Whats the point of mariage?

[blueta2]

Yup, totally stress free - a great celebration on my favorite holiday. Honestly, I dont think I could have done it any other way.

Too many people are more concerned with the wedding than they are the marriage and one of the reasons, why I believe that many marriages go south long before the wedding is even paid off.

I think the young chickens love the big weddings. Once they are on their second marriages, reality hits and they realize how CRAZY a big wedding is!
There is only ONE good reason to have a big wedding...to make money!

 

[seaking420]

Would you be able to do it without her support?

I know I can do it without her help, but like you said I would be doing it for us to live a better life.

 

[cindylou]

I think the young chickens love the big weddings. Once they are on their second marriages, reality hits and they realize how CRAZY a big wedding is!
There is only ONE good reason to have a big wedding...to make money!

yes I had a larger (not huge) wedding and I was VERY young at 23.

HOpefully my only marriage. LOL.

not counting gifts and stuff ; we made 6 grand and a honeymoon vacation.

Being my first wedding I had no idea people were so generous at wedding time.

I just watched the wedding for the first time a couple weeks ago and got teary because of all the people I could have possibly ever cared about all in one room just celebrating all for me. It was wonderful.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I know I can do it without her help, but like you said I would be doing it for us to live a better life.

Sounds like a partnership to me.

I truly do not understand why you haven't made this woman your wife.

My first marriage was a NIGHTMARE. The divorce was even worse and we won't even go into the custody nonsense...

You can imagine that marriage was THE LAST THING on my mind. I couldn't imagine seeing a man more than twice a week, forget about living together and FUCK MARRIAGE.

Then I met my Old Grump. We weren't supposed to get married at all. It was supposed to be an arrangement to be quite honest. It was HE that brought up taking it further to a REAL relationship, then MARRIAGE shortly thereafter. And quite honestly, I was like - OK, why not? <---- talk about a TOTAL turnaround.

Neither of us really cared too much about a wedding. Matter of fact, he still hasn't even formally proposed, and I still haven't gotten an engagement ring. We were supposed to have a lavish traditional Indian wedding in India, but for many reasons, it didn't happen... I am hoping that we will be able to do it for our first anniversary and have ALL of our family present.

So many people accused me of being a gold-digger, that I only married "a foolish old man" for his money.

LOL

I married my husband when he was in THE WORST FINANCIAL shape of his entire life.

So I suppose I married him because A - he asked me to and B - I wanted to show to society that HE is the man I chose to be my life partner.

I am not talking out of my behind when I tell you that EVERYONE treats you differently when you are legally married. A legal marriage is a serious commitment. It means that you trust each other 100%.

Now whether those that are married live up to that commitment and how they treat each other AFTER the wedding clothes come off... that my friend, is a horse of another color.

 

[blueta2]

yes I had a larger (not huge) wedding and I was VERY young at 23.

HOpefully my only marriage. LOL.

not counting gifts and stuff ; we made 6 grand and a honeymoon vacation.

Being my first wedding I had no idea people were so generous at wedding time.

I just watched the wedding for the first time a couple weeks ago and got teary because of all the people I could have possibly ever cared about all in one room just celebrating all for me. It was wonderful.

If a wedding is something a girl always dreams of then I think she should have it.
A lot of my Italian friends have these huge monster weddings and invite ppl they don't even know. Why, so they can make coin! My friend Linda made over 40 grand at her wedding alone.......wait.....I'm just thinking.........FUCK, I SHOULD GET MARRIED!

;-)

 

[Bikini Mod]

If a wedding is something a girl always dreams of then I think she should have it.
A lot of my Italian friends have these huge monster weddings and invite ppl they don't even know. Why, so they can make coin! My friend Linda made over 40 grand at her wedding alone.......wait.....I'm just thinking.........FUCK, I SHOULD GET MARRIED!

;-)

You mean 40K ABOVE the cost?

Shit, I need to talk to those peeps!

 

[ksharp01]

I ashamed to say that I've been through it twice and I just don't know if I would ever do it agian......maybe when I'm much much older
only time will tell

 

[digimon7068]

If a wedding is something a girl always dreams of then I think she should have it.
A lot of my Italian friends have these huge monster weddings and invite ppl they don't even know. Why, so they can make coin! My friend Linda made over 40 grand at her wedding alone.......wait.....I'm just thinking.........FUCK, I SHOULD GET MARRIED!

;-)

yeah. . .but she didn't pay for the wedding. . .you can't "make money on a wedding" no matter how many people you invite. . .my wife and i paid for everything ourselves. . .there were probably 250 in attendance, but my wife's gown was expensive, her wedding band was expensive, we had a very nice rehearsal dinner, a beautiful wedding, our reception was a kick ass party with excellent food and plenty of booze, we had a good photographer, a good dj and we went on a nice honeymoon. . .we'd be real lucky if we even came close to breaking even gifts-to-expense. . .in fact, i'm pretty sure that if i sat down and figured it out, it probably cost us a bit. . .looking back and knowing what i know now, i'd probably spend even more money if i had it to do over again. . .the (almost) 15 years since then have absolutely been the best of my life

 

[Bikini Mod]

yeah. . .but she didn't pay for the wedding. . .you can't "make money on a weeding" no matter how many people you invite. . .my wife and i paid for everything ourselves. . .there were probably 250 in attendance, but my wife's gown was expensive, her wedding band was expensive, we had a very nice rehearsal dinner, a beautiful wedding, our reception was a kick ass party with excellent food and plenty of booze, we had a good photographer, a good dj and we went on a nice honeymoon. . .we'd be real lucky if we even came close to breaking even gifts-to-expense. . .in fact, i'm pretty sure that if i sat down and figured it out, it probably cost us a bit. . .looking back and knowing what i know now, i'd probably spend even more money if i had it to do over again. . .the (almost) 15 years since then have absolutely been the best of my life

First time around my parents offered me a wedding or 10K cash. My exhusband paid for the honeymoon and he ended up paying for the rehearsal dinner to when his father "didn't know that the restaurant" wouldn't accept his method of payment the night of the dinner.

I still remember my ex mother-in-law handing us the list of over 100 friends/relatives that we HAD to invite. Uh-huh with MY PARENTS paying for it all? Needless to say, a lot of people got "less important" when I laid it on the line for my ex - "If they are so important to invite, then YOU or YOUR PARENTS can pay."

I was AN IMBECILE for not taking the cash... my ex wanted to but I wanted the "big" wedding.

I learned a lot for the second time around, not only about the wedding, but ABOUT THE MAN TO MARRY.

 

[fistfullofsteel]

Proverbs 25:24

It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house.


http://www.letgodbetrue.com/proverbs/25_24.htm

The lonely life of a single man is better than marriage to an odious woman. This nagging creature sucks the life out of a man's soul and leaves his heart numb with pain and/or rage. There are few things that men cannot bear and that destroy the earth's peace, and this kind of a woman is one of them. Of course, she acts almost civil when dating; but once the wedding is over, her poor victim wakes up to marital hell on earth (30:21-23).