well, let's look at the two examples you gave. If a womna throws a man away cause he's "balding"......well, that's about as superficial as it gets an no better than the men who throw their wives away in favor of younger women. But the second example, not seeing life through the same lenses, that could be a really big freakin deal.....or not. It's a judgement call. If someone see's life radically different, there's going to be strife.......without question. And then the kids come along.......than there's really going to be war. We shouldn't want to choose mates that are carbon copies of ourselves, but kind of close.......feel me? I dunno.......I'll probably be alone for the rest of my life because of my beleifs, but that's ok. I see too many people who because they're terrified of being alone.......get into a situation that makes life intolerable. Marriage is synonomous with divorce nowadays........I want no part of it. If I ever meet my "soul mate"......it's a person I'm willing to devote my entire being to. Otherwise, what's the point? I'd rather have a couple really hot steamy affairs than settle with someone who doesn't "fit the bill". And my criteria for a mate goes well beyond physical looks. I'm one of the few men that I've evern known that doesn't give a damn about what other men think of the woman I"m seeing/dating. Which means I care about what the girl is on the inside. "BUT", I've found out through trial and error that often how a woman looks on the outside can be an indicator of what's inside. But you have to see first to make that call. People care too damn much about what other people think.
Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below 
....that sucks. He probably was like why would I want to spend the rest of my life with a woman who doesn't find me all that sexually attractive?? Would you feel similiar if you found out a husband or bf was with you because you were a good cook and cleaned well but he wasn't all that attracted to you? That poses an interesting dilemma which I feel may be crucially linked to the topic of this thread. "Must" you settle for one or the other? Shouldn't we want to be with someone that looks at us like we're the last person on earth instead of "he/she will do"???
Im not one of those women.
