What characteristics do you prefer in a mate?

[Carmen]

i'm happy for you smurfy.
I'm not concerned with spontineity. If he has to plan things in advance- thats ok. i probably tend to be a thinker anyway.
loyalty should come with love- if thats not there, he's not a mate.
romance... thats something i would want. not planes flying overhead with banners but the little things that are romantic like a home cooked meal or a flower or bringing me coffee. I'd hope that if i'm with a man that knows how happy that makes me, he'd want to do those things for me.
responsiblity is a must though- someone who can hold a job, and preferably a good one- someone with morals and values and who takes care of his responsiblities.

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

Kindness. Intelligence. Sense of humor. Commitment (but not obsession) to fitness and a healthy lifestyle. Enjoyment of increasing knowledge.

 

[Werd]

Responsible and Loyal = romantic

PERIOD.

 

[-SD-]

Responsible and loyal. Because these things you cant really work on once you are with someone, either they have it or dont. Romantic and spontaneous can be faked until you actually learn it and it becomes part of you. I.E. I can fake being romantic by buying a girl flowers and fake spontanaeity by coming out of the blue and taking her to xyz place, even though I was thinking about it all day in my mind, but to her it was spontaneous.
If someone is not a responsible person it usually takes much longer to undo the thought process. Same with loyalty if someone is a serial dater like those chicks in Sex in the City, it will take a long time for them to settle down with one man, even if its just a boyfriend.

 

[velvett]

responsible and loyal

Lasts longer and is more important IMO as you grow old and deal with difficult times

I've had both types and while romantic and spontaneous is a delicious ride it never lasts the long haul and always left me empty when the rapture died.

The drawback with responsible and loyal is that when you ache for that passionate moment you know it won't happen so you set yourself for dissapointment, twice, one immediate and again long term.

 

[Werd]

The drawback with responsible and loyal is that when you ache for that passionate moment you know it won't happen so you set yourself for dissapointment, twice, one immediate and again long term.

I dont agree with the last statement. If a man is kind, attentive and honest (perhaps I am assigning too much to responsible and loyal) then passion can not be far behind.

Or maybe I just hit the jackpot.

 

[Seashell]

....but responsible and loyal sounds extremely boring....

So.. if you make plans with this "mate" for 8 pm..and they show up at 9:30 (see: not responsible) that's exciting for you?

Or if she trash talks you behind your back/makes out with your friends? That's preferable than being with someone who isn't spontaneous?

 

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[broley]

confidence, sense of humor, independence, nice pooper, and hot. 98.6 hot.

 

[biteme]

Just a sensible woman, of which there aren't very many.