discuss with her on the matter so...

Maybe it helps that gear is legal over here.

I have trouble understanding relationships where everything has to be out on the table for scrutiny and disection. Maybe that just comes from 20 years of marriage. I have vague memories of early insecurity.