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what would you do when a relationship isn't enough?
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lartinos
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Why is this questioned linked as such between these two different scenarios. Define Lacking and also overwhelming.
calveless wonder
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these questions suck.
the scenarios and the ambiguity
the scenarios and the ambiguity
To much = a guy with a 12 inch WINKY with no personality thats great in bed.
Lacking = the 4 inch WINKY guy that is fun to be around and is everything she is looking for , however SUCKS in bed.
chris302001
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KillahBee
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titcr
both sound dumpable
To much = a guy with a 12 inch WINKY with no personality thats great in bed.
Lacking = the 4 inch WINKY guy that is fun to be around and is everything she is looking for , however SUCKS in bed.
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*ebony*
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yea they do an i suck. i dont deserve the love of a good guy. im gonna end up old and aloene with a abunch of catts. i dont know hwarts wrong with me, i just wish i cuold love him, i meaqn reallly just love him lkike he deserves.
As Clint Eastwood said, "Deserves got nothin' to do with it, (BLAM!)"
Put on your big girl panties and set him free. There's nothing wrong with you except the fact you're trying to make something out of nothing.
*ebony*
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lol, yea. just having my drunk pity thinking marathon after yet another super sweet and thoughtful thing he did for me. i wish he hadnt, but i'd be lying..kinda.
Im gonna go buy some big panties. no joke.
^^^This.
If you marry a man just because you're afraid of being alone, I guarantee you the "right" guy WILL come along, sooner or later, usually at just about the worst time possible (oh, say about a year after you've just settled on your new house and the kids are settling into their new school) and then you've got a whole world of shit on your hands.
Let love grow out of a great mutual friendship and it will take root and flourish forever.
why not just start abusing him until he lashes out and starts being a dickhead so you can finally love him?
What's to roll your eyes over? If you're marrying someone and in your heart you're thinking you're "settling" (for whatever reason), or (like Ebony said at the top) "he loves me more than I love him" then sooner or later the "real thing" will come along. Your heart just won't be completely in the relationship.
She's not talking dating, she's talking long term.
the "right guy" coming along when you have kids down the road, sounds like an attempt at rationalizing lack of devotion, integrity, and loyalty.
also "then you have a world of shit on your hands" implies that its nature to go for the exciting new thing, and ruin your family life. hopefully not everyone thinks this way.
the grass is always greener. the "right" guy is easy to find when you know you can't/don't have to be with him in the long run
Believe what you will, I can only speak from my personal experience and observations of others.
Walking down the aisle with even nagging concerns about your s/o is an enormous mistake. You think that little worry is the barest ripple in a pond. After the stressors of life begin to crowd in, that ripple turns into a full blown tsunami.
My first marriage was a very ugly mistake, the only good that came out of it was my son (who now, at age 26, will have nothing to do with his father).
Redrocker13
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BRAVO!!!! Well stated! I have heard it said that the high divorce rate isn't simply a matter of people getting out too easy. They're getting in too easy.
crew9
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There is definitely a lot of truth to that.
entering into a shitty marriage is a whole other monster.
No argument there, honey. But by the same token, never forget, I didn't walk down the aisle thinking "Oh man, this is going to be great, this marriage is gonna be a fucking train wreck!" You get married with hopes, dreams and expectations. The whole idea is to marry a person whose philosophy meshes with yours. When you've got someone whose telling you one thing and it turns out they were fudging just to make you happy, that's where things start to disintegrate.
I've seen plenty of guys on the forums who admit to telling women lies, whether to be with them, to get them in bed, or even to keep them in relationships. Then they either laugh at the woman for falling for their lines, or are confused when she finds out he lied to her and dumps him. So what happened to me isn't all that uncommon.
I fully admit I have a major personality flaw that I simply can't shake: I believe people and believe the best of them. Despite the fact I come off bitter or cynical here, the truth is, IRL, no matter how many times I've been hurt, taken advantage of and lied to, my initial instinct is still to trust
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Spartacus
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tellin' it like it is since may '03
wykedengel
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I don't claim to know you or your situation, so I won't pretend to. I will say that is sounds like you have some soul searching to do on your own. If's your BF's a great guy, yet somehow you feel you cannot reciprocate his love and affection, then you need to be honest with him.
Back in the day, folks used to "learn to love one another", those days are dead. We live in a time where frustrated folks end up doing desperate things for a variety of reasons. If you love him, and if you value him as a friend, then you owe it to him to be honest.
...with that said. Also, don't use this as a means to keep him on the back burner while you are figuring out what you want. It's not fair to either of you.
No matter what your decision, be strong of heart as you are in mind and body.
chris302001
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dear god
You sayin' Ebony's put on some weight since she entered into a relationship?
Ya but "Put on your itty bitty frillys" doesn't exactly have the same buck up and go gittum ring to it.
that's not what she said, that's what you said....You sayin' Ebony's put on some weight since she entered into a relationship?
Redrocker13
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Excellent counsel!
The posting, the thread, the relationship or life?
I'd end it. If it doesn't feel right (you start second guessing)then it's not the one for you.
If no kids are involved of course.
redshirt27se
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so he's a little bitch and you want a real man.
only you like getting your ass worshipped, so you aren't ready to leave him just yet.
only you like getting your ass worshipped, so you aren't ready to leave him just yet.
she should just string him along and break him till he becomes the asshole like i suggested earlier
