Women: Marry that man who isnt prince charming but is good enough

[all the whey]

I think that it did hurt him. He divorced me, afterall. I just thought I was being realistic when I married him. I did love him, I just never felt butterflies in my stomach over him or fireworks (I rarely have felt that way about ANYONE, maybe only twice in my lifetime). So, I married someone who I thought I could grow old with and still be friends and have good conversation. I guess he wanted more and the whole fairytale sort of thing.

You settled. Then, you bitched about it.

Not bashing you. It is pretty common.

 

[all the whey]

Apparently I'm not even good enough for a woman to settle for. There's settling, and then there's stooping.

Clyde loves ya brah!

 

[Mr. dB]

Clyde loves ya brah!

It's strictly platonic, I swear!

 

[Tatyana]

I think that it did hurt him. He divorced me, afterall. I just thought I was being realistic when I married him. I did love him, I just never felt butterflies in my stomach over him or fireworks (I rarely have felt that way about ANYONE, maybe only twice in my lifetime). So, I married someone who I thought I could grow old with and still be friends and have good conversation. I guess he wanted more and the whole fairytale sort of thing.

That is the biological wiring, hormones and neurotransmitters, all designed to ensure the species propogates.

It is 'falling in love' which has been described as a form of madness.

People get addicted to 'just newly in love', they think that when it wears off, as it does (other hormones replace these), that the love is gone too.

Really, that could be the starting point, but like most junkies, they are off for the next fix.

It is completely different from being in love with someone.

I think Walt Disney/happy ending romantic chick flicks have ruined a lot of people's perception of what love and relationships are meant to be.

 

[miplank]

That is the biological wiring, hormones and neurotransmitters, all designed to ensure the species propogates.

It is 'falling in love' which has been described as a form of madness.

People get addicted to 'just newly in love', they think that when it wears off, as it does (other hormones replace these), that the love is gone too.

Really, that could be the starting point, but like most junkies, they are off for the next fix.

It is completely different from being in love with someone.

I think Walt Disney/happy ending romantic chick flicks have ruined a lot of people's perception of what love and relationships are meant to be.

I agree...

As time goes on you get used to each other...and forget to do some of the things that made "love" so much fun in the beginning stages of a relationship.

That's why marriages take so much work...I work everyday at treating my wife like i did in the beginning..(actually...better) I was an occasional ass at first.

Just today I sent her a text message while she was at work asking her "what it is that she desires most from me"

she responded..."sexually?"

I said, "no, it can be anything"

she says, "attention"

Now if she would have asked me that question, i would have answered with something sexual...

Right there is a snap shot on just how different men and woman are.

All she really wants from me is to notice her, compliment her, etc...and I love her, so that's what I do.

So guys...Go asks your wives or g/f's this question. and whatever it is she tells you...DO IT!

 

[Oceano]

I don't know if its already been said in this thread but the article is needless. Women DO settle naturally/instinctively. It takes an incredibly strong woman to hold out for prince charming etc, in fact they don't exist. As women get more and more worried/insecure the weak guy becomes prince charming. I know loads of girls who are with ugly/geeky guys just so they're not alone. I don't know any guys who would stay with a girl if he wasn't attracted to her.

 

[heatherrae]

That is the biological wiring, hormones and neurotransmitters, all designed to ensure the species propogates.

It is 'falling in love' which has been described as a form of madness.

People get addicted to 'just newly in love', they think that when it wears off, as it does (other hormones replace these), that the love is gone too.

Really, that could be the starting point, but like most junkies, they are off for the next fix.

It is completely different from being in love with someone.

I think Walt Disney/happy ending romantic chick flicks have ruined a lot of people's perception of what love and relationships are meant to be.

Yeah, my problem is that I don't have those feelings. I think only once or twice did I ever feel that way about anyone. Usually, I just begin to have tender feelings here and there for someone that grow into a more mature love, but I often disappoint men because I don't gush over them or look starry eyed for them. My hormones must be off. I'm no Princess Charming, I guess...lol.

 

[nefertiti]

Here's what settling gets you - this woman's life:

She's happily married, dreaming of divorce - CNN.com

No thanks...I'd rather be single with hope than trapped because of a child and silently miserable.

 

[velvett]

I hate to break it you - but there is no prince (or princess) charming, it's a fairy tale to sell movies and hallmark cards.

 

[nefertiti]

I hate to break it you - but there is no prince (or princess) charming, it's a fairy tale to sell movies and hallmark cards.

I never thought there was...but holding out for mr. "right for you" (different than mr right) is entirely realistic.