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artrius
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Ok so here's the deal... I've been dating this asian chick for a month or so now, and we aren't bf/gf yet, but it was heading that way. Now i've run into a situation with her, and I want your opinions on it...
First, a little background. I met her when I was with my ex (when I was in NY), and she wanted to date me, but she knew I was attatched. So she goes on to look for other guys and she happens to find one... on the internet. She hasn't met him yet, but she said the magic three words (i love you) to him. I was kind of appalled that she would do that without having met him, but I just thought whatever, its your life.
Time rolls on and I break up with my ex, and I know that she's still not his gf, so I ask her out. We've been dating, having a great time, etc. However, she still wants to see the guy. Well anyhow, the guy she said those three words to asked her when she was gonna come see him... and she said it wasn't going to be for a while, as she was planning on coming and staying with me for a bit again. So he gets kind of pissy and says that if she's gonna date me, then he won't date her. Keep in mind, she isn't attatched and doesn't have a bf. Yes, I understand that she said I love you to him... but still didn't make a commitment to him.
Last night, we were talking, and she said that she wanted to be with me, be my gf, whatever. However, she still wants to date him, so she, remembering what he said, goes and says that she doesn't want to date me anymore so that she can go and see him. I told her that it was a bunch of BS and that he has no control over her and who she dates, and that if he thinks he does, he can go straight to hell. So right now, its totally f*cked up.
I'm just looking for opinions on this situation.... I'm not really sure what I should do, I mean I've been totally understanding of her side of the story, but I've about had it with this love triangle BS. I really like her still. She said that she doesn't want to lose her connection with me, and wants to be at least friends, and I said that it may be possible to be just friends... but I don't really keep in contact with friends too much, especially ones that live far away. I think that I'm going to tell her that I'm looking for a bf/gf relationship right now, not friends, and basically that if she wants to keep in touch with me, then she's gonna have to be my gf. I know that sounds harsh, but I don't have the time or energy to put into a long distance friendship when I'm looking for something more than that.
I appreciate you reading this, and I'd be happy to take any comments or suggestions you have on this...
Art
First, a little background. I met her when I was with my ex (when I was in NY), and she wanted to date me, but she knew I was attatched. So she goes on to look for other guys and she happens to find one... on the internet. She hasn't met him yet, but she said the magic three words (i love you) to him. I was kind of appalled that she would do that without having met him, but I just thought whatever, its your life.
Time rolls on and I break up with my ex, and I know that she's still not his gf, so I ask her out. We've been dating, having a great time, etc. However, she still wants to see the guy. Well anyhow, the guy she said those three words to asked her when she was gonna come see him... and she said it wasn't going to be for a while, as she was planning on coming and staying with me for a bit again. So he gets kind of pissy and says that if she's gonna date me, then he won't date her. Keep in mind, she isn't attatched and doesn't have a bf. Yes, I understand that she said I love you to him... but still didn't make a commitment to him.
Last night, we were talking, and she said that she wanted to be with me, be my gf, whatever. However, she still wants to date him, so she, remembering what he said, goes and says that she doesn't want to date me anymore so that she can go and see him. I told her that it was a bunch of BS and that he has no control over her and who she dates, and that if he thinks he does, he can go straight to hell. So right now, its totally f*cked up.
I'm just looking for opinions on this situation.... I'm not really sure what I should do, I mean I've been totally understanding of her side of the story, but I've about had it with this love triangle BS. I really like her still. She said that she doesn't want to lose her connection with me, and wants to be at least friends, and I said that it may be possible to be just friends... but I don't really keep in contact with friends too much, especially ones that live far away. I think that I'm going to tell her that I'm looking for a bf/gf relationship right now, not friends, and basically that if she wants to keep in touch with me, then she's gonna have to be my gf. I know that sounds harsh, but I don't have the time or energy to put into a long distance friendship when I'm looking for something more than that.
I appreciate you reading this, and I'd be happy to take any comments or suggestions you have on this...
Art
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