This is what my ex told me... decipher please

[nangiggles]

She wants to sleep with someone else (convinced she will be over you if she does this) and not have you date or see anyone in the meantime, so pretty much she wants someone better but wants you to hang around in the mean time... you are only hurting her by staying close and she's beeing needy which will make you snap and hurt her more, keep in touch online and that's it, no more drama, calls, texts, visits, etc.

 

[deco]

She's so clingy and needy you have very little respect for her (which probably contributed to why you cheated on her to begin with). How can you be friends with someone you don't respect? And the whole lovers into friends doesn't work nearly 90% of the time (IRL) anyway.

Tell the girl you have enough friends and she needs to respect herself enough to want to have a better class of man in her life, i.e., not you. Might just shock her into thinking about getting her head screwed on straight

I've told her that. There are things that I know i can't change about myself that I know she doesn't like. Like showing my emotions and being touchy touchy. I don't like it and it will not change anytime soon, and to fake it would be stupid.
However I did stop getting drunk with friends on the weekends for past several months and started concentrating on my job (neither of which she believed would happen). Maybe that's why shes trying to hang on.
Cheating happened maybe once or twice with me not being the instigator. But it did involve me being extremely intoxicated to get myself out of the situation. There was a video my friend sent to her by accident where I was kissing some girl when I was blacked out. However, I never went behind her back to date someone or pull off some shisty shit. Just stupid shit that happened shortly after college and while in college.
Anyway, I'm at a point where there isnt anything she can do to hurt my feelings here so I really don't care what she does.

 

[trex74]

I've told her that. There are things that I know i can't change about myself that I know she doesn't like. Like showing my emotions and being touchy touchy. I don't like it and it will not change anytime soon, and to fake it would be stupid.
However I did stop getting drunk with friends on the weekends for past several months and started concentrating on my job (neither of which she believed would happen). Maybe that's why shes trying to hang on.
Cheating happened maybe once or twice with me not being the instigator. But it did involve me being extremely intoxicated to get myself out of the situation. There was a video my friend sent to her by accident where I was kissing some girl when I was blacked out. However, I never went behind her back to date someone or pull off some shisty shit. Just stupid shit that happened shortly after college and while in college.
Anyway, I'm at a point where there isnt anything she can do to hurt my feelings here so I really don't care what she does.

Don't ever change who you are for somebody else.
Regardless of what happened in the past, who cheated on who, forget it, it's over.
Sounds like you need some space...

 

[the_clockwork]

That sensitivity class has been a godsend for you.

has it really be showing? Good

spent $4000 on that class

 

[AztecWarrior]

Let a ho, go.

 

[SpyWizard]

you need to use her as a booty call, she needs to be hurt and to hate you.. You can do it the way i used to do it.. ignore them.. they go away ...

eventually

 

[ortiz34]

Spend some time away, see if it helps

 

[AztecWarrior]

you need to use her as a booty call, she needs to be hurt and to hate you.. You can do it the way i used to do it.. ignore them.. they go away ...

eventually

Of course that dosen't always work. In my case anyway.

 

[deco]

in my case it used to work and then she understood that it's not good cause after she got boned she wouldnt be able to hold her ground anymore. Also the fact that shes about 2000 miles away right now kind of makes it hard.