I, myself, would never chose lifting or gear over a loved one. I know people that would, and I have lived through times where I would have, but not anymore. Its important to me, but I dont care how big and strong I am, it does nothing to ease the pain when you are clutching your chest and can barely move in the early stages of losing a loved one. I would give every hour in the gym back just to have more time with them, even after several years. A lifting lifestyle is meant to enhance your life, not control and dictate it. Those that know, know. The others that think Im a big pussy and not diehard like them will understand later.