What characteristics do you prefer in a mate?

[velvett]

I dont agree with the last statement. If a man is kind, attentive and honest (perhaps I am assigning too much to responsible and loyal) then passion can not be far behind.

Or maybe I just hit the jackpot.

Well maybe you have responsible and loyal with romantic.

Lets say someone always remembers your birthday but would never buy you a card, flowers or a gift that would delight you because he/she noted it to be something you really wanted.

It's not passion it's compassion.

Passion is fleeting, compassion is continuous.

 

[jerkbox]

So.. if you make plans with this "mate" for 8 pm..and they show up at 9:30 (see: not responsible) that's exciting for you?

Or if she trash talks you behind your back/makes out with your friends? That's preferable than being with someone who isn't spontaneous?

well, i guess i'm thinking in terms of extremes here.....i'm sure there's a happy medium somewhere. what fun is a predictable relationship?

 

[coverguy]

Maybe i'm an optimist, or maybe just nieve, but i want it all. I want someone responsible and loyal, but at the same time romantic and spontaneous. They should know how to make me smile at any given moment and they should love me in a way that makes my headspin. And they should be great in bed. And like oral, cause if she isn't down for me going down ... then i can't stick around!

What do you say, Seashell?

 

[Taps]

Why do people always look for "qualities"? Why not just find someone who's company you enjoy and take it fromt there?

I mean, lets face it, you can tell if there's long term potential after about 10 minutes of initial conversation...

 

[KillahBee]

Strength, independence, common sense, the ability to take themselves out of a situation emotionally and think with rational thought. So basically, a woman that hasn't been created yet....

 

[velvett]

Why do people always look for "qualities"? Why not just find someone who's company you enjoy and take it fromt there?

I mean, lets face it, you can tell if there's long term potential after about 10 minutes of initial conversation...

Well, those are all things that you have to get to know about a person, it's not like loyal or romatic is stamped across their face.

These are characteristics that people have and these are not "qualities" like big tits, nice ass or full head of hair. No matter how you cut it "characteristics" will effect the direction and experience of your relationship no matter the person.

 

[KillahBee]

Well, those are all things that you have to get to know about a person, it's not like loyal or romatic is stamped across their face.

These are characteristics that people have and these are not "qualities" like big tits, nice ass or full head of hair. No matter how you cut it "characteristics" will effect the direction and experience of your relationship no matter the person.

Woah there cowgirl, simmer down now! Big tits and nice asses aren't "characteristics"????? WHat the hell planet are you from? Down here on earth, little lady, the bigger the jugs, the better the "character"!

 

[velvett]

Woah there cowgirl, simmer down now! Big tits and nice asses aren't "characteristics"????? WHat the hell planet are you from? Down here on earth, little lady, the bigger the jugs, the better the "character"!

LOL

 

[Taps]

Well, those are all things that you have to get to know about a person, it's not like loyal or romatic is stamped across their face.

These are characteristics that people have and these are not "qualities" like big tits, nice ass or full head of hair. No matter how you cut it "characteristics" will effect the direction and experience of your relationship no matter the person.

Good point. It seems to me though, that people tend to hurt themselves when they start looking for specific characteristics in thier partners. Saying "I'll only date someone with X, Y, and Z going for them" is just a set up for disapoinment. Enjoy people for the qualities they possess, and don't hate them for the ones they don't -- life becomes much more enjoyable.

Anyway, I'm half alseep and likely full of shit, so don't pay any attention to my blabbering.

 

[Y_lifter]

The drawback with responsible and loyal is that when you ache for that passionate moment you know it won't happen so you set yourself for dissapointment, twice, one immediate and again long term.

So then why can't the other 1/2 be passionate / spontan,
if that's THEIR nature ?