To do or not to do

[fyxgel2]

Well,

It has been told to me that I focus way too much on girls, and that I should just stop focusing on girls.

What I am wondering then is what does this advice mean? It sounds like some folks, like velvett think that I shouldnt go around asking out girls, but I should rather just not think about girls, and that something will happen naturally in time maybe.

While other people are telling to saddle up grab a hold of my balls, and finally go out and start asking some girls out, even if they are ugly ones (hey asking ugly girls might build my confidence up enoguh to ask out hot girls eventually)


So should I start asking out girls finally, or should I just back off and stop thinking about the matter entirely?

 

[EnderJE]

I think they're are suggesting that you turn to guys. I hear NJ is nice...

 

[fyxgel2]

I think they're are suggesting that you turn to guys. I hear NJ is nice...

No thanks, I prefer not to take it in the butt.

 

[-SD-]

Do one or the other. Ask a girl out using all the advice given, or focus on other areas of your life. I suggest focusing on other areas of your life since judging from your weekly schedule you dont ahve much of a life to begin with, and that turns girls off.

 

[fyxgel2]

Do one or the other. Ask a girl out using all the advice given, or focus on other areas of your life. I suggest focusing on other areas of your life since judging from your weekly schedule you dont ahve much of a life to begin with, and that turns girls off.

lets get this straight. im not going to purposely improve my life, just so that girls find me more attractive. I'm going to improve my life for me, because I want to, not to impress some woman.

I think for now the plan is to ask out girls, as the desperate loser that I am, and eventually if that continues to fail, then I will give up and focus my energies on some other part of life.

 

[-SD-]

lets get this straight. im not going to purposely improve my life, just so that girls find me more attractive. I'm going to improve my life for me, because I want to, not to impress some woman.

I think for now the plan is to ask out girls, as the desperate loser that I am, and eventually if that continues to fail, then I will give up and focus my energies on some other part of life.

How about you get this straight. Ever since youve been on EF all you post about is your desire to obtain a girl or dates and meaningful relationships with girls. In order for you to do that you have to take certain steps in your life, the most important being improving your life if you have no life, which you currently dont have a life since you posted your pathetic schedule up here.
Lets review:
1. You have a great desire to have a good relationship/gain experience with girls.
2. You make the necessary changes and take the necessary steps in
your life in order put you on the path to achieving the above in #1.

You cant have it both ways by now saying you "wont change just for some girl".

 

[Scotsman]

Do what makes you happy. If you aren't comfortable and happy in your life no one else is going to like it either.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[fyxgel2]

How about you get this straight. Ever since youve been on EF all you post about is your desire to obtain a girl or dates and meaningful relationships with girls. In order for you to do that you have to take certain steps in your life, the most important being improving your life if you have no life, which you currently dont have a life since you posted your pathetic schedule up here.
Lets review:
1. You have a great desire to have a good relationship/gain experience with girls.
2. You make the necessary changes and take the necessary steps in
your life in order put you on the path to achieving the above in #1.

You cant have it both ways by now saying you "wont change just for some girl".

I believe I can find a girl out there who I like and who likes me the way that I am, if I look hard enough.
I will at least give it a good try to find a woman like this before I give up. If I cant find a woman like this, than oh well, I will just be celibate.

Better to be celibate than to be someone you are not, just so that some girl likes you.

 

[-SD-]

I believe I can find a girl out there who I like and who likes me the way that I am, if I look hard enough.
I will at least give it a good try to find a woman like this before I give up. If I cant find a woman like this, than oh well, I will just be celibate.

Better to be celibate than to be someone you are not, just so that some girl likes you.

Why the fuck didnt you figure that out months ago before you got on EF and did a total fucking brain dump on us?

 

[bran987]

he should either be banned or get a free lifetime platship, I can't decide.

 

[fyxgel2]

Why the fuck didnt you figure that out months ago before you got on EF and did a total fucking brain dump on us?

because I am stupid, and didnt realize that until now.

 

[-SD-]

because I am stupid, and didnt realize that until now.

Ahhhh, but we recognized it long ago, back in your p60 days.

 

[bran987]

Why the fuck didnt you figure that out months ago before you got on EF and did a total fucking brain dump on us?

don't worry, he will have forgotten again by tomorrow... a black hole has no end and no beginning...

 

[awittyusername]

he should either be banned or get a free lifetime platship, I can't decide.

ditto.

I can honestly say that one of my favorite things in life to do is to help younger guys get girls by giving advice that I have learned the hard way for over 20yrs. I was shocked that there was so mant other guys here who actally cared and gave the same great advice. But, flxygel drives me F-N crazy. Just when you think he is starting to listen to the same great advice from superdave, BBF, bran, and everyone. He posts up the same thing. I can't take it anymore.

 

[PHATchik]

Become a monk. Enough said.

 

[EnderJE]

Become a monk. Enough said.

Think of it this way. You can roam the lands with an eagle and a snake burned into your forecarms and do good all over. Then, years from now, a shitty director will pick you up for this movie...

 

[PHATchik]

Think of it this way. You can roam the lands with an eagle and a snake burned into your forecarms and do good all over. Then, years from now, a shitty director will pick you up for this movie...

To each his own.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

No thanks, I prefer not to take it in the butt.

Well, sometimes you have to make sacrifices for your partner. Anywho you don't have to be a bottom every time. You probably are gay though, considereding you can't even ask a girl out on a date, and have already said over and over that you don't want ot have sex with them, Fucktard.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

Hello, no-hoper

So should I start asking out girls finally, or should I just back off and stop thinking about the matter entirely?

OMG...back off and call a time-out.
You're young, you're not gonna grow old and
die alone tommorow. Clear your head and lighten up.

Don't post another thread like this for atleast 2 weeks.
You're becoming a nuisance to this board.

 

[string_bean00]

Dude, grow some fucking goddamn balls already and if you post one more thread like this I will skin your ass.

 

[Subzeero]

Three things bud:

-U can't do without balls.
-Throw the heart in the garbage and turn mind off. Start thinking with penis.
-U are not obligated to have a GF. Being single and one night stands is the new trend in town. And work on that body too.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

i think what velvett et al meant when they said dont think about it, is that you DWELL on getting girls, and think about it TOO FUCKING MUCH

you do realise that there is more to life than getting laid and having girlfriends?

it could be that your problem is that you are so focussed on getting girls that its turning you into a VERY BORING PERSON

its not about having balls to talk to girls etc etc, imo its just that youre an unattractive, unbalanced person. youre not ugly, but your desperation is bloody offputting.

whats going to happen when you finally do get a girlfriend? (hey, Jesus walked on water. its possible youll get a girl. one day. maybe. when all the devils in hell wear their jumpers) what the hell are you going to talk about? how to get more girls?

ive thought long and hard fyxgel, but what i think you need more than anything is a 50 bag of really, really good weed.

cheeeeeeeeeeeeeeers

 

[fyxgel2]

i think what velvett et al meant when they said dont think about it, is that you DWELL on getting girls, and think about it TOO FUCKING MUCH

you do realise that there is more to life than getting laid and having girlfriends?

it could be that your problem is that you are so focussed on getting girls that its turning you into a VERY BORING PERSON

its not about having balls to talk to girls etc etc, imo its just that youre an unattractive, unbalanced person. youre not ugly, but your desperation is bloody offputting.

whats going to happen when you finally do get a girlfriend? (hey, Jesus walked on water. its possible youll get a girl. one day. maybe. when all the devils in hell wear their jumpers) what the hell are you going to talk about? how to get more girls?

ive thought long and hard fyxgel, but what i think you need more than anything is a 50 bag of really, really good weed.

cheeeeeeeeeeeeeeers

look fellow,

There isn't any more to life, than getting laid and having girlfriends, unless you believe in giving back to the world, doing volunteer work, charity, or some other crap like that.

I know I think about it a lot. And I think its unfortunate that girls aint down for a guy who has a healthy amount of testosterone in him.


And by the way, what the hell are you saying in that it ISNT about having the balls to go up and talk to girls?!?

Everyone who follows my threads knows that this is something that I have been struggling with, the problem of not approaching girls, and this is most likely the biggest reason behind my lack of success. Therefore I want to work on this problem first.

If I find out that even after approaching 100 women, that I still am a boring dweeb and that none of them will like me until I have more for me going on in my life, then I will give up on women temporarily and pursue other things.

I suppose if I was exciting and had a life, maybe, just maybe some chick would have asked me out by now (without me having to do anything) but usually that isnt how it works.

Therefore I think you have isolated the wrong problem buddy.

 

[bran987]

look fellow,

There isn't any more to life, than getting laid and having girlfriends, unless you believe in giving back to the world, doing volunteer work, charity, or some other crap like that.

this statement doesn't really go along with your super christian 'values' does it?

 

[fyxgel2]

this statement doesn't really go along with your super christian 'values' does it?

Of course not. But then again, hardly any people live that way (the perfect self sacrificing, giving away, life) so why should I be expected to live that way?

Its not easy to go on living, not caring at all about your own wants, and putting them aside to accomplish a greater purpose.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

look fellow,

There isn't any more to life, than getting laid and having girlfriends, unless you believe in giving back to the world, doing volunteer work, charity, or some other crap like that.

I know I think about it a lot. And I think its unfortunate that girls aint down for a guy who has a healthy amount of testosterone in him.


And by the way, what the hell are you saying in that it ISNT about having the balls to go up and talk to girls?!?

Everyone who follows my threads knows that this is something that I have been struggling with, the problem of not approaching girls, and this is most likely the biggest reason behind my lack of success. Therefore I want to work on this problem first.

If I find out that even after approaching 100 women, that I still am a boring dweeb and that none of them will like me until I have more for me going on in my life, then I will give up on women temporarily and pursue other things.

I suppose if I was exciting and had a life, maybe, just maybe some chick would have asked me out by now (without me having to do anything) but usually that isnt how it works.

Therefore I think you have isolated the wrong problem buddy.

i you werent so earnest i would flame you to a crisp for your threads, i swear sometimes

disclaimer: im about to waste a few minutes of my life. youre just not going to listen anyway, but ok, fuckit, why not.

look. there is more to life than women and sex. theres this really important word taht you need to focus on, and that word is FUN. you know, fun? have fun, its fun! make it so that others have fun around you, thats fun too!

fun is a huge element of ATTRACTION. you ahve to focus on this word too. attraction isnt all about looks, it isnt all about money, or going places and all that crap - a lot of it is sheer sex drive, sure, but a lot more of it is about making people comfortable, and having fun, particularly in a sexy way. think dancing. kissing. fondling. its all about having fun.

now. i see you as one of those guys who sits back and WATCHES everyone, listens and remembers everything, overanalyses everything etc etc...quite frankly people like that make me uncomfortable. they make a lot of the women i know feel creeped out. quite frankly youre dwelling on all this girlfriend shit and its making you a lot less fun to be around than if you, say, chilled the fuck out. with that hig quality weed i was talking about, for example.

obviously going up the girls is important since getting with people is dependent on proximity and opportunity, but still - this overanalysing, severe, critical frame of mind youre in is not making you attractive, imo. i saw your pic, youre a good looking guy...just chill out, and instead of focusing on how to get a woman into bed or "be your girlfriend" or whatever youre dwelling on, concentrate more on being a more easygoing, fun person to be around.

DONT make people feel bad with all this christian, holier than thou morality bullshit, DONT make girls feel bad by demanding that they speak the truth (you know the thread im talking about...you probably made her feel uncomfy), DONT pressure people to invite you places (even if they submit to it, youre not going to have a lot of fun, or be a lot of fun in an unwelcome atmosphere) DONT hassle people for company or bombard them with emails etc, and DONT act different to people because they are more/less hot than the girl standing next to them.

all of these things are thing you ahve spoken about in your threads, and each situation is a tad unpleasant, particularly for the girl. definitley not fun. definitely not conductive to attraction. despite the opportunity and proximity.

do all the things you like that DONT have to do with sex, have fun on your own, and incorperate people into your world- chat to them, tell them about your day, ask about theirs, crack a joke or 3, give a compliment or 2, DONT voice any harsh opinions about the things they did in their day, make a joke out of it instead (i can soo see you preaching to people)...you know...socialise, be pleasant to be around....but be yourself at the same time. if you ever ask yourself "what would BBF do?" then find a hammer and smash yourself in the testicles a few times, just for me.

theres a lot of different ways to get girls fyxgel, but i think you need to focus a bit more on getting some friends, learning how to socialise, be fun and have fun in a social setting, and generally find some balance in your life.

else you just aint going to get laid, and youll keep on posting f&*^ing threads

you ballbreaker

 

[fyxgel2]

Okay, so how about if I stop analyzing and shit, and just start asking girls out?

goldendelicious, your advice is good and all, but just remember:
I wont change myself in order to make others like me more, but I will change myself in order to make myself more pleasing to others. I think it is good to make this distinction.
Its good to be accomodating.

Some people dont have much to offer socially (like me) other people do have a lot to offer socially.

I will try to make friends, as I am sure that God did not just put me in this Earth to live in a shack and analyze everything about life.

I think one important thing for me to keep in mind though is to avoid unwelcoming crowds, like what you mentioned above. Some times I am persistent and invite myself places, and that isnt a good thing.

In any case though, I think I still definately need to take risks, and ask out girls.

Here's basically what I think:

No matter how many friends I have, no matter how fun to be around I am, or no matter how many hobbies I have, or clubs I am in, or goodlooking I am, etc. etc. etc.
--None of it will matter if I dont learn to take any risks and ask some girls out every now and then.

You have to make opportunity happen. It doesnt just come to you.

 

[-SD-]

Im think Im just going to set phaser to "FUCKTARD" mode from now on.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Okay, so how about if I stop analyzing and shit, and just start asking girls out?

In any case though, I think I still definately need to take risks, and ask out girls.

Here's basically what I think:

No matter how many friends I have, no matter how fun to be around I am, or no matter how many hobbies I have, or clubs I am in, or goodlooking I am, etc. etc. etc.
--None of it will matter if I dont learn to take any risks and ask some girls out every now and then.

You have to make opportunity happen. It doesnt just come to you.

Whatever fucktard...tomarrow you will be like, "Oh I was going to ask Andrea for her number...but I got scared... and i realized that maybe she might not like me and she might think I'm a loser and I started hyperventelating, because I am a scared little bitch..."

I'll believe it when I see it, orb. Seriously, being a bottom as not as bad as some thing from what I hear. Just use lots of lube.

 

[Taps]

Foxy, I really want to write you off as a bitter, psychotic, fucktard loser with no social skills what-so-ever....

But, then I remember back to how I was when I was a kid, and I was about a billion times worse than you. Girls scared the living shit out of me, heck everything scared me. I grew out of it and so will you.

In 5 years, you'll look back and laugh at what an idiot you were.

 

[jackangel]

But, then I remember back to how I was when I was a kid, and I was about a billion times worse than you.

not possible. just, no.

In 5 years, you'll look back and laugh at what an idiot you were.

luckily we don't have to wait 5 years.

fyxgel2, is there a single question you ask (in earnest) on this thread, that you haven't asked before?

is there really anything left to be said, that doesn't involve serious repetition? everything gets old, even amusements like you. sure, you'll get a few dumbasses to keep helping you in the same way, over and over. but as for the rest...well, the boy who cried wolf ain't got shit on you. no more useful advice, or kind attention.

if you really believe that the pursuit of girls is the only worthwhile thing this world has to offer, then you are worthless. you are a complete nothing. even less than an alter, which you probably are.

if you keep up like this, you might just annoy enough people to get redded out of existence.

 

[Miss24k]

Damn you're pathetic.... go rent a hooker already.

 

[velvett]

What I am wondering then is what does this advice mean? It sounds like some folks, like velvett think that I shouldnt go around asking out girls, but I should rather just not think about girls, and that something will happen naturally in time maybe.

You should be more comfortable with being you and what you have to offer, if you were already you'd be confident enough to ask girls out and be able to handle any unexpected outcome. (JMO)

You can think and ask all you want but you are so obsessed with it that girls will not see you, your interest, they will only see your somewhat irrational (please don't take that as hurtful - I really would like to see you overcome this) and desparate view of needing a woman in your life. If you really feel that you are up to it, you could practice asking girls out some you can deal with an interested girl and an uninterested girl.

It's very much like women near or in their 30's that become obsessed about getting married and making babies. They will hook up with any man that is will and able regardless of their compatibility.

 

[B0ARDIN087]

plz stop.

 

[bran987]

plz stop.

hey did your high school board ever get going ?

can you adopt him, he needs some high school chicks to practice on

high school chicks always want college guys

 

[crew9]

Okay, so how about if I stop analyzing and shit, and just start asking girls out?

goldendelicious, your advice is good and all, but just remember:
I wont change myself in order to make others like me more, but I will change myself in order to make myself more pleasing to others. I think it is good to make this distinction.
Its good to be accomodating.

Some people dont have much to offer socially (like me) other people do have a lot to offer socially.

I will try to make friends, as I am sure that God did not just put me in this Earth to live in a shack and analyze everything about life.

I think one important thing for me to keep in mind though is to avoid unwelcoming crowds, like what you mentioned above. Some times I am persistent and invite myself places, and that isnt a good thing.

In any case though, I think I still definately need to take risks, and ask out girls.

Here's basically what I think:

No matter how many friends I have, no matter how fun to be around I am, or no matter how many hobbies I have, or clubs I am in, or goodlooking I am, etc. etc. etc.
--None of it will matter if I dont learn to take any risks and ask some girls out every now and then.

You have to make opportunity happen. It doesnt just come to you.

JUST SHUT UP ALREADY. You aren't going to ask a girl out tomorrow or the day after. What you are going to do is make a thread wondering whether or not you should follow the advice of this board. In the post you'll probably mention how you don't want to change for girls, and how there is nothing more to life than getting girls etc. Why do I know this because this is like the 2nd freaking almost identical post on the same subject in like 4 days. I'm a laid back guy, a little too laid back at times, but you seriously are blowing my freaking mind. I don't understand how you can exist. I mean seriously.

 

[B0ARDIN087]

hey did your high school board ever get going ?

can you adopt him, he needs some high school chicks to practice on

high school chicks always want college guys

the lady in my profile is for you.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

forget about the weed. go straight for the morph

 

[Deleted member 33117]

JUST SHUT UP ALREADY. You aren't going to ask a girl out tomorrow or the day after. What you are going to do is make a thread wondering whether or not you should follow the advice of this board. In the post you'll probably mention how you don't want to change for girls, and how there is nothing more to life than getting girls etc. Why do I know this because this is like the 2nd freaking almost identical post on the same subject in like 4 days. I'm a laid back guy, a little too laid back at times, but you seriously are blowing my freaking mind. I don't understand how you can exist. I mean seriously.

Good call. Wow..where did you get your mystical prophetic powers????

 

[RADAR]

This is better than soap opras! Stay tuned tomorrow and see what happens!


LMAO!
RADAR

 

[awittyusername]

It's very much like women near or in their 30's that become obsessed about getting married and making babies. They will hook up with any man that is will and able regardless of their compatibility.

Yes!!!!!!!

flexgel, you remind me of girls aged 25 to 30 that havent been married. All they want to do is get married and have kids. I can smell the despartation on them. At first it is nice to get attention from them. But, it soon becomes obivious they don't really love me or whatever. They just think my face would look good in a wedding pic, so they can move their ass into my house. I know how the chicks you talk to must feel like. They can just tell you just want a good looking chick! I know this sounds gieh. But, I want a girl to love me want to marry me. Not just get married. I guess I want to feel special.


Oh, screw it. It's just easier to bang sluts and fat chicks

 

[crew9]

Yes!!!!!!!

flexgel, you remind me of girls aged 25 to 30 that havent been married. All they want to do is get married and have kids. I can smell the despartation on them. At first it is nice to get attention from them. But, it soon becomes obivious they don't really love me or whatever. They just think my face would look good in a wedding pic, so they can move their ass into my house. I know how the chicks you talk to must feel like. They can just tell you just want a good looking chick! I know this sounds gieh. But, I want a girl to love me want to marry me. Not just get married. I guess I want to feel special.


Oh, screw it. It's just easier to bang sluts and fat chicks

I was with ya until the fat chicks part

 

[fyxgel2]

I think I get it now.

What you guys are telling me is that there is no chance in hell that I am going to be able to hook up with any worthwhile girl, if I am as desperate about this as I am.

Right now I need to get myself to be less focused on girls. To only think about this subject as much as it deserves to be thought about (way less than what I am doing)

What I dont get is how one can eventually find a woman, if they arent allowed to think about women very much. It would seem like the more you are allowed to think about women, the quicker you would fine one.

I guess this whole thing is a lot more counterintuitive than I would expect. In order to have a chance at getting a woman, you guys are saying that I need to think about women less.

Its kind of freaky, because by not thinking about women as much, I feel like as if I will have less of a chance of finding one.
But ironically I have more of a chance, because I'm not as desperate or as focused on it.

But its still scary to think about the fact that I might not get a woman, regardless of what I do or dont do.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

I think I get it now.

What you guys are telling me is that there is no chance in hell that I am going to be able to hook up with any worthwhile girl, if I am as desperate about this as I am.

Right now I need to get myself to be less focused on girls. To only think about this subject as much as it deserves to be thought about (way less than what I am doing)

What I dont get is how one can eventually find a woman, if they arent allowed to think about women very much. It would seem like the more you are allowed to think about women, the quicker you would fine one.

I guess this whole thing is a lot more counterintuitive than I would expect. In order to have a chance at getting a woman, you guys are saying that I need to think about women less.

Its kind of freaky, because by not thinking about women as much, I feel like as if I will have less of a chance of finding one.
But ironically I have more of a chance, because I'm not as desperate or as focused on it.

But its still scary to think about the fact that I might not get a woman, regardless of what I do or dont do.

No, we are telling you to just date and have fun and not worry about finding a worthwhile woman yet. Just have a good time, and build up your confidence by just dating girls that are "ok", not "great". Play the numbers game. And since they are just average girls, who cares if you mess up? You can just get another one. In the mean timeyou are learning skills about dealing with girls, dating and building up your confidence.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Damnit! I am such a tool! I can't believe I just replied to fag-boy Fucktard's thread with real advice. It isn't like he is going to take it. Its just a matter of time before he realizes he is gay anyways....

 

[fyxgel2]

Damnit! I am such a tool! I can't believe I just replied to fag-boy Fucktard's thread with real advice. It isn't like he is going to take it. Its just a matter of time before he realizes he is gay anyways....

what the hell do you expect? velvett is giving me the exact opposite advice that you are giving me. and so are others too.

You want me to get all gung ho about asking out girls and all, and everyone else is telling me to lay off, and do something else with my life...

geez, would everyone just quit fucking confusing me?!?!?

 

[jackangel]

lol this is awesome. i was just thinking about how much he's written on EF, and how little he's actually tried to do.

fyxgel2, just to clarify (i hate to see an alter confused): whether you spend all day thinking about girls, or not at all, you still have to do two things if you want to go out with girls...one, actually ask some of them out...and two, come across as nice and normal (or sane, at the very least).

i suppose that most of the advice you've received thus far is in accord with those two 'tasks', even if it may not seem like it in some instances.

 

[-SD-]

what the hell do you expect? velvett is giving me the exact opposite advice that you are giving me. and so are others too.

You want me to get all gung ho about asking out girls and all, and everyone else is telling me to lay off, and do something else with my life...

geez, would everyone just quit fucking confusing me?!?!?

The things velvett are telling you are great also, but its a little more difficult for someone like you to be receptive to those things. Ask a man who has a lot of experience with women and is succesful with them.

 

[bran987]

fuck, I keep replying to this fucking god damn shit.

you don't know the freedom I felt the day I gave up replying

I felt a huge burden lifted from my shoulders, an extra spring in my step, a renewed vigor for life!

 

[-SD-]

you don't know the freedom I felt the day I gave up replying

I felt a huge burden lifted from my shoulders, an extra spring in my step, a renewed vigor for life!

In that case you must have extra time and energy to reply to my PM

 

[fyxgel2]

Here is the plan people. I am going to focus on women... just not to the extreme,

but before I go around and get all lovey dovey over a woman, I am going to make sure that I a) like her personality and b) that we have something in common first.

This means I will find a hobby before I begin pursuing women. That way I am actually worth something.

Secondly, I am not going to be too too forward with girls. I will ask them out, yes, but I will not do so in a way that startles them or freaks them out. I am going to attempt to be an extrovert.
Thirdly, I am not going to be desperate and long for having just a woman in general. I am going to make sure that I have nice and specific standards (but not too high), so that the women I am going after don't just think that they are tools to satisfy my selfish desires, but that instead they rather feel special.

And before I am going to go ask any girls out, I am going to develop a hobby that i know that some girls will dig as well, and that way I'll have something to relate with them by.

I dont know, do you guys think I should make it a requirement that I have a hobby or something in common with a girl, before I really start hanging out with her too much? Isnt it basically a requirement that you have something in common with a girl in order for you two to be in a successful relationship?

And remember folks, I could care less about getting play. (i know BBF u probably dont understand me) Really right now all I want is a fun woman to hang around with, that I can refer to as my girlfriend.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Here is the plan people. I am going to focus on women... just not to the extreme,

but before I go around and get all lovey dovey over a woman, I am going to make sure that I a) like her personality and b) that we have something in common first.

This means I will find a hobby before I begin pursuing women. That way I am actually worth something.

Secondly, I am not going to be too too forward with girls. I will ask them out, yes, but I will not do so in a way that startles them or freaks them out. I am going to attempt to be an extrovert.
Thirdly, I am not going to be desperate and long for having just a woman in general. I am going to make sure that I have nice and specific standards (but not too high), so that the women I am going after don't just think that they are tools to satisfy my selfish desires, but that instead they rather feel special.

And before I am going to go ask any girls out, I am going to develop a hobby that i know that some girls will dig as well, and that way I'll have something to relate with them by.

I dont know, do you guys think I should make it a requirement that I have a hobby or something in common with a girl, before I really start hanging out with her too much? Isnt it basically a requirement that you have something in common with a girl in order for you two to be in a successful relationship?

And remember folks, I could care less about getting play. (i know BBF u probably dont understand me) Really right now all I want is a fun woman to hang around with, that I can refer to as my girlfriend.

Oh I understand you and it sounds like a good plan...IF YOU FUCKING DO IT. However if you have not had sex with a girl, she is NOT your girlfriend IMO. A girlfriend is an exclusive sexual relationship.

 

[-SD-]

Here is the plan people. I am going to focus on women... just not to the extreme,

but before I go around and get all lovey dovey over a woman, I am going to make sure that I a) like her personality and b) that we have something in common first.

This means I will find a hobby before I begin pursuing women. That way I am actually worth something.

Secondly, I am not going to be too too forward with girls. I will ask them out, yes, but I will not do so in a way that startles them or freaks them out. I am going to attempt to be an extrovert.
Thirdly, I am not going to be desperate and long for having just a woman in general. I am going to make sure that I have nice and specific standards (but not too high), so that the women I am going after don't just think that they are tools to satisfy my selfish desires, but that instead they rather feel special.

And before I am going to go ask any girls out, I am going to develop a hobby that i know that some girls will dig as well, and that way I'll have something to relate with them by.

I dont know, do you guys think I should make it a requirement that I have a hobby or something in common with a girl, before I really start hanging out with her too much? Isnt it basically a requirement that you have something in common with a girl in order for you two to be in a successful relationship?

And remember folks, I could care less about getting play. (i know BBF u probably dont understand me) Really right now all I want is a fun woman to hang around with, that I can refer to as my girlfriend.

Ive been giving you the benefit of the doubt for a long time. But at this point you just need to forget about women for about 3 years and focus on yourself.

 

[fyxgel2]

Ive been giving you the benefit of the doubt for a long time. But at this point you just need to forget about women for about 3 years and focus on yourself.

no dates for three years? I know I'm not supposed to focus on women, but dont you think this is a little absurd?

 

[velvett]

If you want advice about women, dont ask a fucking woman because rarely do they know what they want. Ask a man who has a lot of experience with women and is succesful with them..

LOL

I've given you a shitload of advice and I wanted to be a nasty bitch I would remind you that some of your experiences *cough* would be advice as what NOT TO DO, but I like you so I won't go there.

You can't successfully give advice to someone that doesn't want it because they are not ready to take it or they will continue to ask for advice until they get the advice they want to hear.

 

[fyxgel2]

LOL

I've given you a shitload of advice and I wanted to be a nasty bitch I would remind you that some of your experiences *cough* would be advice as what NOT TO DO, but I like you so I won't go there.

You can't successfully give advice to someone that doesn't want it because they are not ready to take it or they will continue to ask for advice until they get the advice they want to hear.

so velvett, a couple questions.

Although I shouldnt be obsessed about girls and thinking about them all the time, is it still okay to ask a few out?

Secondly, is it required that you have to have something in common with the girl, in order for the relationship to work out? (i know a relationship is a long ways down the road for me, but I'm still curious)

 

[jackangel]

as others have suggested, you definitely need to smoke weed. it will give you something to do with some of your time. it will most likely make at least a few things enjoyable enough so that you don't obssess over girls, etc. as much. and since you're already a bum with little motivation, it won't ruin your plans of world domination. of course, it probably won't help you get much done, either.

but at least it's fun. and you don't have to talk to it. and it won't ever reject you. and so on...

 

[RADAR]

When!Oh When ,will it all end!



RADAR

 

[fyxgel2]

When!Oh When ,will it all end!

RADAR

Not until velvett or someone else answers these 2 questions:

1. Although I shouldnt be obsessed about girls and thinking about them all the time, is it still okay to ask a few out?

2. Secondly, is it required that you have to have something in common with the girl, in order for the relationship to work out? (i know a relationship is a long ways down the road for me, but I'm still curious)


PS: and that is only when this 'thread' will end. if you want the wining of fyxgel2 to stop, this probably wont happen completely until he gets a girlfriend.
So you guys better start praying...

 

[bran987]

I love it how after 3 months of us telling him to ask girls out, and then finally saying maybe you should chill out for awhile, now he wants to know if it's OK if he can ask a girl out
it's just so great

 

[fyxgel2]

I love it how after 3 months of us telling him to ask girls out, and then finally saying maybe you should chill out for awhile, now he wants to know if it's OK if he can ask a girl out
it's just so great

fine so it was a stupid question to ask.

you still havent answered my question about the "having stuff in common" requirement.

 

[-SD-]

LOL

I've given you a shitload of advice and I wanted to be a nasty bitch I would remind you that some of your experiences *cough* would be advice as what NOT TO DO, but I like you so I won't go there.

You can't successfully give advice to someone that doesn't want it because they are not ready to take it or they will continue to ask for advice until they get the advice they want to hear.

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[fyxgel2]

Alright guys, I've decided have all the answers that I am looking for, within my own head.

I need to stop bugging people for answers and advice, and need to think on my own more. I got my stuff figured out for now...


I have a few goals right now, during this year, which I know are possible for me to accomplish:
1) to find a group of friends here.
2) to find a woman (whether it be on campus or someplace aside)

I know that it is possible for me to accomplish these goals, provided I put in the time and effort to do so.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

You can't successfully give advice to someone that doesn't want it because they are not ready to take it or they will continue to ask for advice until they get the advice they want to hear.

 

[crew9]

^^^^^

 

[RADAR]

Alright guys, I've decided have all the answers that I am looking for, within my own head.
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Um! Better load that to your hard drive or you'll be asking these same questions tomorrow.

RADAR

 

[velvett]

so velvett, a couple questions.

Although I shouldnt be obsessed about girls and thinking about them all the time, is it still okay to ask a few out?

Secondly, is it required that you have to have something in common with the girl, in order for the relationship to work out? (i know a relationship is a long ways down the road for me, but I'm still curious)

The more you ask them out the less you will obsess - but if you don't actually ask them out not just think about it. If you're not gonna jump right into it 100% don't bother.

It is helpful to have some common interest - ANYTHING - something that you could say (other than, "yo, wanna fuck?") that will help create the start of conversation with each other. Some people might not agree but in my personal observations and experience couples need something that they share interest in, even if it's just a similiar lifestyle.