Women: Marry that man who isnt prince charming but is good enough

[miplank]

and if you choose a mate by looks you are a fool anyway

yup...looks fade, but personality is foreva!



Lucky...I find my wife smokin' hot, and she's my best friend too.


Some of us get lucky

 

[redsamurai]

I would argue that she couldn't have found a "good love" without finding one of her soul mates. I beleive we probably have more than one......but the world is HYUUUGEEE fucking place so the odds are stacked of finding any of them. It's hard to judge an individual like this.......we don't "really" know the criteria she used to exclude a man. Was it really "superficial" exlusions? Or were they legitimate?? I dunno.......but we have tickers too........well, I don't. But most men are pretty gung ho about passing on their "seed".... I frankly find procreation disgusting unless it happens under certain conditions. And I hold myself to the same standard. I'm not bringing a kid into this world unless I can provide not just financially, but much much much more importantly.......SPIRITUALLY!

I totally get what you are saying! However, the article is about her giving up on finding her soul mate because he does not exist. She now wishes she had just been looking for a good love, a companion to go through life with. Not someone who had to meet every single standard on her silly little soul mate list.

She's just a tired old lady who decided she could have a kid without a man , thinking she could find a soul mate later. I coudl have told her that was not the way to go about things. lol

see, you are a man. you dont have a clock ticking inside you telling you that you should probably think about finding this man before 35 if you want to have children with him. we are on a time clock, its a persistant little fucker. lol

 

[heatherrae]

ouch, he must have been super hurt than. I'm gussing he felt completely the opposite about you..........that sucks. He probably was like why would I want to spend the rest of my life with a woman who doesn't find me all that sexually attractive?? Would you feel similiar if you found out a husband or bf was with you because you were a good cook and cleaned well but he wasn't all that attracted to you? That poses an interesting dilemma which I feel may be crucially linked to the topic of this thread. "Must" you settle for one or the other? Shouldn't we want to be with someone that looks at us like we're the last person on earth instead of "he/she will do"???

I think that it did hurt him. He divorced me, afterall. I just thought I was being realistic when I married him. I did love him, I just never felt butterflies in my stomach over him or fireworks (I rarely have felt that way about ANYONE, maybe only twice in my lifetime). So, I married someone who I thought I could grow old with and still be friends and have good conversation. I guess he wanted more and the whole fairytale sort of thing.

 

[miplank]

I think that it did hurt him. He divorced me, afterall. I just thought I was being realistic when I married him. I did love him, I just never felt butterflies in my stomach over him or fireworks (I rarely have felt that way about ANYONE, maybe only twice in my lifetime). So, I married someone who I thought I could grow old with and still be friends and have good conversation. I guess he wanted more and the whole fairytale sort of thing.

Guys want to make their wives feel that way. Just like how woman like to be told they look sexy, guys like that sort of thing too.


I would be devistated if I read something my wife wrote saying that sort of thing.

 

[miplank]

also....


Why did he hack your email account? apparently he had a hunch you were hiding something from him....

 

[heatherrae]

also....


Why did he hack your email account? apparently he had a hunch you were hiding something from him....

He thought I was cheating on him. I wasn't. he was always hacking my accounts and such.

I tend to get jealous types/clingy types. It makes me very uncomfortable/pressured.

 

[heatherrae]

Guys want to make their wives feel that way. Just like how woman like to be told they look sexy, guys like that sort of thing too.


I would be devistated if I read something my wife wrote saying that sort of thing.

Yeah, well he was. I didn't intend for him to read it. I was just sharing with and talking to my gf.

 

[miplank]

He thought I was cheating on him. I wasn't. he was always hacking my accounts and such.

I tend to get jealous types/clingy types. It makes me very uncomfortable/pressured.

hmm..


I don't hide anything from my wife, and vice versa...she knows my passwords...i know hers.


I can be the jealous type...but its more the i get pissed/annoyed when I see guys totally checking her out...or hitting on her.

I know she doesn't give them the time of day, but I'm just protective. hehe

 

[puddlemonkey]

I can be the jealous type...but its more the i get pissed/annoyed when I see guys totally checking her out...or hitting on her.

Recipe for disaster. You should take it as a compliment, especially if she doesn't respond to any of it. Good luck!

 

[puddlemonkey]

oh, btw, she's cheating on you!