Turn it around 5he other way, how would the woman feel if she came to you and wanted cosmetic surgery to make herself feel better and you said surgery or me.
At the end of the day if she stated "Her stance is that her voice isn't heard and I don't care that it hurts her" there was something else wrong in the relationship, AAS just gave her something she could pin the blame on and take the easy way out.
How does the OP taking steroids hurt her? She said her voice isnt heard, she made this all about her. Its a shame you had to waste 2 years of your life with her to find out that once things get rocky she uses ultimatums. Now how a life long couple deals with difficult situations.