What characteristics do you prefer in a mate?

[biteme]

too bad you're not in FL.

Good luck finding that! It's a lot of what I want, too.

In other words, all of the women are after your money matt. lol
Better get a prenup.

 

[ChefWide]

I long to fill my flesh with soul, to fill my soul with flesh.
I hope to reconcile within me these two eternal antagonists.

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

In other words, all of the women are after your money matt. lol
Better get a prenup.

prenup is a must sir; not sure what that had to do with my or toga's post.

 

[biteme]

prenup is a must sir; not sure what that had to do with my or toga's post.

When women say they want a man who is driven and ambitious. What they are actually saying is, they want a man with money. I just read between the lines. I doubt they would give a shit if you had won the lottery and were not ambitious at all, as long as you have lots of that green stuff. You work 100 hrs a week you say. I would never be with a person like that because I value time spent together, but you'll find plenty of women who don't care if they see you 2 hours a week, as long as you provide them with a lavish lifestlyle.

 

[curling]

Repsonsible and loyal. Because you can have an affair with a hottie to get the wild sex. j/k

 

[toga22]

Hold on here....I would like to know where in my post I stated anything about money...

Sorry biteme...you are right, in a lot of cases, both women and men are attracted to the pocketbook of their partner, but I assure you that was not the meaning behind the post. As far a money goes in my life, I am very comfortable. And the weatlh and success of a partner is solely his, and vice versa...

What I truely meant by my post is that I am attracted to people that tackle new things, embark on new experiences, don't close their mind to the unknown... If their is a part of their life that is making them unhappy, the don't blame the past, or the people around them, or the "hand they were dealt"...they take charge of their life and change it...or accept the things in life that they can't change and happily move on....

 

[Carmen]

When women say they want a man who is driven and ambitious. What they are actually saying is, they want a man with money. I just read between the lines. I doubt they would give a shit if you had won the lottery and were not ambitious at all, as long as you have lots of that green stuff. You work 100 hrs a week you say. I would never be with a person like that because I value time spent together, but you'll find plenty of women who don't care if they see you 2 hours a week, as long as you provide them with a lavish lifestlyle.

being ambitious to me doesn't mean money hungry. it means a drive to make things good.
I'd hate to be with someone who worked all the time. but i'd hate to be with someone who was lazy with a big inheritance too.

 

[starfish]

Hold on here....I would like to know where in my post I stated anything about money...

Sorry biteme...you are right, in a lot of cases, both women and men are attracted to the pocketbook of their partner, but I assure you that was not the meaning behind the post. As far a money goes in my life, I am very comfortable. And the weatlh and success of a partner is solely his, and vice versa...

What I truely meant by my post is that I am attracted to people that tackle new things, embark on new experiences, don't close their mind to the unknown... If their is a part of their life that is making them unhappy, the don't blame the past, or the people around them, or the "hand they were dealt"...they take charge of their life and change it...or accept the things in life that they can't change and happily move on....

ditto

 

[superqt4u2nv]

All of the above and more.

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

When women say they want a man who is driven and ambitious. What they are actually saying is, they want a man with money. I just read between the lines. I doubt they would give a shit if you had won the lottery and were not ambitious at all, as long as you have lots of that green stuff. You work 100 hrs a week you say. I would never be with a person like that because I value time spent together, but you'll find plenty of women who don't care if they see you 2 hours a week, as long as you provide them with a lavish lifestlyle.

LOL. you don't have to tell me this, Homey, I live there already. I have some fun with this on dates sometimes, if I'm not too bored.


Your cynicism is rooted in a lot of truth. There's a darker side there too, men and women are both guilty of it. I call it the look up phenomenon. You get a little bit successful, get happy with it, and then you "look up". For example:

A person making $100K per year might think everything is lovely, until they walk into the world of someone who earns 20 times that. Then it's like "holy shit! I never knew this existed". Usually you get either envy or resentment. The proper response, admiration, is usually beyond what a person who is overly or inappropriately proud of themselves can feel.

That better off person might feel like they're the shit until they meet someone sitting on a $100M trust fund. I've seen this when I go to resorts sometimes; you see the doctors who really can't afford the place trying to fit in, even as their wives eye them nervously about the cost of brunch for 3 kids 5 days in a row.

What happens when you "look up" too much is you actually will lose the desire to work for to get there, as it seems unattainable. You just want to take, or marry into, the lifestyle.

It is for this reason that I can't stand a lot of "career women"; my lifestyle is unchanged by their earnings, their ambition insufferable.


toga - none of this is meant to have anything to do with you. it's just furtherance of biteme's discussion.