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bommakr
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Hey Ladies and Gents,
I searched for a similar post on this subject and found one, but it was only open to women. Its about being in a relationship and deciding whether to keep it going, or cut things off altogether. Since we all probably go through similar events, I'd like to hear your opinions and criticisms, you'll probably even call me names, but try to be nice. Here goes:
So my girl and I have been together for about two years. We met shortly after valetines day, and hit it off pretty well. A few months in, she tells me she loves me, but I don't reply with the same words (which always pissed her off) until a few months later (red flag #1). Her feelings are strong, super strong, like page long text message strong, sending me songs, expecting the same response, but I quickly disappoint her. Not on purpose, its just not the way I communicate.
At times in the relationship, I feel pressured to spend time with her, and I seem to get more and more annoyed at her mannerisms and personal habits (red flag #2). She is a chronic nail biter (bright red flag #3), always figity, complaining, hating everything, watches these depressing shows that I cant stand, and she's super clingy. Still, I remain with her. She buys me things (which i hate), and keeps a very ill maintained vegetarian diet (I'm a super healthy carnivore). But she's a beautiful woman, very very smart, older than me, and has a great career (I can totally support myself btw, I'm not a leech)
I'm a contractor, and about a year ago, one of her friends told her "He's just like every other contractor guy, just sticking with you until they have to move." and guess what...I received notice last summer. So all through the fall we tried to decide (argued) if we were going to end our relationship, keep it going long distance, and I even thought of proposing. heres the wierd thing: I don't see myself getting married to her. But she says she could stay with me forever.
Here we are today. We never broke it off, but we never agreed to stay together. I feel trapped, I think about her all the time and feel like I love her, but from a forced sense of the feeling, but love either way. We spent two years together, but we've hardly talked about marriage, why? Why didn't she give me an ultimatum or ask me about commitment a year into this? What would you do? If we stay together I want to put her on my program (red flag #8), my way or the high way! Is this wrong? Ladies, am i being an ass?
Sorry for the long story, I'll try to keep it short next time : )
I searched for a similar post on this subject and found one, but it was only open to women. Its about being in a relationship and deciding whether to keep it going, or cut things off altogether. Since we all probably go through similar events, I'd like to hear your opinions and criticisms, you'll probably even call me names, but try to be nice. Here goes:
So my girl and I have been together for about two years. We met shortly after valetines day, and hit it off pretty well. A few months in, she tells me she loves me, but I don't reply with the same words (which always pissed her off) until a few months later (red flag #1). Her feelings are strong, super strong, like page long text message strong, sending me songs, expecting the same response, but I quickly disappoint her. Not on purpose, its just not the way I communicate.
At times in the relationship, I feel pressured to spend time with her, and I seem to get more and more annoyed at her mannerisms and personal habits (red flag #2). She is a chronic nail biter (bright red flag #3), always figity, complaining, hating everything, watches these depressing shows that I cant stand, and she's super clingy. Still, I remain with her. She buys me things (which i hate), and keeps a very ill maintained vegetarian diet (I'm a super healthy carnivore). But she's a beautiful woman, very very smart, older than me, and has a great career (I can totally support myself btw, I'm not a leech)
I'm a contractor, and about a year ago, one of her friends told her "He's just like every other contractor guy, just sticking with you until they have to move." and guess what...I received notice last summer. So all through the fall we tried to decide (argued) if we were going to end our relationship, keep it going long distance, and I even thought of proposing. heres the wierd thing: I don't see myself getting married to her. But she says she could stay with me forever.
Here we are today. We never broke it off, but we never agreed to stay together. I feel trapped, I think about her all the time and feel like I love her, but from a forced sense of the feeling, but love either way. We spent two years together, but we've hardly talked about marriage, why? Why didn't she give me an ultimatum or ask me about commitment a year into this? What would you do? If we stay together I want to put her on my program (red flag #8), my way or the high way! Is this wrong? Ladies, am i being an ass?
Sorry for the long story, I'll try to keep it short next time : )
