My teenage son

[just...v]

Went to his girlfriend's house this weekend, a decision his father made without talking to me. The parents were home but my boy is nearly 15 and teenagers can find anywhere to fool around. So I took my son's phone and sure enough, they were fooling around. They are super close to having sex. He planned on going over there again this weekend.


I'm gonna call her parents.

 

[smurf2]

Good idea to connect with the parents so you can all be on the same page re:supervision for these love birds. But ultimately, they can go out into the woods to fool around if they really want to

 

[Headholio]

Good idea to connect with the parents so you can all be on the same page re:supervision for these love birds. But ultimately, they can go out into the woods to fool around if they really want to

Too cold.

 

[jiggagold]

Stop cock blocking

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[hardrock]

Educate him on the importance of safe sex. You can't stop the inevitable. Don't hate, educate.

Shit I'm sure most of you were having sex by then. And yes, even the woods will do at that age.

 

[Headholio]

16 is about average for losing virginity these days. Maybe its even younger. Whether you like it or not, there is no way you can stop it.
I believe in the talks about being too young, saving it for someone special, needing emotional maturity to handle that kind of relationship etc, but that's not the most important thing.
The most important thing to tell your son is "If you get that girl pregnant, I will cut your balls off." Buy him condoms and tell him if he ever gets to the point of having sex, he MUST use a condom every single time. Tell him every day, do NOT get that girl pregnant. You do not want that nightmare of a pregnant teenage girl making plans to make you a grandma.

 

[Stank for 3]

What's super close? Did he get a BJ?

 

[miplank]

Stop cock blocking

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solid advice

 

[burnthiscorpse]

Would you change your SN from Just V to "Just Grandma?"

 

[zwhit]

they've probably already had sex anyway

 

[Mark One]

Well depending if the girls family has thoroughly educated her is a big factor. A lot of these teen girls want to stay "virgins" so they have no problem with anal and or oral sex which they believe still keeps them virgins. Hope that makes you feel a little better

 

[just...v]

16 is about average for losing virginity these days. Maybe its even younger. Whether you like it or not, there is no way you can stop it.
I believe in the talks about being too young, saving it for someone special, needing emotional maturity to handle that kind of relationship etc, but that's not the most important thing.
The most important thing to tell your son is "If you get that girl pregnant, I will cut your balls off." Buy him condoms and tell him if he ever gets to the point of having sex, he MUST use a condom every single time. Tell him every day, do NOT get that girl pregnant. You do not want that nightmare of a pregnant teenage girl making plans to make you a grandma.

He is way too young only 14. He and this girl have been seeing eachother for nearly 2 years. I'm going to talk to her parents about putting her on birthcontrol. And of course I will push te condoms.


I don't think I can stop him. But I really wish I could. He's mature for his age but this is way too young.

 

[zwhit]

I think I was 14, maybe 15 when I got it in for the first time.

Its time. Let it happen

 

[just...v]

Well depending if the girls family has thoroughly educated her is a big factor. A lot of these teen girls want to stay "virgins" so they have no problem with anal and or oral sex which they believe still keeps them virgins. Hope that makes you feel a little better

Uh no, not really.

Sex is sex. It complicates things.

 

[bigbassturd]

Yay for more tax dollar hoodlums

 

[just...v]

they've probably already had sex anyway

No. He was trying to talk her into it on the texts. She is a good girl. Besides, my oldest son isn't the first boy I've raised. I took another boy in when he was 8 and he moved out when he was 19. I knew right away when he lost his virginity.

My son hasn't yet.

 

[miplank]

you don't know shit

 

[canadianhitman]

If you can get her on the pill, great move...covers the condom breakage risk.

 

[just...v]

you don't know shit

It's not my first rodeo, Planky. I know enough to know that I probably only see the tip of the iceberg.

 

[-SD-]

As a ternage mom you have no credibility when telling your teenager to not fuck.

 

[just...v]

What's super close? Did he get a BJ?

And then some....

 

[EnderJE]

He should turn gay. Then you won't have to worry anymore about preggers!

 

[just...v]

As a ternage mom you have no credibility when telling your teenager to not fuck.

Why do you guys keep thinking I was a teen mom? I was 20 when I got pregnant with my son.

And I'm not gonna throw a fit. I'm not gonna give the dont have sex speech in a "you better not" sort of way. I'm gonna tell him I feel he is too young. That this is a decision that could come with life changing consequences. I'm going to give him condoms and try to educate him. And I am going to talk to the mom about putting the girl on the depo shot or something that she doesn't have to be responsible for remembering daily.

I was on the pill and I got pregnant with my son.

 

[zwhit]

As a ternage mom you have no credibility when telling your teenager to not fuck.

lol, you serious bro?

 

[bigbassturd]

Let 'em get preggers, then put them on an MTV show and make a shit ton of munnies off their public embarassment.

It's what good parents do these days

 

[-SD-]

lol, you serious bro?

Kids emulate their parents. Teen preg rates are higher when the parents were teen preg as well. Divorce rates higher when your parents divorced etc.

But its a moot point since i thought JustV was a teen mom but she said she wasnt

 

[bigbassturd]

I was on the pill and I got pregnant with my son.

Must have been tough to raise a kid in highschool

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[just...v]

Let 'em get preggers, then put them on an MTV show and make a shit ton of munnies off their public embarassment.

It's what good parents do these days

Oh god.


I'm gonna just cut his little marbles off.

What really pisses me off is his dad lets him go over there, doesn't even tell me, doesn't meet the parents. They had to have been unsupervised for something like that to happen. What kind of parent takes his 14yo son to his GF's house and doesn't talk to the parents???

 

[Headholio]

They put girls on the pill to clear up acne. An angle to consider.

 

[just...v]

Kids emulate their parents. Teen preg rates are higher when the parents were teen preg as well. Divorce rates higher when your parents divorced etc.

But its a moot point since i thought JustV was a teen mom but she said she wasnt

Nope. I can't even use the excuse that is was a dumb teenager. I was just plain dumb.

 

[just...v]

Must have been tough to raise a kid in highschool

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I honestly wouldn't know. It was tough enough at 20.

 

[zwhit]

Kids emulate their parents. Teen preg rates are higher when the parents were teen preg as well. Divorce rates higher when your parents divorced etc.

But its a moot point since i thought JustV was a teen mom but she said she wasnt

my mom was 18 when I was born. if anything, it gave her credibility because she had the experience. me nor any of my siblings had a kid as a teenager. don't generalize so much bro

 

[just...v]

They put girls on the pill to clear up acne. An angle to consider.

She has no acne, she is a pretty little thing. Very smart and polite. A baby would ruin her little life.

And no pill. All it takes is for her to forget once. I want her on something that is a little more longterm and takes less thought. The shot, I don't know if they still do a patch, maybe the Nuevo ring.

I really hate not having control over this situation. Man, I hope her mom is open minded. And fucking responsible.

 

[just...v]

my mom was 18 when I was born. if anything, it gave her credibility because she had the experience. me nor any of my siblings had a kid as a teenager. don't generalize so much bro

My cousin had her daughter at 16. She still went to college and is doing really well. She was an excellent mother. Her daughter is going to college next year. No babies for her. She is a very bright and responsible girl.

 

[Headholio]

She has no acne, she is a pretty little thing. Very smart and polite. A baby would ruin her little life.

And no pill. All it takes is for her to forget once. I want her on something that is a little more longterm and takes less thought. The shot, I don't know if they still do a patch, maybe the Nuevo ring.

I really hate not having control over this situation. Man, I hope her mom is open minded. And fucking responsible.

My son's girlfriend is the same way. Cute no acne, but on the pill for acne. It might be the parents way of staying safe without condoning sex. And if a teenage girl gets 1 pimple she wants any remedy possible.

 

[Stank for 3]

hey v.... aside from all the other BS.... at least your being a responsible woman and mother by worrying about this. i respect that. you're a good woman.

 

[Stank for 3]

i hope everything works out well for you in this situation. i really do.

 

[SinisterUproar]

Went to his girlfriend's house this weekend, a decision his father made without talking to me. The parents were home but my boy is nearly 15 and teenagers can find anywhere to fool around. So I took my son's phone and sure enough, they were fooling around. They are super close to having sex. He planned on going over there again this weekend.


I'm gonna call her parents.

He's 15.... Let him have sex. Trying to stop him is only going to make him want it more

 

[just...v]

My son's girlfriend is the same way. Cute no acne, but on the pill for acne. It might be the parents way of staying safe without condoning sex. And if a teenage girl gets 1 pimple she wants any remedy possible.

Good point.

I have to figure out how to approach this with the parents without coming off like a psycho control freak. Cause I have very strong opinions on how they should handle this with her.

 

[just...v]

hey v.... aside from all the other BS.... at least your being a responsible woman and mother by worrying about this. i respect that. you're a good woman.

Thanks.

I love my sons. They are honestly the only thing that keeps me going somedays. I may get my life all wrong, I have made lots of mistakes. I really want better for those two.

 

[just...v]

He's 15.... Let him have sex. Trying to stop him is only going to make him want it more

Are you fucking kidding me? I'm not gonna be that casual about it.

I know I can't stop him. I'm aware. This is not about stoping him. He's a fuckibg teenage boy. They are walking hard on's at that age. I don't want him to catch something or get the girl pregnant. I need to figure out how to approach her parents with this. Hopefully they realize they can't stop it.

 

[dabuffguy]

Your first mistake was letting your son have a girlfriend so young.

I had a cousin who was doing his girlfriend at that age and it is his single greatest regret.


Honestly, I'd be very clear that you feel he should be abstinent and try to enforce that, as effective or ineffective it may be.

I coach high school baseball and I know very well the mindset of the teenage boy. If you raised them from day 1 to keep their pants on, then they much more likely will. If that wasn't really talked about much, then he's going to think that his pecker is freem to come out whenever he feels like it.

Being raised with a strict rule that dating is to wait until 16, I never did have sex as a teenager because usually by 16 you have better control over raging hormones. In fact, I'm in my mid 20's, single and still a virgin because I was raised that sex is for marriage and to wait, and I am waiting. There have have been several opportunities for me to score but I chose not to.

Tell your kid that if he's horny to spank it before hooking up with his girl.

If he was trying to talk her into it, then she probably doesn't want to and he's in the wrong for being aggressive about getting that poon, which is not love at all. Sex and love are not the same thing.

 

[zwhit]

Your first mistake was letting your son have a girlfriend so young.

I had a cousin who was doing his girlfriend at that age and it is his single greatest regret.


Honestly, I'd be very clear that you feel he should be abstinent and try to enforce that, as effective or ineffective it may be.

I coach high school baseball and I know very well the mindset of the teenage boy. If you raised them from day 1 to keep their pants on, then they much more likely will. If that wasn't really talked about much, then he's going to think that his pecker is freem to come out whenever he feels like it.

Being raised with a strict rule that dating is to wait until 16, I never did have sex as a teenager because usually by 16 you have better control over raging hormones. In fact, I'm in my mid 20's, single and still a virgin because I was raised that sex is for marriage and to wait, and I am waiting. There have have been several opportunities for me to score but I chose not to.

Tell your kid that if he's horny to spank it before hooking up with his girl.

If he was trying to talk her into it, then she probably doesn't want to and he's in the wrong for being aggressive about getting that poon, which is not love at all. Sex and love are not the same thing.

you ferreal?

 

[zwhit]

that's gross

 

[billfred]

They put girls on the pill to clear up acne. An angle to consider.

I used that angle

 

[mstiles87]

Pills the best bet docs won't put iud's in unless a girl has already been preggers. My fiancé has been trying for ages to get one and off the pill but her doc won't do it.

 

[dabuffguy]

you ferreal?

Yes, I ferreal.

I'm "olde fashioned" I suppose. I believe fornication is wrong, and the whole societal mindset nowdays is that "it's going to happen, so don't worry about it" which is a terrible approach.

Is it going to happen? Sure.

Should we just not care? Pfft, of course we should care.

Sex is not for teenagers. A large portion teens regret having done it. They think they are being big and grown up when they commit to a sexual relationship, and the two don't really have anything to do with eachother.

I know I grew up and live in a different place than most people. Most people around here as teens encouraged each other to be abstinent, and that made a difference.


Look at V, she is concerned about her son having sex. Why? Because she knows he just shouldn't be doing it, and until you are a parent or you are looked up in similar light and love a child that much, all of the sudden abstinence becomes the way. There's an inherent worry built into us about promiscuous sex. Why? Because it's morally wrong, and deep down, we all know it.

You can laugh all you want, but the obvious best way for this situation to play out is that V's son discontinue the fooling around. He's 14, he's just a kid.

 

[bigbassturd]

Ah, ye old mormon rulebook.

'sex at fourteen is wrong, but sex with fourteen is right'

 

[zwhit]

Yes, I ferreal.

I'm "olde fashioned" I suppose. I believe fornication is wrong, and the whole societal mindset nowdays is that "it's going to happen, so don't worry about it" which is a terrible approach.

Is it going to happen? Sure.

Should we just not care? Pfft, of course we should care.

Sex is not for teenagers. A large portion teens regret having done it. They think they are being big and grown up when they commit to a sexual relationship, and the two don't really have anything to do with eachother.

I know I grew up and live in a different place than most people. Most people around here as teens encouraged each other to be abstinent, and that made a difference.


Look at V, she is concerned about her son having sex. Why? Because she knows he just shouldn't be doing it, and until you are a parent or you are looked up in similar light and love a child that much, all of the sudden abstinence becomes the way. There's an inherent worry built into us about promiscuous sex. Why? Because it's morally wrong, and deep down, we all know it.

You can laugh all you want, but the obvious best way for this situation to play out is that V's son discontinue the fooling around. He's 14, he's just a kid.

You're the exception, not the rule. Most kids are not going to wait until their mid 20s to have sex. It makes a lot more sense to teach responsibility than trying to teach every kid that its "morally wrong" to have sex outside of marriage.

 

[just...v]

Your first mistake was letting your son have a girlfriend so young.

I had a cousin who was doing his girlfriend at that age and it is his single greatest regret.


Honestly, I'd be very clear that you feel he should be abstinent and try to enforce that, as effective or ineffective it may be.

I coach high school baseball and I know very well the mindset of the teenage boy. If you raised them from day 1 to keep their pants on, then they much more likely will. If that wasn't really talked about much, then he's going to think that his pecker is freem to come out whenever he feels like it.

Being raised with a strict rule that dating is to wait until 16, I never did have sex as a teenager because usually by 16 you have better control over raging hormones. In fact, I'm in my mid 20's, single and still a virgin because I was raised that sex is for marriage and to wait, and I am waiting. There have have been several opportunities for me to score but I chose not to.

Tell your kid that if he's horny to spank it before hooking up with his girl.

If he was trying to talk her into it, then she probably doesn't want to and he's in the wrong for being aggressive about getting that poon, which is not love at all. Sex and love are not the same thing.

Right. Cause I totally encouraged him. Please son, go date, have sex early, make me a grandma!!

Do you honestly think I'm gonna hand him condoms and tell him to do it with my blessings? Do you think I haven't had the "sex is a big decision" convo with him?


And he does love her. Call it what you want, puppy love, first love, fucking infatuation, I don't care. Unfortunately there are some strong feelings there. I hoped that when I moved across town they would grow apart but it had quite the opposite effect.

Him having a girlfriend this young is not something I wanted.

 

[billfred]

Right. Cause I totally encouraged him. Please son, go date, have sex early, make me a grandma!!

Do you honestly think I'm gonna hand him condoms and tell him to do it with my blessings? Do you think I haven't had the "sex is a big decision" convo with him?


And he does love her. Call it what you want, puppy love, first love, fucking infatuation, I don't care. Unfortunately there are some strong feelings there. I hoped that when I moved across town they would grow apart but it had quite the opposite effect.

Him having a girlfriend this young is not something I wanted.

I can never figure out how a pretty smart chick continues to be in such fucked up situations.

 

[smurf2]

Your first mistake was letting your son have a girlfriend so young.

I had a cousin who was doing his girlfriend at that age and it is his single greatest regret.


Honestly, I'd be very clear that you feel he should be abstinent and try to enforce that, as effective or ineffective it may be.

I coach high school baseball and I know very well the mindset of the teenage boy. If you raised them from day 1 to keep their pants on, then they much more likely will. If that wasn't really talked about much, then he's going to think that his pecker is freem to come out whenever he feels like it.

Being raised with a strict rule that dating is to wait until 16, I never did have sex as a teenager because usually by 16 you have better control over raging hormones. In fact, I'm in my mid 20's, single and still a virgin because I was raised that sex is for marriage and to wait, and I am waiting. There have have been several opportunities for me to score but I chose not to.

Tell your kid that if he's horny to spank it before hooking up with his girl.

If he was trying to talk her into it, then she probably doesn't want to and he's in the wrong for being aggressive about getting that poon, which is not love at all. Sex and love are not the same thing.

what's it like to be a virgin?

 

[Headholio]

ah, ye old mormon rulebook.

'sex at fourteen is wrong, but sex with fourteen is right'

l_m_a_o !

 

[Headholio]

what's it like to be a virgin?

You don't remember?

I feel like a virgin on a daily basis, which is why I boof my wife every morning to get rid of that horrible feeling.

 

[bigbassturd]

l_m_a_o !

Can I multiple wives?

Can I big love?

 

[dabuffguy]

what's it like to be a virgin?

It's fine. I'm proud of the fact.

But, when I do get hitched, it's on!! Lol.

 

[zwhit]

I can never figure out how a pretty smart chick continues to be in such fucked up situations.

its a normal situation for anyone with a teenage son

 

[dabuffguy]

Ah, ye old mormon rulebook.

'sex at fourteen is wrong, but sex with fourteen is right'

Lol.

The mormons have been monogamous for the last 120 years.

Polygamy has been a part of virtually every religious society in history.

Atleast with polygamy, people are married in committed relationships as opposed to banging whatever drunk slag you can find on the weekend.


Anyways, let's not get OT. V wants help, so let's help her.

 

[burnthiscorpse]

It's fine. I'm proud of the fact.

But, when I do get hitched, it's on!! Lol.

Heres the problem I have with your theory.... and I'm being serious. What if you wait all that time and she sucks in the sack? Your fucked. You going to interview her ahead of time and make sure she gives head, anal, all the normal really fun stuff that I know 95% of the rest of us require in a relationship. I know speaking for myself I would not even mess around with a chick that wouldnt give oral and wasnt at least open to trying anal. They are deal breakers. Its like test driving a car. You find the best overall deal then buy that one.

I have a feeling when you finally get going with this your going to be sorry you waited so long and missed out on all the fucking you could have been doing. I'm not saying starting at 14 or 15 but jesus christ...even 18.

To each his own.....but I'm just saying.

 

[Headholio]

its a normal situation for anyone with a teenage son

Exactly.

I've gone through the same crap. And, just last night, I was telling him how bad it is to smoke pot, as I was sipping on my third beer.

But seriously, I think the full spectrum approach is all you can do. Explain to him how he should consider waiting, and also arm him with all he needs to know about birth control and disease prevention in case he doesn't take your advice.

I think abstenence education is fine, but abstenence only education is incomplete and dangerous.

And if he's getting blow jobs already, tell him he should be happy with that!!!

:lamao:

Seriously, that is sex, and he is too young for that, and so is that girly.

That conversation with the girls parents should be interesting. Parents of girls will most likely have a different viewpoint than parents of boys. They could be abstenence only types, anti birth control wing nuts, who knows.
But if they knew their little girl was polishing knobs already, they might be more interested in beating her ass than discussing birth control options.
Good luck with that.

 

[burnthiscorpse]

Exactly.

I've gone through the same crap. And, just last night, I was telling him how bad it is to smoke pot, as I was sipping on my third beer.

But seriously, I think the full spectrum approach is all you can do. Explain to him how he should consider waiting, and also arm him with all he needs to know about birth control and disease prevention in case he doesn't take your advice.

I think abstenence education is fine, but abstenence only education is incomplete and dangerous.

And if he's getting blow jobs already, tell him he should be happy with that!!!

:lamao:

Seriously, that is sex, and he is too young for that, and so is that girly.

That conversation with the girls parents should be interesting. Parents of girls will most likely have a different viewpoint than parents of boys. They could be abstenence only types, anti birth control wing nuts, who knows.
But if they knew their little girl was polishing knobs already, they might be more interested in beating her ass than discussing birth control options.
Good luck with that.

I would think a little in depth education on STD's would help get his thought process going a little.

 

[bigbassturd]

Less forum advice on parenting, more ass beating of kids in question

Problem solved

 

[Headholio]

Heres the problem I have with your theory.... and I'm being serious. What if you wait all that time and she sucks in the sack? Your fucked. You going to interview her ahead of time and make sure she gives head, anal, all the normal really fun stuff that I know 95% of the rest of us require in a relationship. I know speaking for myself I would not even mess around with a chick that wouldnt give oral and wasnt at least open to trying anal. They are deal breakers. Its like test driving a car. You find the best overall deal then buy that one.

I have a feeling when you finally get going with this your going to be sorry you waited so long and missed out on all the fucking you could have been doing. I'm not saying starting at 14 or 15 but jesus christ...even 18.

To each his own.....but I'm just saying.

Hey he just said he was waiting, not that his future wife is! He can find out how she is in the sack from her old boyfriends

Is that over the line?

Just joking. The old wait until marriage idea worked for a long time. If that's what he's into, good for him. Go Tebow!

 

[dabuffguy]

Right. Cause I totally encouraged him. Please son, go date, have sex early, make me a grandma!!

Do you honestly think I'm gonna hand him condoms and tell him to do it with my blessings? Do you think I haven't had the "sex is a big decision" convo with him?


And he does love her. Call it what you want, puppy love, first love, fucking infatuation, I don't care. Unfortunately there are some strong feelings there. I hoped that when I moved across town they would grow apart but it had quite the opposite effect.

Him having a girlfriend this young is not something I wanted.

I didn't mean to imply that this is the situation because of your lack of action as a parent. I didn't mean that at all.

He may have strong feelings for her, I get that. Those feelings are real.


Here's the bottom line.

I went through this very situation with my cousin. He was strongly attached emotionally, and his parents decided to allow him to be with her because of that, trusting he'd be responsible. Guess what? He wasn't. I knew that the whole time and warned my aunt about it because I knew everything. Now, he regrets it strongly and it has had a real negative impact on him emotionally.

Look, you are his mother. You love your son. You know that immature sexual relationships are a no-no. It is your duty as a parent to put your foot up his ass because it's the best thing for him whether he likes it or not. And right now, he'll be pissed about it, but later on he'll thank you.

Teenagers love independence and they want to earn parents trust and they don't want to be overprotected. That doesn't mean you stand by the wayside while your kid messes up. I know you aren't doing that, which is good, but you need to be overprotective when you know your kid is in a bad spot, because honestly he's too immature to make this decision with sound rationality and responsibility. Teenagers, especially younger ones, are mentally incapable of making consistent and thought out choices like an adult.

If it were me, his amount of time spent with her will be limited, and always supervised. No permitting of being alone together behind a closed door.

I'm also not saying you should suffocate him. You are the most qualified person to know the correct balance of how to deal with the situation because you know your son better than anyone else, but enforce your rules and stick to them without leniency. Also, have strict consequences if he breaks the rules and communicate what that will be to him beforehand.

 

[dabuffguy]

You're the exception, not the rule. Most kids are not going to wait until their mid 20s to have sex. It makes a lot more sense to teach responsibility than trying to teach every kid that its "morally wrong" to have sex outside of marriage.

It makes more sense to teach both. Not one or the other.

 

[just...v]

Pills the best bet docs won't put iud's in unless a girl has already been preggers. My fiancé has been trying for ages to get one and off the pill but her doc won't do it.

I wouldn't suggest an IUD anyway. They cause all kinds of problems. I know from experience.

 

[dabuffguy]

Heres the problem I have with your theory.... and I'm being serious. What if you wait all that time and she sucks in the sack? Your fucked. You going to interview her ahead of time and make sure she gives head, anal, all the normal really fun stuff that I know 95% of the rest of us require in a relationship. I know speaking for myself I would not even mess around with a chick that wouldnt give oral and wasnt at least open to trying anal. They are deal breakers. Its like test driving a car. You find the best overall deal then buy that one.

I have a feeling when you finally get going with this your going to be sorry you waited so long and missed out on all the fucking you could have been doing. I'm not saying starting at 14 or 15 but jesus christ...even 18.

To each his own.....but I'm just saying.

For a marital relationship, you are correct that the sexual aspect is important. Everyone should know that. I'm not particularly concerned about having a bad sexual relationship with my wife. Everyone likes good sex, so that's something that can be addressed.

I surely won't regret not having done the chicks I could have.

 

[-SD-]

For a marital relationship, you are correct that the sexual aspect is important. Everyone should know that. I'm not particularly concerned about having a bad sexual relationship with my wife. Everyone likes good sex, so that's something that can be addressed.

I surely won't regret not having done the chicks I could have.

Cant teach good sexual compatibility bro. Either its there or it isnt. The woman who is great in the sack with one dude is considered crap by another dude. And you cant judge how someone is going to be in bed just by dating them and hanging out and shit.

 

[jiggagold]

You do juice but don't fuck. What's the fucking point

Nice soft dick no wet wet life

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[zwhit]

It makes more sense to teach both. Not one or the other.

Of course it does. You can encourage abstinence but its not going to be the case most of the time, regardless of what era we're living in. People have been having sex as teenagers for thousands of years and its going to continue to happen.

You can't put your foot in your son's ass for having a girlfriend, either, like you seem to think she should. That's ridiculous. Educate the kid and raise him to do the right thing and you're way ahead of the game.

 

[SpyWizard]

our children are moral reflections of who we are and what values we have..

15yrs old... any child psychologist will tell you that is too young

take his phone from him?? what are you attempting to teach him?? how and when to lie to you??

He needs something to go towards that he want's more than the girl, that's the only way to change his desire/behavior.

 

[just...v]

its a normal situation for anyone with a teenage son

I was gonna say this too. I'm not gonna turn a blind eye and hope it doesn't happen.

 

[burnthiscorpse]

I was gonna say this too. I'm not gonna turn a blind eye and hope it doesn't happen.

It is normal. (teenager shit to deal with)

I have this coming in 2-3 years too. Thing is I have already started telling my son about women games and shit to watch out for. He wants to play college football and I keep beating into his head that women will screw it all up for you. They will fuck with your mind and your heart and not give a shit. Especially teenage girls. Maybe I'm biasing him but if it keeps him focused on the bigger picture then im ok with that. I told him if he doesnt even have a GF in highschool he'd probably be better off as all it would do is distract him from his goals and that he will appreciate it more later on.

All that said he's started puberty early but hasnt had the "girl" part hit him yet. I know when it does its going to be a bitch. Cause he's just like me.

 

[Headholio]

You know how in the Mormon church they get kids ready to go on their missions by doing all the intensive language training etc? I think they do a similar thing with the girls before they get married. Since they are all virgins (uh hem), they give them intensive sex training and videos of g,g,g,g, b action to prepare them for their wedding night.

 

[jackangel]

put him on deca

 

[dabuffguy]

You know how in the Mormon church they get kids ready to go on their missions by doing all the intensive language training etc? I think they do a similar thing with the girls before they get married. Since they are all virgins (uh hem), they give them intensive sex training and videos of g,g,g,g, b action to prepare them for their wedding night.

Lol

Probably not...

 

[burnthiscorpse]

put him on deca

Blam! Problem solved.

 

[-SD-]

Yea deca is actually the perfect remedy. Modern day salt peter

 

[just...v]

our children are moral reflections of who we are and what values we have..

15yrs old... any child psychologist will tell you that is too young

take his phone from him?? what are you attempting to teach him?? how and when to lie to you??

He needs something to go towards that he want's more than the girl, that's the only way to change his desire/behavior.

Like what? He is a good student, football just ended and I was gonna start taking him to the gym with me. It's not like he sits at home and does nothing.

And I will take his phone whenever I damn well please.

 

[dabuffguy]

Like what? He is a good student, football just ended and I was gonna start taking him to the gym with me. It's not like he sits at home and does nothing.

And I will take his phone whenever I damn well please.

His phone is really yours, and is a privilege for him to use. Taking the phone away is something every parent should do when necessary. And also monitor their activity on it.

 

[Mark One]

Like what? He is a good student, football just ended and I was gonna start taking him to the gym with me. It's not like he sits at home and does nothing.

And I will take his phone whenever I damn well please.

That's really all you can do , keep him busy and monitor him when he's with her,but if she's a little whore then I'd forbid him to see her , might find another just like her or maybe not

 

[SpyWizard]

Like what? He is a good student, football just ended and I was gonna start taking him to the gym with me. It's not like he sits at home and does nothing.

And I will take his phone whenever I damn well please.

well then expect him to seek love and acceptance from another woman.. and disregarding what makes you happy..

think about it, many women believe that they can force an action or reaction from a male by denying or taking something away from them.. when in fact the easiest and best way to get a male to do what you want him to do is to give him a reason to make you happy..

hope that clarifies.. and your son at 15 is a male..

 

[just...v]

well then expect him to seek love and acceptance from another woman.. and disregarding what makes you happy..

think about it, many women believe that they can force an action or reaction from a male by denying or taking something away from them.. when in fact the easiest and best way to get a male to do what you want him to do is to give him a reason to make you happy..

hope that clarifies.. and your son at 15 is a male..

Not really. I'm the parent, I provide for him and he needs guidance, so I take the phone every once and a while and look at it. It would be foolish to think he will tell me everything. I need to find out somehow so I can protect him from the mental retardation that comes with being a teenager and making stupid decisions.

I don't view it like a male female relationship. I am a parent, he is my child.

 

[just...v]

But my real question is...


How do I approach her parents?

I want that girl on birthcontrol. I know some of you guys have daughters. How do I talk to the parents in a way that will convince them to take some kind of action.

 

[bigbassturd]

Just tell them if you find out she lets him bone her without being on BC, you'll take everyone involved to court, your son included.

Be a maniac

 

[-SD-]

Get them to join EF then mop their ass with tar to get your point across.

 

[burnthiscorpse]

Get them to join EF then mop their ass with tar to get your point across.

Lololoolololololll!!!!!!

 

[burnthiscorpse]

Look on the bright side V, you could be Criminal10dinC's mom.

 

[WoodyO]

Not trying to be a dick here, but maybe he's so in "love" with this girl because of his home situation. If his dad really is the douche you say he is, then your kids can see it, and may be looking for family in other places.

Maybe it is time to let blueshirt into his life some more. A teenage boy would probably listen to a grown mans advice.

 

[WoodyO]

But my real question is...


How do I approach her parents?

I want that girl on birthcontrol. I know some of you guys have daughters. How do I talk to the parents in a way that will convince them to take some kind of action.

Do you know the girls mother? Just call, introduce yourself, and tell the truth. Tell them you've educated your son, and how. hopefully they'll respond with the info you needed.

 

[burnthiscorpse]

Not trying to be a dick here, but maybe he's so in "love" with this girl because of his home situation. If his dad really is the douche you say he is, then your kids can see it, and may be looking for family in other places.

Maybe it is time to let blueshirt into his life some more. A teenage boy would probably listen to a grown mans advice.

Another point of view from an adult male could be very valuable IF the kid respects him. Ha ing a shit pile for a dad is definatley an influence even if he isn't concious of it. I agree with Woody, get the bf involved.

 

[dabuffguy]

But my real question is...


How do I approach her parents?

I want that girl on birthcontrol. I know some of you guys have daughters. How do I talk to the parents in a way that will convince them to take some kind of action.

It's simple. Go to their house, knock on the door, tell them what you know and what your concerns are, and if they are any decent kind of parent, they will be appreciative of you talking to them and work with you to keep both kids in line and out of trouble.

Don't be hesitant, because you are doing this for your son because you love him. And since this girl is involved, you should care enough about your son's girl to keep your son's pecker out of her body as well.

 

[just...v]

That is good advice.

You try not to be the type of woman that seeks other men to raise your son. But reality is, I'm not a man and I have two boys. They could really use a positive male role model in their lives.

BlueShirt is willing. He is the one that keeps suggesting I bring the boys to the gym to workout with us. He has been seeing them every week lately.

 

[just...v]

It's simple. Go to their house, knock on the door, tell them what you know and what your concerns are, and if they are any decent kind of parent, they will be appreciative of you talking to them and work with you to keep both kids in line and out of trouble.

Don't be hesitant, because you are doing this for your son because you love him. And since this girl is involved, you should care enough about your son's girl to keep your son's pecker out of her body as well.

I'm sure they do, but I want her on BC.

I just finished talking to him. I told him I read the texts and I know stuff happened. He insisted it went that far just once. I told him that he is too young. He needs to wait. And if he does love her like he says, he will wait. I explained that he will complicate his relationship with her and those complications could cause it to end.

He kept saying that they weren't gonna do it. He said she isnt ready and he is ok with that. I told him he isn't ready either. He said he knew. I told him part of being a man is showing restraint. He kept insisting he wasn't gonna do it and he knew they were too young. I hope he isn't telling me what I want to hear.

 

[dabuffguy]

That is good advice.

You try not to be the type of woman that seeks other men to raise your son. But reality is, I'm not a man and I have two boys. They could really use a positive male role model in their lives.

BlueShirt is willing. He is the one that keeps suggesting I bring the boys to the gym to workout with us. He has been seeing them every week lately.

I've been that guy before, and am currently that guy.

I can tell you from being that guy, that I have thoroughly enjoyed it. I'm not a disciplinarian, because that's a parents job, but I lead by example. I don't cuss in front of them, I expect them to always be polite when they are with me, and I also point out situations and teach them how to think about those things. I also make sure I thank them when they extend courtesy to another like holding a door while entering/exiting a restaurant or store or tell them to do it if it's not habit. I've had both these boys at times hug me and tell me how much they love me and I also do the same. Of course, we're family and maybe saying "I love you" isn't appropriate or comfortable with BlueShirt. Have him teach them how to do guy stuff, lift weights, work on a car or bike, shoot guns, go to sporting events and have video game nights with the boys. Anything they like to do, and it opens up the door for teaching them how to behave in a way that commands respect and admiration for being a person of integrity and valor.

BlueShirt will also learn some life lessons.

I used to be a tempermental, impatient prick and since growing close to my 14yo cousin these last couple years I have turned into much more of a gentle, yet still masculine person. Not only have I been a support and guidance to him, but he has also made me a much better person through striving to be that good example and wanting him to have someone like that to look to because honestly, I love that kid more than anyone else. His parents thank me for being a good role model and a "big brother".

 

[hardrock]

Of course he is. We all did the same thing. As soon as the door shut we were back trying to get in those pants.

You will not convince him to wait. He will do whatever she allows.

Sent from my Galaxy Nexus using EliteFitness

 

[dabuffguy]

I'm sure they do, but I want her on BC.

I just finished talking to him. I told him I read the texts and I know stuff happened. He insisted it went that far just once. I told him that he is too young. He needs to wait. And if he does love her like he says, he will wait. I explained that he will complicate his relationship with her and those complications could cause it to end.

He kept saying that they weren't gonna do it. He said she isnt ready and he is ok with that. I told him he isn't ready either. He said he knew. I told him part of being a man is showing restraint. He kept insisting he wasn't gonna do it and he knew they were too young. I hope he isn't telling me what I want to hear.

I had the same conversation 5 years ago, and they ended up doing it anyways. I still remember the text I saw on his phone:

"You're lucky your so darn cute that I just have to fall into whatever you want me to do."

This is the mind of a lovestruck horny boy.

I called him on it, and asked him specifically if he would have sex with her if she wanted. Of course he said no, but they did anyways months later, and did it often.

I hope that your son was sincere, and since I don't know him nor did I hear his tone in response, I will say that you need to be the one to determine whether or not he was sincere. Ignore any impulse that tells you to deny your son would lie to you in an important conversation, and be objective. If he really was sincere, then you have made progress.

The next step is to talk with her parents. Sooner rather than later.

Also, tonight, kiss your son while he's in bed and tell him you love him.

 

[SpyWizard]

I'm sure they do, but I want her on BC.

I just finished talking to him. I told him I read the texts and I know stuff happened. He insisted it went that far just once. I told him that he is too young. He needs to wait. And if he does love her like he says, he will wait. I explained that he will complicate his relationship with her and those complications could cause it to end.

He kept saying that they weren't gonna do it. He said she isnt ready and he is ok with that. I told him he isn't ready either. He said he knew. I told him part of being a man is showing restraint. He kept insisting he wasn't gonna do it and he knew they were too young. I hope he isn't telling me what I want to hear.

or you'll take his phone again right?? looks like he's already learned that lesson..

good luck, the girls father may freak out on her and threaten your son with statutory rape.. depending on your states laws..

just sayin

 

[dabuffguy]

or you'll take his phone again right?? looks like he's already learned that lesson..

Why are you under the impression that every teen will respond to discipline by learning how to lie and sneak around more stealthily or turn to some other form of wayward behavior?

 

[smurf2]

I agree with the virgin