Women trouble.... please help....

[HiDnGoD]

Sounds to me like she's just a nice kid that doesn't know what she wants. When you called her on it, she probably didn't realize: a.) The depth of your feelings, or b.) That she was being dramatic.
I don't think she was being a bitch, or playing games intentionally. If she calls back, great, maybe you can work things out. If not, then you've learned a lesson. When you want something or someone, let them know. None of this wishy washy dating other guys stuff. That way there's no confusion. Women often expect us to be psychic. We should be careful we don't expect the same of them.

 

[nycgirl]

I honestly don't think she's the kind of person that would do that... I hate to say it, but she's almost too sheltered and naive for that.... she said that she's just trying to figure out what she wants in a partner... I think she's being honest...

Okay. Then let her figure out what she wants. But, you shouldn't wait around for that and she shouldn't expect you to wait. Go out and date other people - have fun. If she still wants you and you are available, then fine. Life is too short.

 

[awittyusername]

I honestly don't think she's the kind of person that would do that... I hate to say it, but she's almost too sheltered and naive for that.... she said that she's just trying to figure out what she wants in a partner... I think she's being honest...

Art, you are so young and naive. Women lie, create situations for attention, create drama, etc etc. But, then can either justify their actions, or get sympathy from their friends or the guys that want to bang them

 

[artrius]

Sounds to me like she's just a nice kid that doesn't know what she wants. When you called her on it, she probably didn't realize: a.) The depth of your feelings, or b.) That she was being dramatic.
I don't think she was being a bitch, or playing games intentionally. If she calls back, great, maybe you can work things out. If not, then you've learned a lesson. When you want something or someone, let them know. None of this wishy washy dating other guys stuff. That way there's no confusion. Women often expect us to be psychic. We should be careful we don't expect the same of them.

Well, she knows that I want to be with her, she's just having a hard time figuring out what she wants...

Damn, I feel horrible about this............ i really care for her, for some reason... i know there are other fish in the sea (and closer ones to boot), but I guess I've screwed this one up, and I should just chalk it up to experience.... although i don't want to....

 

[artrius]

Okay. Then let her figure out what she wants. But, you shouldn't wait around for that and she shouldn't expect you to wait. Go out and date other people - have fun. If she still wants you and you are available, then fine. Life is too short.

that's true, but I really don't want to date anyone else but her right now... I guess I just need to get over it already...

 

[artrius]

Art, you are so young and naive. Women lie, create situations for attention, create drama, etc etc. But, then can either justify their actions, or get sympathy from their friends or the guys that want to bang them

Well I know that I don't know everything about this, but I know she isn't the type to do that.......... i think... maybe i'm not conveying her side correctly, but I know she isn't like that...

 

[artrius]

Yeah, I think I should do that. Sitting here is only making this crap fester in my head...

damn, I can't get ahold of anyone... I guess I'll just go see star wars or something, I haven't seen it yet...

 

[artrius]

well i just talked to her, and she's really upset with herself right now... not sure what's going to happen at this point... i'll keep you guys posted. Thanks for the help!

 

[Mr_Sinister]

in the beginning you always expect the best out of people, and yes they temporarily mold themselves to fit your ideal image. Right now you think she's an angel, but all these warning signs are right in front of you, there's trouble on the horizon, and before you realize it you're in over your head. Get out now, it's a long distance relationship so there's not as much awkwardness. Delete her number, email, whatever and leave with your dignity intact.

 

[artrius]

in the beginning you always expect the best out of people, and yes they temporarily mold themselves to fit your ideal image. Right now you think she's an angel, but all these warning signs are right in front of you, there's trouble on the horizon, and before you realize it you're in over your head. Get out now, it's a long distance relationship so there's not as much awkwardness. Delete her number, email, whatever and leave with your dignity intact.