Whats the point of mariage?

[seaking420]

not sure this is true. After 11 yrs with my ex (we were common law), he walked away with OUR business. I went to a lawyer (this was in 2000) and he said I have no legal rights to anything since nothing was in my name and we were not legally married.

hmmm, it's interesting that you said this. Im in the process of starting my own company, and she wants her name on the papers that its her company too, even though she isnt doing any of the work. If my business does well I/we want her to stay home and raise our child, plus other responsibilities around the house. So she says that if that does happen and she stops working, and we do ever split up that she gets compensated for her efforts. I do see her side of it because she would be dropping her career plus working at home, but I would think that since we have a child together and are probably common law that she would get money for child support regardless if her name is on the paper work or not.

 

[seaking420]

But then I dont "get anymore"... no more love or affection or kindness or friendship from a man who treats me like I am a queen. Now why on earth would I go and screw that up?

Not trying to stir things up bmom with you and gom, but it seems like whenever you post about your relationship its how well HE treats you and how much HE loves you. It's what he's bringing to the relationship, what about your end? Are you giving that back to him

 

[blueta2]

hmmm, it's interesting that you said this. Im in the process of starting my own company, and she wants her name on the papers that its her company too, even though she isnt doing any of the work. If my business does well I/we want her to stay home and raise our child, plus other responsibilities around the house. So she says that if that does happen and she stops working, and we do ever split up that she gets compensated for her efforts. I do see her side of it because she would be dropping her career plus working at home, but I would think that since we have a child together and are probably common law that she would get money for child support regardless if her name is on the paper work or not.

Well if she does not contribute, she should not have her name on anything.
In my case, I paid for all the start up of the biz and got all the clients. My ex did all the labour. I put it all in his name b/c I trusted him.
Now if you're a trustworthy dude, then put it all in your name and don't screw her over if you two break up.

 

[seaking420]

basically, it allows a woman to fufill a lifelong delusion of a fantasy wedding day, control your life from there on out, and then take half your money when she's grown tired of you.

Thats what Im nervous about. I hear/read(on EF) too many stories of divorse that scare the shit out of me.

You just don't want to commit......do I sound like her?

lol, yes to some degree. She knows Im commited, but I think she wants it affirmed

 

[blueta2]

by the way, not all women have the "wedding day" fantasy! I never had it, In fact I think wedding and marriage are silly!
I am content not being married

 

[seaking420]

Well if she does not contribute, she should not have her name on anything.
In my case, I paid for all the start up of the biz and got all the clients. My ex did all the labour. I put it all in his name b/c I trusted him.
Now if you're a trustworthy dude, then put it all in your name and don't screw her over if you two break up.

She won't be contributing anything. However we pay our bills together as one, so we combine both our salaries together. I will need to take out a loan to start this business up which would mean initially at least for the first 2/3 years we'll be paying that loan from both of our incomes, so I guess she is contributing to something

 

[blueta2]

She won't be contributing anything. However we pay our bills together as one, so we combine both our salaries together. I will need to take out a loan to start this business up which would mean initially at least for the first 2/3 years we'll be paying that loan from both of our incomes, so I guess she is contributing to something

ok, well then put everything in both your names.

 

[alien amp pharm]

Marriage is for suckers

and women

 

[cindylou]

by the way, not all women have the "wedding day" fantasy! I never had it, In fact I think wedding and marriage are silly!
I am content not being married

I never had the "wedding day" fantasy either. Although when it did come down to planning my wedding I was suprised by how much of a fabulous job I did considering I had never given a thought to the day before that time. lol. It was the most fun thing ever! I never imagined how much fun it would be.

 

[blueta2]

I never had the "wedding day" fantasy either. Although when it did come down to planning my wedding I was suprised by how much of a fabulous job I did considering I had never given a thought to the day before that time. lol. It was the most fun thing ever! I never imagined how much fun it would be.

That's awesome that you loved it. I would be stressed out and could not do it!
IF (and this is a BIG if), I ever got married, I would do it on a beach and it would last 5 mins.