why do wimminez want props for squeezing out kids?

[heatherrae]

My father's thing was, "Little girl as long as you bear MY NAME you will do as I say. If you bring shame I have a gun with two bullets: one with your name and the other one with mine. I brought you into this world and I can take you out but I refuse to sit in jail for a lifetime because of YOUR SHAME."

So it is a mystery why I married to leave my parent's home at 21?

It's ok... I mean I actually feel sorry for my parents to have had to live such a hard life filled with THAT MUCH fear. These concepts only bit them in the ass in later years. My sister and I try very hard not to disrespect my parents in order to do this we spend as little time as possible with them. THAT IS TERRIBLE... but it is what it is.

Jesus! I can't see how you can say something like that to this little kid that you brought into the world. I just don't get it.

 

[heatherrae]

Oh it's not for raising the child it's for the grestation and birth (they usually leave the raising for someone else - like the house cleaning).

I think it would be nice to have someone to pamper me while I'm prego. I don't see it as such a terrible thing to want some pampering when you feel bad. I think men who make a big deal out of it are probably the same ones who go on like they are dying and get waited on hand and foot when they have a head cold...lol..

Likewise, I don't see anything wrong with having a housekeeper or a nanny if you need the help.

If I could afford to stay home with the baby, I would. If I could hire a housekeeper, I would, just because I hate housework. I would only hire a nanny though, if I were working outside the home. It would also be nice to have someone to watch the baby while I go to dinner or do something else. Maybe once a week or so is all.

I don't think that makes someone a bad mom, bad wife, etc. It just makes them human.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Even when I did have a nanny the gentleman I was with at the time (we were practically engaged - THANK GOD he dumped me - bipolar looney tune he was) would tease and near complain that I "was doing too much with the kids, why am I paying a nanny?" So I let him have it. First of all the nanny was more like my own daughter and I treated her as such. And secondly I ENJOYED feeding/bathing/interacting with my girls, often times they were much more fun than the adults. It was just nice to be able to have my girls amused and safe when I wanted to have a bit of adult time.

 

[velvett]

I think it would be nice to have someone to pamper me while I'm prego. I don't see it as such a terrible thing to want some pampering when you feel bad. I think men who make a big deal out of it are probably the same ones who go on like they are dying and get waited on hand and foot when they have a head cold...lol..

Likewise, I don't see anything wrong with having a housekeeper or a nanny if you need the help.

If I could afford to stay home with the baby, I would. If I could hire a housekeeper, I would, just because I hate housework. I would only hire a nanny though, if I were working outside the home. It would also be nice to have someone to watch the baby while I go to dinner or do something else. Maybe once a week or so is all.

I don't think that makes someone a bad mom, bad wife, etc. It just makes them human.

Do not misunderstand - I did not say pampering while preggo or any other time - a decent human being would know that caring for someone that is need is obvious. (some men, yes, don't get that)

What I did say was "I want a this (demanding a bauble)" after having the child the "mommy gift" I kid you not. I was there in the hospital after each child was born and there were fights in the room about this particular gift and why it was not already in her hand. The second time she was screaming at the top of her lungs as why he didn't learn the first time.

I want a piece of jewelry because I birthed your child.

^ that is what I am talking about.


(You should get down of knees and thank God that your child was born healthy with all his/her limbs and you too survived childbirth in one piece)

And on each child's birthday if she doesn't get flowers and a thank you card she's so far up her hubby's a$$ - you can't be near there house for a week or two.

One of these kids is my Godchild and I have to tell you - I hate being at their house to see this display of bastardized family and the kids are growing up to be just as manipulating and demanding at 4yrs and 18 months.

As for nanny's and house keepers - by all means if you have the finances I say go for it. But when your child wants his or her mommy don't behave like your kid is a burden and while your kid(s) and house is being tended to don't complain that you don't have enough time for yourself.

^

That is what my friend is like - freaking primadonna she's become and frankly the more I think about it seeing her as the selfish bitch I don't even want to around her.


God it gets me all riled up.

People just don't see how good their lives are - it just disgusts me.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Do not misunderstand - I did not say pampering while preggo or any other time. What I did say was "I want a this (demanding a bauble)" after having the child the "mommy gift" I kid you not. I was there in the hospital after each child was born and there were fights in the room about this particular gift and why it was not already in her hand. The second time she was screaming at the top of her lungs as why he didn't learn the first time.

I want a piece of jewelry because I birthed your child.

^ that is what I am talking about.


(You should get down of knees and thank God that your child was born healthy with all his/her limbs and you too survived childbirth in one piece)

And on each child's birthday if she doesn't get flowers and a thank you card she's so far up her hubby's a$$ - you can't be near there house for a week or two.

One of these kids is my Godchild and I have to tell you - I hate being at their house to see this display of bastardized family and the kids are growing up to be just as manipulating and demanding at 4yrs and 18 months.

As for nanny's and house keepers - by all means if you have the finances I say go for it. But when your child wants his or her mommy don't behave like your kid is a burden and while your kid(s) and house is being tended to don't complain that you don't have enough time for yourself.

^

That is what my friend is like - freaking primadonna she's become and frankly the more I think about it seeing her as the selfish bitch I don't even want to around her.


God it gets me all riled up.

People just don't see how good their lives are - it just disgusts me.

Agreed...

I would just be happy to see my children.

 

[heatherrae]

Do not misunderstand - I did not say pampering while preggo or any other time - a decent human being would know that caring for someone that is need is obvious. (some men, yes, don't get that)

What I did say was "I want a this (demanding a bauble)" after having the child the "mommy gift" I kid you not. I was there in the hospital after each child was born and there were fights in the room about this particular gift and why it was not already in her hand. The second time she was screaming at the top of her lungs as why he didn't learn the first time.

I want a piece of jewelry because I birthed your child.

^ that is what I am talking about.


(You should get down of knees and thank God that your child was born healthy with all his/her limbs and you too survived childbirth in one piece)

And on each child's birthday if she doesn't get flowers and a thank you card she's so far up her hubby's a$$ - you can't be near there house for a week or two.

One of these kids is my Godchild and I have to tell you - I hate being at their house to see this display of bastardized family and the kids are growing up to be just as manipulating and demanding at 4yrs and 18 months.

As for nanny's and house keepers - by all means if you have the finances I say go for it. But when your child wants his or her mommy don't behave like your kid is a burden and while your kid(s) and house is being tended to don't complain that you don't have enough time for yourself.

^

That is what my friend is like - freaking primadonna she's become and frankly the more I think about it seeing her as the selfish bitch I don't even want to around her.


God it gets me all riled up.

People just don't see how good their lives are - it just disgusts me.

Oh, I wasn't disagreeing with you. Your friend sounds like a brat...lol. I was just elaborating on how I feel about outside help.

She sounds like she is teaching her kids some terrible lessons.