Whats the point of mariage?

[javaguru]

I'lll make this easy..I married him for his money! Kidding of course!

Most men marry for someone to take care of them, in every aspect of the meaning.Sex, clean my shitty drawers,etc.

Most women marry with the "stoopid" idea that she's found her Prince Charming.Grow up girls, Prince Charming is dead.

I married because he is someone I enjoyed being with, shared the same values,knew he'd make a great dad. I CHOSE WELL.

We none are perfect, but it takes a real man and woman to respect one another to work thru problems.

Marriage ain't easy..Nothing in life worth having is easy.

When I was married, I did my own laundry, made my own food and when we divided chores I got to clean both bathrooms and the kitchen. I got married hoping the relationship would continue as it had for the previous two years. The truism,"Men get married hoping their wife will never change and women get married hoping to change their husband." That comes from a friend who does couples counseling.

 

[Scotsman]

Frankly, it's about legality. Simplifies transfer of property, etc. in the event of one partner's death (also there's no question of where the child goes if something should happen to one of you, which might not necessarily be the case if she dies, you might have to contend with her family). Additionally, it's a break in terms of taxes, insurance, etc.

Less to do with religion than money, seriously, historically that's what it's always has been, the transfer of property to the legal offspring. Who the mother is has never been in question. That child comes out of her body. The father he has to accept the child. Marriage removed the option of him saying, "this isn't my kid." The child of the woman he was married to was legally his own, no discussion.

Great post.

Marriage is quite simply a legal contract binding two people together. Nothing more nothing less. Marriage technically has nothing to do with love, honor, respect, fidelity, etc. Those are just things that help two people stay together which doesn't take marraige to insure.

In the olden days the number one reason to get married was to merge two families together financially so that their estates would combine to make both more prosperous.

I know several people who have been together for years 20+ in some cases but have never an will never be married. They just choose to stay together and aren't in need of a legal document to aid in that.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[biteme]

For women to be able to take you to cleaners in case things don't work out.

 

[biteme]

I'lll make this easy..I married him for his money! Kidding of course!

Most men marry for someone to take care of them, in every aspect of the meaning.Sex, clean my shitty drawers,etc.

Most women marry with the "stoopid" idea that she's found her Prince Charming.Grow up girls, Prince Charming is dead.

I married because he is someone I enjoyed being with, shared the same values,knew he'd make a great dad. I CHOSE WELL.

We none are perfect, but it takes a real man and woman to respect one another to work thru problems.

Marriage ain't easy..Nothing in life worth having is easy.

I certainly wouldn't marry for someone to take care of me. Living alone is less stressful, so that's not the reason at all. At least for me and i think I speak for a lot of men. We don't care if our shit is stewed everywhere, it bothers the woman so she picks up after the man.

 

[HiDnGoD]

Lotta bitter Fockers in here. It's not the marriage per se that many women want. It's the wedding. For each other to stand up in front of friends, family, the worl, & God(if you believe), and say, "This is the one I want, above all others, & I'm gonna do my best to make them happy."
In most cases, the marriage itself can be taken care of at the local courthouse. I know of 2 couples that have had a party, with "wedding" guests" & made their vows to each other. No church involved & no legalities.

 

[georgie24]

you give the governement another way to penetrate your $$$$$$

1. divorce
2. court
3. child support
4. laywers

marriage is fucking stupid

 

[Grumpy Old Man]

Seriously, this is not a thread to bash being married, I just want to know what the point is. Is it religion more than anything? Im in a serious relationship with my girl for the past 7 years, we have a baby together, we live together and she wants to get married. Im not sure if I want to or ever will want to so Im at a crossroad. It feels like our relationship is to the point were you either split or make the next move. Not sure what to do. I also dont want to be alone when Im in my 50's neither.

If that is an option, splitting or getting married. Bro maybe rethinking those 7 years would make you figure out why you spent a week with her.

I think IMHO maybe the next step would make a commitment to her. But I am not that smart.

 

[biteme]

You don't have to be alone in your 50's just because you're not married.

 

[vixensghost]

The truism,"Men get married hoping their wife will never change and women get married hoping to change their husband." That comes from a friend who does couples counseling.

WTF? The ONLY time a woman can change a man is when he's two years old and still wearin diapers.

 

[Turd Ferguson]

Not sure I get what its all about. Not seeing the loyality anymore.