Blows to the ego...

[javaguru]

I think you are a special snowflake bro.

Sorry bor, Pick3 already called dibs if I turn geigh....

 

[velvett]

1987 - School of Visual Arts: A drawing class of some kind

I was 17 and totally shattered, in high school I was the best, in college among others that were "the best" in their world - I felt unworthy.

It's the big fish little pond to little fish big pond phenomenon.

You find out that there are so many people just like you and some you may think are better than you in so many ways.

That's thing though - competing against others doesn't make you grow - competing against yourself does.

Try not to focus on others - focus on what you need to do to be and feel like a better you. When you feel better about you in time you'll stop focusing on how you compare to others.

I hope that helps...

 

[all the whey]

I realize that perfect grades don't make a wonderful lawyer.
Why don't the firms realize that?
So I don't have a 4.5 - I wrote orders that were published. I "won" arguments with a federal judge. I'm good at this stuff damn it. Plus I'm cute and I look good in a suit and I have a friggin personality. Why doensn't anyone want me?

 

[heatherrae]

I realize that perfect grades don't make a wonderful lawyer.
Why don't the firms realize that?
So I don't have a 4.5 - I wrote orders that were published. I "won" arguments with a federal judge. I'm good at this stuff damn it. Plus I'm cute and I look good in a suit and I have a friggin personality. Why doensn't anyone want me?

Those on campus interviews suck. They usually only go on GPA alone. Almost no one but the top 10 got offers when we did them as 1L's. If you want a good clerking position where they will actually do some work instead of bullshit hob-nobbing at the big power firms, then interview at a mid or small size that is looking for a clerk and not doing the on campus BS.

 

[javaguru]

I realize that perfect grades don't make a wonderful lawyer.
Why don't the firms realize that?
So I don't have a 4.5 - I wrote orders that were published. I "won" arguments with a federal judge. I'm good at this stuff damn it. Plus I'm cute and I look good in a suit and I have a friggin personality. Why doensn't anyone want me?

Sometimes the way you look can work against you if they need to fill a merit position. A recommendation can work wonders. To paraphrase, I can't count the times I was told,"Wow, you really are smart." In my business, the nerdier you look the better.

Also, after job #1 GPA doesn't matter.

 

[all the whey]

I wish I was back in College again banging nerdy chicks with low self-esteem.

 

[layinback]

Maybe you're right.
But I'm surrounded by the top 10%.
It kind of sucks to feel like you're at the bottom of any group.
I'm just here to learn and write and explore - why does it have to make me feel like such shit at times?

stefka, as long as you compare yourself to others you will be disappointed. this can be a hard lesson to learn. shit im still working on this. when you make comparisons someone has to lose! even if you pronounce yourself the "winner" most pretty, best dressed etc... you still lose because you are reinforcing dichotomous beliefs and setting yourself up for a fall in the future. more and more i am learning to suspend judgments and look at things like " just is." we all have our little "judge" measuring ourselves against our fellows. tell him\her to go fuck off.

 

[heatherrae]

I wish I was back in College again banging nerdy chicks with low self-esteem.

You told me that you loved me and I was pretty.

 

[javaguru]

You told me that you loved me and I was pretty.

Menz and wiminz lie....

 

[Stefka]

You have all made good points. I'm just not into watching as all those that I consider to be "better" than me scoop up the jobs. I need to pay off my loans too damn it. I'd love to maintain the "well if you don't want me then I wouldn't want to work for you anyway" attitude - but real, debt-filled life is rapidly approaching. I've never felt so unwanted. This sucks.