why do wimminez want props for squeezing out kids?

[velvett]

and this is not directed at anyone so please don't turn this into a wimminnazi fest.
but do you notice how wimmin (and sometimes menz) want a gold star for having kids? like you are supposed to give them credit for birthing? wtf

A freind of mine demanded (yes demanded) and piece of jewelry for each child born (she had two).

Now the nanny takes care of the children and all she does is bitch about her husband, nanny and children.

Come to think of it, I really can't stand her for much for than 10-20 minutes at a time anymore.

 

[velvett]

I can see why parents want kudos though, it's a tough job. From the labour to the upbringing etc...I am a pretty strong lady but could never have the strength to have my own kids.
Good parents should blow their own horn, since there are so many shitty parents on this planet.

Oh it's not for raising the child it's for the grestation and birth (they usually leave the raising for someone else - like the house cleaning).

 

[Bikini Mod]

Oh it's not for raising the child it's for the grestation and birth (they usually leave the raising for someone else - like the house cleaning).

Believe it or not people ask on occasion whether or not The Old Grump and I are going to have any kids. WE BOTH say, "We already have eight kids between the two of us. WHY ON EARTH WOULD WE WANT MORE?!?!"

 

[velvett]

I guess my Southern upbringing taught me different values than some of the other parts of the US. We were taught to HONOR THY FATHER AND MOTHER. We were taught to respect our elders. You do owe your mother and father respect.

Oh I was taught that too

I was also taught if you embarrass us by not being absolutely perfect we beat the shit of you and tell you how worthless you are and that you will never amount to anything for extra motivation.

And that's not a North South thing - that's an Immigrant (f*ed for generations family) sort of thing.

If you can't earn your respect, blood line or no blood line - you will not get it.

 

[Gymgurl]

i really never noticed women wanting praise for having a kid.

but i also totally understand a guy not wanting a woman with kids. Other than my own, i don't really like kids.

LMAO.....Great freaking post

 

[Bikini Mod]

Oh I was taught that too

I was also taught if you embarrass us by not being absolutely perfect we beat the shit of you and tell you how worthless you are and that you will never amount to anything for extra motivation.

And that's not a North South thing - that's an Immigrant (f*ed for generations family) sort of thing.

If you can't earn your respect, blood line or no blood line - you will not get it.

WERD

That's why I take the approach I do.

 

[heatherrae]

Oh I was taught that too

I was also taught if you embarrass us by not being absolutely perfect we beat the shit of you and tell you how worthless you are and that you will never amount to anything for extra motivation.

And that's not a North South thing - that's an Immigrant (f*ed for generations family) sort of thing.

If you can't earn your respect, blood line or no blood line - you will not get it.

Wowsers, that is rough. My parents always told me, "You can be anything you want, so long as you go get an education." Okay, so maybe that was overly optimistic, but it was a kind sentiment...lol.

I can't imagine telling my kid that he will never amount to anything. HARSH!

 

[Faizakafez]

Oh I was taught that too

I was also taught if you embarrass us by not being absolutely perfect we beat the shit of you and tell you how worthless you are and that you will never amount to anything for extra motivation.

And that's not a North South thing - that's an Immigrant (f*ed for generations family) sort of thing.

If you can't earn your respect, blood line or no blood line - you will not get it.

wow,

same here.. I get that every couple of weeks.. their main concern is their "respect"

i usually get something like this

if your uncle found out what would he say

or

your wont rest till you embaress us or ruin our name...

 

[Bikini Mod]

Wowsers, that is rough. My parents always told me, "You can be anything you want, so long as you go get an education." Okay, so maybe that was overly optimistic, but it was a kind sentiment...lol.

I can't imagine telling my kid that he will never amount to anything. HARSH!

It's a foreign-er thing... Not all but I would venture to guess that MOST of us were raised that way to parents who came here not knowing the language and having to fight hard to make their way. Maybe since the world around them was so harsh and cruel, they figured they would prepare us for it? <---
(That's me trying to be overly optimistic and trying to see good even where none exists. Now can ya'll see how I was foolish enough to marry my first husband?)

I have NEVER said anything remotely like this to my own children but take the approach that your parents did - "Stay in school and be ANYTHING you want to be. Why limit yourself?"

Sad to say though that it doesnt really matter much as they have been fed a 24/7 steady diet of, "You are stupid worthless pieces of shit that will/or are whores just like your mother." Nice guy, eh? No one that knows my kids *this much* (not even my own children) can figure out why he has fought so hard for children that he so obviously does NOT want.

 

[Bikini Mod]

wow,

same here.. I get that every couple of weeks.. their main concern is their "respect"

i usually get something like this

if your uncle found out what would he say

or

your wont rest till you embaress us or ruin our name...

My father's thing was, "Little girl as long as you bear MY NAME you will do as I say. If you bring shame I have a gun with two bullets: one with your name and the other one with mine. I brought you into this world and I can take you out but I refuse to sit in jail for a lifetime because of YOUR SHAME."

So it is a mystery why I married to leave my parent's home at 21?

It's ok... I mean I actually feel sorry for my parents to have had to live such a hard life filled with THAT MUCH fear. These concepts only bit them in the ass in later years. My sister and I try very hard not to disrespect my parents in order to do this we spend as little time as possible with them. THAT IS TERRIBLE... but it is what it is.