mrplunkey
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I think it's contextual, right up there with it being okay if black people call each other "the N word" but it's strictly off limits for Caucasians. I can think of a ton of situations where you run into that, where a term is okay to use if you're in that group (Italians calling each other guidos, gays calling each other faggot or mo) but if you are an outsider saying the same thing is a huge faux pas. Women can refer to each other as bitches affectionately but let a man say it even jokingly and look out, that sort of thing.
My father grew up in TN, he actually referred to his favorite horse as a peckerwood. I'm in SE PA and terms like hillbilly, redneck and cracker are insults, usually meaning the same basic thing: White trash.
Peckerwood I never hear unless spoken with a drawl.
I've heard the argument that certain subgroups "own" the would-be offensive terms used against them hence they're allowed to use them. I buy-into that argument. There can be words (and phrases) that are offensive when used by someone other than the group to which they refer.
But let's go back to the bumper sticker example. If Dial Tone put that "paddle faster..." bumper sticker on his car and drove through rural Georgia, it wouldn't be a big deal at all. Like I mentioned before, I'd find it funny. Now say I put that "drive faster..." bumper sticker on my car and drove through South Knoxville. That would get ugly in a hurry.
That's the asymmetry that seems ridiculous to me.