been cheated on

[Razorguns]

just dont let her convince you that its your fault....

it's not a 'fault', but a 'gift'.

He knows she isn't right for him. Better now than 2 years later. 2 kids, 30 extra lbs, 2 years on the age scale.

He knows that she isn't finding, whatever she wants in men, in him, and then for whatever her reason is, her response is to sleep with another guy.

Be an Alpha Male -- who cares what her reason is.

She isn't compatible with you. You have higher morals, time to find another girl.

Best way to treat it is to be blunt: "Oh you cheated, okay, we're not compatible - cuz cheating gfs are not my bag. If we had problems, you'd come to me - not him. Bye".

As much as it sucks, LOWER her value in your eye, and move on. She'll actually raise her 'value' of you in her eyes (i know, fucked up, but that's how women are).

It'll suck for the first few days - but in the end, you'll go to sleep knowing 'she cheated, you said bye, and never looked back'.

Don't for the love of god, become an emotional tampon crying irate jilted drama queen. Then you just answered your q on why she cheated on you.

r

 

[silverstar1025]

ya but she thinks this isnt why.....she hasnt been happy for a year now

Good for you then because obviously there was something she felt she wasnt getting from you so she ran to someone else. What happens if a yr from now she was needin something again she would do it again!! Once a cheat..... My ex bf cheated on me and i believed all the "I am sorry it will never happen again bs" 1 yr later he did it again. I was done then.

 

[Megalomaniac]

the ones who haven't are the ones who just don't know

 

[biteme]

Yes, but if I could do it again, I wouldn't have aired it on here.

 

[Smurfy]

Yes, but if I could do it again, I wouldn't have aired it on here.

Well if you dont kick her ass out, then the chances you going through it again are quite high!

 

[wootoom]

i hate this thread

 

[blueta2]

I've been cheated on twice. Both times I tried to work it out. Both times it didn't work. Trying to regain trust is close to impossible

My suggestion; do not throw her to the curb (as many are saying here that prob have never been through it EVER), 4 1/2 yrs is a long time. If you truly love her, confront her with it, find out why and if she's willing, go to couples therapy. It's the only way to TRY to regain trust.
You owe it to yourself to try to work on it.


Good luck....I feel your pain

 

[wootoom]

im starting a new life

 

[Sub-Zero]

it's not a 'fault', but a 'gift'.

He knows she isn't right for him. Better now than 2 years later. 2 kids, 30 extra lbs, 2 years on the age scale.

He knows that she isn't finding, whatever she wants in men, in him, and then for whatever her reason is, her response is to sleep with another guy.

Be an Alpha Male -- who cares what her reason is.

She isn't compatible with you. You have higher morals, time to find another girl.

Best way to treat it is to be blunt: "Oh you cheated, okay, we're not compatible - cuz cheating gfs are not my bag. If we had problems, you'd come to me - not him. Bye".

As much as it sucks, LOWER her value in your eye, and move on. She'll actually raise her 'value' of you in her eyes (i know, fucked up, but that's how women are).

It'll suck for the first few days - but in the end, you'll go to sleep knowing 'she cheated, you said bye, and never looked back'.

Don't for the love of god, become an emotional tampon crying irate jilted drama queen. Then you just answered your q on why she cheated on you.

r

people are more desperate than your stupid idealistic advice.

especially, when youv invested 4 years into someone, connecting on such a close level as you do while in a relationship,

 

[wootoom]

people are more desperate than your stupid idealistic advice.

especially, when youv invested 4 years into someone, connecting on such a close level as you do while in a relationship,

thank you sub...